happier chubby?

"I haven't even lost an ounce in 3 months"

Before you ask people that question maybe you should find answers to why you havent lost any weight in 3 months.

Have you lost inches? if not you should figure out why. 3 months of dieting or eatting healthier and workouts even just walking you will lose weight, you may hit a wall or two in that time but you will lose something.

counting calories sucks and you might have to be somewhat conscience of it for the rest of you life but look at the positives of having less weight and just being healthy. Just off the top of my head

1. Being able to walk up a flight of stairs and not huff n puff
2. Better skin. You'll age better by not eating ****.
3. Being able to walk on your own in 20 years rather than drive around on a f'in rascal scooter
4. Better sex life
5. Looking better for you own damn self and your partner as well
6. Feeling better in general
7. Reducing your risk of dying from heart disease, diabetes, and all that other stuff that goes with being overweight
8. Better sex life yes this is stated twice because yeah you get the idea

If you google this topic of healthy weight vs overweight you'll find alot more. Yeah counting calories sucks. Working out sucks at first but soon it will become second nature like brushing your teeth. You'll feel weird if you didn't do some sort of exercise.

So yeah maybe you thought you were happier chubby. Maybe you were but you just need to keep the big picture in mind. There's more to life than cake and cookies Good luck and figure out why you haven't made any progress in 3 months. You are doing something wrong.

Yes and no.. I wasn't happier with my physical weight, but I reacted happy because I didn't address my feelings. I stuffed them with food.

Now that I am doing things for me I have to face things that make me angry, sad, frustrated and uncomfortable and that is happening more often even with my family..lol but then I feel guilty.. but I think I am understanding the term "Skinny *****es" because they are facing their problems not stuffing it down.

But I am working on me and just keep positive. You are doing great and we will all get to a place of happiness

For me, what finally stopped all that kind of thinking was taking myself out of the equation. I realized that my thoughts and feelings have no real effect on what happens with my weight. If I eat a bunch of pizza, feeling guilty about it isn't going to make me lose weight. If I spend all day stressing about food, I'm not going to be more successful.

Eating too much isn't bad and eating healthy things isn't good; they simply lead to different effects. If I eat 3000 calories in a day, I haven't done anything wrong, but I know I'm probably not going to lose as much weight that week. If I eat lots of vegetables instead, I'll probably see a drop in the number on the scale. It's just cause and effect. Neither one says anything about me as a person.

This perspective has been indispensable in my success. I've stumbled a few times and quickly regained 10-15 pounds (each time). In the past, that would have been enough for me to say, "I'm a screwup and I'll never be able to do this, so I'm giving up." But now, I turn right back around within a few days and that weight comes back off, all because I don't feel bad about it. I just say, "Okay, now I know the effect this food/behavior has on my weight. So now I'm going to switch to the stuff I know does the opposite."

Maybe you should skip the scale...and use a measuring tape!! Don't count calories just eat healthy! Nothing processed, pre-made, or fast food, no junk food, soda. Drink lots of water ...the weight would come off!

I know what you mean. It is hard to measure every single thing you eat through out the day. It is so time consuming and at times frustrating. I watch people that are thin order giant carmel frappacinos and I wonder how are they doing this? On the other hand I think I like the control, I know that I am unhappy with my weight and I am proud of myself for finally doing something about it. Even if I go over my calories I feel like I am still learning to eat healthier. I also enjoy the flexibility of counting calories instead of doing something like slim fast which isnt filling, I like the taste of actual food. Don't be too hard on yourself. Good luck on your journey.

I get what you're saying. But I have noticed as least with me, I still go out, I still eat at restaurants, and I just make better choices. I do go over my cals, especially lately with the onslaught of pool parties, but instead of saying yes to a piece of chicken and a hamburger, I'll eat only the chicken. Instead of turning to a bag of chips, I'll get a glass of water. Those simple choices allow me to go out and have a good time without having to stress about my eating.

how does the saying go? "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels"

Please note: I'm starting out lighter than you, but realize that I also had high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and was diabetic at that higher weight. Was I OK with my body image? Actually I was. I'm 42 yo and I carry weight well. I was not OK with how I felt though so I had to lose the weight again.

Pounds do not fly off me (though last few weeks they have been, go figure). I have been doing this since Mid-Feb (22 lbs in 18 1/2 weeks). Do I get sick of watching what I eat? Sometimes. But most of the time, not so much because I'm not obsessing. I watch what I eat and I meet my cal count every day but I'm not freaking over every little thing I put in my mouth.

**I try to concentrate more on enjoying what I am eating and less on regretting what I can't have.**

That being said, I also indulge. What do I indulge in?

Cocktails
I drink 100 proof rum or vodka with crystal light or diet coke - and yes, I will bring my own when going to a friends house. No beer or wine. When out I order the same or skinny cocktails. And BTW, sugar free jello shooters are awesome, especially with apple vodka. Just thought I'd mention

Pizza
Pizza Hut Chicken Supreme Thin and Crispy (232 cals a slice)

Eating out
When I'm eating out I'll automatically accept the chicken or fish entree (not breaded) with veggies. Sometimes it's pretty high but usually it fits into my cals, especially on reward day (1000 cals a day per doc recommend)

Substitution
I eat Special K chips instead of potato chips, lo cal dip instead of regular dip, sugar free pudding, frozen yogurt, tons of Redi-whip (I friggin' love this stuff). All of this makes me feel as though I'm not depriving myself. It's cool when the kids eat a candy bar. I just bring out my 90 cal chocolate peanut butter granola bar and munch away.

And I reward myself
I have a reward day on Saturday or Sunday where I get 600 extra cals if I do everything right all week.

Stagnation
Been there, it sucks. Don't have much advise there except what I did. I added a workout in the morning and that seems to have boosted everything in high drive. Not a big workout, just abs (180 crunches and 3 sets of 6" killers) and walking the dog but it seems to have really helped even though it only takes 20 minutes. I also boost my metabolism through the day with flex and releasing my muscles now and again, getting up from my chair and walking for a couple of minutes (also refreshes the mind), or walking down the stairs and then back up (also refreshes my mind).

I was losing .5 - 1 pound a week but recently pounds have been flying off. I think it's because I'm running now instead of walking and running gives more of a Net calorie burn (and makes my *kitten* and my calves hurt which means my muscles are still working after I'm done so I'm probably getting some afterburn).

Do not give up. You can do this.