What do I look like to you?? (pics)

OK, this may sounds like an odd question but I wanted to know what other people perceive me as... to me I look disgusting, (I am not fishing for compliments here I honestly have a strange body image problem and what I see makes me really unhappy).

When I look at myself in the mirror I see someone who looks like a UK14, now I know I dont wear size 14 clothes, I am pretty much a ** but I dont think I look like people who are **'s. Does this make any sense? So my question is what size do I look like to you? I've **'d out what I fit into as I dont want to sway anyones thoughts.

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Thanks :flowerforyou:
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  • hannydee
    hannydee Posts: 246
    I think your body looks very similar to mine, and I'm a 10-12 depending on the shop. So that'd be my guess! Definitely not a 14 and look at that toned stomach!
  • belle94509
    belle94509 Posts: 21
    I see NOTHING wrong with you!! You look AWESOME!! My only thought was, "maybe can get toned?!" Honestly you look great.
  • johnsummerton
    johnsummerton Posts: 86 Member
    Imo you look fantastic .
  • thewingnut13
    thewingnut13 Posts: 50 Member
    You look great! Nothing wrong!
  • NZsleever
    NZsleever Posts: 20
    I wanna look like you!! Just right to me and with NZ sizing i'd say a size 10 at the largest which I'd kill to be oneday soon! Hope you can get over your body issues and see what you really look like when looking in the mirror which is beautiful:smile:
  • AlphamaleBAMF
    AlphamaleBAMF Posts: 373 Member
    OK, this may sounds like an odd question but I wanted to know what other people perceive me as... to me I look disgusting

    Well what I can I say that won't get me banned?

    I think you're quite attractive and you have a nice bottom. You look like you could be a size 10, but I'm no expert.
  • lizw123
    lizw123 Posts: 20 Member
    I agree with others, you look to me as if you are just the right weight. You look wonderful. If I looked as good as you, I would be over the moon. I would say you have a lovely hourglass figure, with no unsightly bulges, just in the right proportions.

    Do you have self-esteem issues? I have and I am finding Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is helping.
  • mikem45
    mikem45 Posts: 35
    Id say you look like a 10 to me if i seen you out i'd probably go all Joey Tribbiani on you - How you doin?
  • lizw123
    lizw123 Posts: 20 Member
    just had a quick look at your profile pic, which shows you're a pretty girl as well. Quick read of what you say also seems to me to indicate that you maybe don't need to lose any more weight. Have a word with your GP to see what he or she thinks about that. Maybe you could then speak to a trainer to devise a programme to just keep you fit and toned, rather than trying to lose more weight. Remember the weight, once it's within healthy parameters, is just a number. It's your shape that counts and that is really very good.

    I hope you have a lovely wedding in November; You will look beautiful, I promise.
  • PureWin
    PureWin Posts: 3
    I don't know about UK sizes, but you look like a US 8/10. I'd be thrilled to be your size, you look good.
  • aqua_zumba_fan
    aqua_zumba_fan Posts: 383 Member
    You have an amazing body which looks smaller than mine and I'm a 12 so I'd say 10. Average is 14 right so even if you were a 14 so what? Be happy with who you are *hugs* x
  • wrecktechno
    wrecktechno Posts: 145 Member
    12 below, 10ish up top. I think you should fold the top of your shorts down or wear lower cut bottoms, high waisted shorts always make you look bigger than you are.
  • Well, you look like me!! It's almost weird how similar we look. And I'm a UK size 10, so I would have never estimated you to be a 14. And I'm jealous at your abs! Gem, you look fantastic and have nothing to worry about. Go for a walk in town today, and compare yourself to other adult women. You'll see that 90% would love to have your body :) XX
  • Prahasaurus
    Prahasaurus Posts: 1,381 Member
    You look quite good. I'm not sure why you think you have a strange body.

    Not sure of your diet/exercise details, but I think a bit more strength training would make you look even better. If you're already doing this, then keep it up.

