men can't be *****!!!!

yentasdoitbetter
yentasdoitbetter Posts: 82 Member
edited September 20 in Motivation and Support
so this is what my (possibly soon to be ex) hunny considers "motivation"....

he said he wont sleep with me until i lose 20lbs! WTF! when i said "thanks for upsetting me, d*ck" he just laughed n said "but its motivation!"

feel free to post on that one girls!!!

(and he's in gorgeous shape so it's not like i can even say anything back lol)
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  • yentasdoitbetter
    yentasdoitbetter Posts: 82 Member
    oops i meant MEN CAN BE *****!!!!!
  • Timothy2000
    Timothy2000 Posts: 108
    Well I am not a girl but I will post anyway most men are ****s and the truly sincere nice ones get tossed to the side.
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
    Wow.... sorry you have a hunny?? like that. I hope he was joking. If not, take a long hard look at the rest of your life.
  • TARALABAMA
    TARALABAMA Posts: 5
    Just wait until you get in really good shape and leave him!! Then you can say "thanks for the motivation jerk"!!
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    He isn't serious, is he?
    really? :huh:
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    He isn't serious, is he?
    really? :huh:
  • mmnichol
    mmnichol Posts: 208 Member
    I'll say this.....He's frigging nuts!!!:noway:
  • McFatterton
    McFatterton Posts: 1,358 Member
    I can only hope he was joking. If my husband ever said anything like that to me (joking or not) there would be serious problems.
  • tazspastic
    tazspastic Posts: 62 Member
    Wow.... sorry you have a hunny?? like that. I hope he was joking. If not, take a long hard look at the rest of your life.

    .... and then find someone who tells you that you are fat in all the right places! It is a pity that revenge doesnt seem to be a good enough motivator to get my butt moving... if it was I'd be phenominal!!!!
  • MissKim
    MissKim Posts: 2,853 Member
    WOW.....if he is serious...run...run...run!!!!!!!
  • danarochelle
    danarochelle Posts: 212 Member
    If he truly loves you, he would NEVER say that! My husband tells me all the time he loves me just he way I am....and I'm 20 lbs more than when we first met (and I was even overweight then!).

    Just get into shape for yourself! Don't concentrate on anyone else!:drinker:
  • CasperO
    CasperO Posts: 2,913 Member
    Wow,,, Ok. He's confused.

    He knows he's a 9 and you're an 8. What he doesn't understand is that men and women are rated on different scales.

    You're an 8 on the standard 1 to 10 scale,,, and a very pretty woman.

    He's a 9,,, maybe even a 10, of the "Number of minutes it would take her to find another dumbass just like you" scale. :laugh:

    If he's kidding, take the (terrible) joke. If he's not, well.......
  • Sunsh1ne
    Sunsh1ne Posts: 879 Member
    If he's serious, that isn't motivation, it's emotional abuse. Run. You deserve better.
  • xStargazerx
    xStargazerx Posts: 100
    I agree! I think he is nuts! You look very pretty! So I would toss him aside. You don't need someone like that in your life. You need someone who loves you for you not what you look like.
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    He isn't serious, is he?
    really? :huh:

    sorry for the double post....but that is crazy talk!
    So, he isn't going to have sex for a few months
    IF he was at all serious he wouldn't be getting any for a VERY long talk and we would be having a VERY serious conversation
  • vrdz3215
    vrdz3215 Posts: 493
    WTF??!!!! I hope he was joking, if my bf ever said that to me joking or not..we would def have issues!
    If he cares about you he should support you in anything you do, but not ridcule you as "motivation" that is insane! If you choose to lose weight, do it for yourself and not because someone else thinks you should. You are fine the way you are and don't let anybody bring you down.
  • neenaleigh
    neenaleigh Posts: 584 Member
    Wow,,, Ok. He's confused.

    He knows he's a 9 and you're an 8. What he doesn't understand is that men and women are rated on different scales.

    You're an 8 on the standard 1 to 10 scale,,, and a very pretty woman.

    He's a 9,,, maybe even a 10, of the "Number of minutes it would take her to find another dumbass just like you" scale. :laugh:

    If he's kidding, take the (terrible) joke. If he's not, well.......

    love it!!!!
  • weaklink109
    weaklink109 Posts: 2,831 Member
    Turn the tables on this twit. Lose the 20 lbs. and then tell him YOU are no longer interested in sleeping with HIM!!!!!:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    Actually, if he is like most guys, it's going to "hurt" him a lot more to be "deprived" than it will you, and it serves him right for being a jack*ss!!!:mad:


    And Casper..had to edit to tell you I LOVE your scale!!!!
  • gramgin
    gramgin Posts: 5 Member
    so who is he sleeping with that he's looking for an excuse to neglect you?????
  • iplayoutside19
    iplayoutside19 Posts: 2,304 Member
    Not like I can talk, but if I said anything remotly like that to my wife....my kids would be having to decide who's house to go to at Christmas....if that outcome is a possibility, that's motivation for me not to do it...among other things.
  • poeticjustice_2001
    poeticjustice_2001 Posts: 53
    is he for real?
    tell him fine, you'll go sleep with someone else who appreciates your body until he comes to his senses!

    I mean, seriously? What's with the "soon-to-be" ex? He should already be an ex! What happens if you get married and have children? will he not sleep with you while you're carrying his child because he thinks you're "fat and disgusting"? Like that guy on divorce court who was putting his wife down cause she gained weight during all her pregnancy, having HIS kids!

    UGH some people make me so mad! :explode:

    I would think long and hard on being in a relationship with someone who considers such negative behavior motivation..

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  • KendalBeee
    KendalBeee Posts: 2,269 Member
    dang he's crap!!
  • Teecy
    Teecy Posts: 5
    Even if he was joking, no one should be allowed to speak to you like that. He's not "the one"....
  • horndave
    horndave Posts: 565
    Wouldn't say anything at all. Would leave. Agree that is emotional abuse. Good luck.
  • Clara
    Clara Posts: 88 Member
    makes me happy to be single. if you do plan to stay with this guy, i say you hold him to that. do not sleep with him until the weight is gone. then ditch the jerk and find a real man!
  • Cynder
    Cynder Posts: 79
    What an ***hole!

    Get hot and dump him!
  • SturgeonGal
    SturgeonGal Posts: 88
    Men:grumble: ...
    They sometimes have the sensitivity of a door knob... :noway:
    my husband said that to me I would be like fine ... and here is your bottle of hand lotion and go buy me a new toy tell him it is more motivating then him.... :laugh:
    see who is begging for a little affection first.. he will be the one kising up ....Men can't go more than a few days without attention from us.. LOL ...:blushing:
  • tubbytabbytales
    tubbytabbytales Posts: 5,883
    that pisses me off.
  • shinybonnie
    shinybonnie Posts: 357
    (1) he's getting lovin' somewhere else
    (2) he's trying to hurt you
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    Well, for one thing, that's just emotional abuse and you shouldn't put up with that. Dump his butt! That's exactly what I would say if you were my daughter.

    Secondly (and these are not in any particular order) he's just looking for a reason to sleep around with someone else. You can bet he's not going to sleep in the same home with you and remain celibate.

    Thirdly, if he was a REAL man he would appreciate a REAL woman and accept you as you are, because nobody, not even him, is perfect.

    Fourthly, if he was joking that's a pretty sick and hurtful joke.

    You deserve a whole lot better than the complete butthead that he is. Don't settle for that kind of nonsense from any man.

    All that is exactly what I would say if you were my daughter. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
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