any advice?

My advice would be, in the beginning dont cut all "bad foods" completely out. Just reduce your intake or limit yourself to one unhealthy option a day. Healthy eating is a lifestyle change and a big one at that, gradual change you can manage is.much better than all or nothing. My bf is a healthy weight but has a very physically demanding job and can get away with eating a lot of take out and fast food. I know how hard it is to say no when it is right in your face. Maybe you could also try eating your snack when they are eating their foods so you dont feel left out?

Also, put your snacks onto the correct portion size and then hide away the rest, even tape it up or whatever you have to do. Its more work to go retrieve that second portion rather than just keep eating

Good luck on your journey!

Hi,

Don't try to change everything in one day, some people can throw their old eating habits out the window and appear to over night become perfect healthy eaters, but I think for most of us it's not that simple otherwise there would be no overweight people.

I love chocolate, and could quite easily eat my way through a sharing bag of giant chocolate buttons, if you live in the UK you will know the ones I'm talking about, I was shocked one day when I read that there were 900 cals in that bag. Since deciding to change the way I eat and lose weight, I've still allowed myself chocolate, but have changed to ones that say for 'X' pieces, it's 'X' cals ,I work out what fits in to my allowance and I put those into a bowl and put the rest away in a cupboard where it can't be seen, or buy a set of scales and weigh portion size.

I still have crisps, but leave those for a weekend when I can do extra exercises to burn a bit more off, to give me a bigger allowance, during the week if I want a Salt and Vinegar treat I now eat Snack a Jacks, less cals and fat.

Mostly for me, the biggest change has been portion control, being a vegetarian, I normally eat different to my partner, but at the weekend, he would cook for us both (something vegetarian), he would always share everything evenly between us, and I never said no that's too much, so I was eating the same as him, which was not good as he does a physical job and I sit at a desk all day, and also being a man, his calorie allowance is more than mine, now we work out how much I can have and stick to it. I have also added fruit to my diet, which is something I rarely ate before.

You also sound like a friend I work with, she is dieting at the moment (there are 3 of us doing it together), if she thinks she's dieting then she has trouble sticking to it, so to start with she was just watching her portion sizes, and was trying to keep to her daily allowance for calories or just under, I think she has now lowered her allowance a little, she has lost quite a bit but over a slower rate, but a loss is a loss. It's sort of tricking your mind into thinking your not dieting when you actually are.

We all have bad days, but when you do just draw a line under it and move on, tomorrow is a new day, don't beat yourself up over yesterday, you can't change it, and worrying about it will only affect the next day and possibly make you do the same again.

Good luck :flowerforyou:

Extra thought........ I plan what I will eat either one or two days in advance, meals and snacks, so if I fancy a treat I know if it will fit in to my allowance or not.