Need help, support, advice, pleeease...

samandlucysmum
samandlucysmum Posts: 320
in Motivation and Support
I am really struggling at the moment, stress is making it really hard to make the right food choices, I tend to head straight for the bread cupboard, and the fridge for cheese. I am drinking, probably, at the most, 3 cups of tea/coffe a day, no other liquids.

I know how to do it, but am really struggling to find structure in what I am doing.

I am thinking of re-joining weightwatchers, fot the structure, and more accountability due to the weekly weigh ins, although every one says a well done on here at a loss, it sometimes can sound better coming from someone in front of you, and also if there is no loss, or a gain, then they give you kida a kick up the butt. I am also going to see the doc about going on some anti depressants or something, anything to help me control my stress which in turn will allow me to concentrate on what I am eating.

I am no willing to give up my fight, but everyday is an uphill struggle, with no real support, I have no friends other than on MFP, and no family near, and my family at home are no real support.

HELP, HELP, HELP, HELP, HELP.

:sad: :cry:

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  • WaterBunnie
    WaterBunnie Posts: 1,371 Member
    Hi. I'm so sorry to read you are struggling. I'm very lucky that my boyfriend is also losing weight on this site too so he's up for healthy eating and exercising when we see each other, but if your partner doesn't need to lose weight it must be very difficult to get the support you need. I think your first job is to identify what is causing your stress and work on that. Your doctor may suggest a counsellor which could help you to find a solution. Friends in your local area may be an easy one to solve, there may well be members on here who live close enough to you to walk with you or meet up from time to time but the internet will throw out some friendship sites and you may find support through Mums networks. Your doctor may also know of some groups that'll fit in with childcare responsibilities. Exercise classes also give great access to like-minded people you could become friendly with. As for dieting, you need to get your head in the right place before you can stick with something so time consuming but if classes like WeightWatchers have worked for you in the past then it might be worth giving a go. Personally I can't get on with having to convert foods into points/syns etc when following calories seems so much simpler since the calculations are always available but you would get good advice about what kinds of foods you should be eating.
  • Cruz2Fit
    Cruz2Fit Posts: 159 Member
    Hey, I'm sorry things are sh1tty right now. I'm in the same boat. I did well for a while (I mean REALLY well) but I just started to fall off the wagon in the last week or so. If WW helps you, then join! Good luck and feel free to friend me, if you like. I'm a ball of depression right now, but most of the time I'm very positive, I hike, spin, and eat somewhat healthy. ;-)
  • cassmonster
    cassmonster Posts: 58 Member
    sorry to hear you are struggling! There are so many things that can de-rail success (for me its running my 3 kids to all activites and sports and no time to do much else after work!). But, take a step back and realize how far you have come!! Do you bleong to a gym? Find people who go at same time or have same interests etc....strike up a conversation! Making "new" friends as an adult is hard.....I agree!! Feel free to add me and GOOD LUCK!! You can do this!!!
  • mrsmel55
    mrsmel55 Posts: 168
    Please just dpn't give up! It so hard, I know. I have been fighting it all my life. Get a hold of it while you are young and it will be easier to maintain. New habits become old habits. Try anything and everything you have to to do this for you. I know you have been doing more physically and are concious of the need for exercise. Make up your mind to drink more water. Ask your hubby to help you. Ask the children to help you. If you make it interesting for them they will help you and remind you and irritate you into drinking more water, eating healthier and exercising. See the doctor and talk about it. You know what you need. Make it happen. I wish I knew the majic words to help you. Take care.
  • Discoveri
    Discoveri Posts: 435 Member
    So sorry that you are struggling. I am too right now. if you need to, join Weight Watchers. Sometimes having that extra support and structure can get you back on track. If you don't want to spend the money on the WW program, you may want to do what I have done. I joined a group here where we check in every monday. We are all working towards being at a certain weight (or less) by the end of October. It has really helped me to stay focused and not give in on pigging out since I know I am accountable to the group every monday. Add me if you want a supportive friend.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,422 Member
    You sound like you need to be around some friendly people. If you find a WW meeting that you like, they can be great. You may need to go to several to find one you feel comfortable in.

    Also, check out Over Eaters Anonymous. It is a support group that can be very helpful for you to find out the reasons behind your eating issues. It's not just food. You know that, right?

    Good luck. Back away from the bread :wink:
  • denisebme
    denisebme Posts: 103 Member
    Stress sure doesn't help us stay on track, does it? I'll tell you what I learned from quitting cigarettes- If you can learn to make better decisions, even in the midst of stress, you can do anything in the world!
    Weight Watchers may be a good choice too. Not just for the structure, but as a place to meet people and make friends. I know how difficult it is when you have a lot of kids. Your life tends to revolve around children, husband and home, and its easy to get lost in that. We see you though, you're not lost. You're just struggling to find yourself again.

    Here's a good tool I learned when I was quitting smoking, and I use it now when all I want to do is eat- When I would get that feeling- you know what I'm talking about, that "I've got to have it" feeling, instead I would find a quiet place, and for 60 seconds, simply breathe. Deep breathing, in through the nose, out through the mouth. It's amazing how after just 1 minute, how different everything can feel.

    No matter what though, remember that we are here for you!

    Denise
  • samandlucysmum
    samandlucysmum Posts: 320
    Thanks for the support and thoughts, starting fresh today, counting points at home, have dug out my old file, don't really wanna pay for weighwatchers meetings.
    Good luck to all of you too.
  • Malaika946
    Malaika946 Posts: 107 Member
    All the best. Never give up!!
  • Rocking_Robin
    Rocking_Robin Posts: 238 Member
    Sorry to hear of your struggles...sending positive thoughts your way...I think you did great by posting on the message board as well as going to the doctor for help. I take Cymblata and it helps. I was sad when I started it but I know it helps me cope better. I think WW is a great idea..give you some in person support as well!
    Keep working on you!

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