    But again, not sure what the problem is, to be honest. Most women would probably be happy to have your body.

    --Prahasaurus
  • Marks281172
    Marks281172 Posts: 127 Member
    You look healthy, you look like you eat sensibly and exercise and you really dont have anything to be hung up about.

    If i had to describe you in 1 word id say 'sporty'
  • clairetwoboys
    clairetwoboys Posts: 7 Member
    I'd say about a 10 - but honestly, those labels are meaningless. You look great, you should enjoy the fact that you have a slim, healthy body and try not to get too hung up it. Believe me I know it's not easy - I have spent hours comparing myself to others (and never measuring up well!) so I do understand - when I look back at photos of myself at aged 20 I can't believe how good I looked, as I spent the whole time thinking I was fat/.inadequate compared to everyone around me. I wasn't - it was all in my head and I could kick myself now for wasting all that time and negative energy. Please believe the comments on here - no one would look at you and think you are fat/chubby whatever. You are very lucky - enjoy it! x
  • hannydee
    hannydee Posts: 246
    I don't know about UK sizes, but you look like a US 8/10. I'd be thrilled to be your size, you look good.

    I think US 8/10 is a UK 12/14??
  • Prahasaurus
    Prahasaurus Posts: 1,381 Member
    And by the way, nobody is perfect.

    I love this site, it can be incredibly helpful. However, it can also put too much pressure on people to craft the "perfect" body, whatever that means... I'm guilty, too, as I've become a bit obsessed since joining MFP.

    This can be a good thing, as it's a great motivator. I want my six pack abs! ;-) However, my guess is that it's not usually the people around us that are applying pressure for us to get thinner, stronger, flatter, firmer, etc. We mainly do it to ourselves. The people who care about us - truly care about us - want us to be healthy, of course, but certainly don't expect perfection.

    As someone noted here once, you don't have to be perfect. Just try to be a bit better. Exercise and a good diet are not the "ends," but the means. It's about leading a long, happy, content life, meaningful for yourself and those close to you.

    --Prahasaurus
  • Lozze
    Lozze Posts: 1,917 Member
    I think you look like someone who needs to see a councillor. You're not disgusting and he fact you use such hateful language about yourself is worrying.
  • staps065
    staps065 Posts: 837 Member
    You look great to me! :flowerforyou:
  • JennetteMac
    JennetteMac Posts: 763 Member
    I'd say 10/12. Your top half and waist are neat, legs and bum slightly bigger. Speaking as an ex size 14 you are no way that.
    PS You look absolutely fine to me, though I am not one to talk as I regularly get told I have the same body image problem as you describe. I see people as way slimmer than me, only to be told that I I'm thinner thand them. Mind, I also get told I'm anorexic by some people, and anyone who's seen my food diary knows that's not true! So who do you believe?
  • fjc1968
    fjc1968 Posts: 26
    You look great, judging by your pics you are smaller than me and I'm a 12, so I'd say you are a 10.
  • sculptandtone
    sculptandtone Posts: 300 Member
    Difficult to tell size from pic because we don't know how tall you are or the size of your frame. If I was forced to answer I'd base it on average height and average frame say an 8 US, which is like a 10 UK think??? Either way, you look healthy.
  • GemmieNoWobbles
    GemmieNoWobbles Posts: 398 Member
    Thanks everyone, I really appreciate you all taking the time to reply to me. Yes I do have negative body image problems and I have had cognitive behaviour therapy before but didnt find it very helpful. I'm working on weight training, and I do lift heavy and I'm pretty muscley, but I think I will try and be more consistent in my lifting to lower my body fat and gain more muscle, I'd rather be "strong" than skinny.
    Thanks again for all your lovely comments, and I am a UK10/12 depending on the shop, Hanny, you were right :happy:
  • MrsLong1980
    MrsLong1980 Posts: 181 Member
    10 to 12? But why focus on these numbers when shops can't keep the sizes right and even in one shop the same size items can vary in size?!
  • teagirlmedium
    teagirlmedium Posts: 679 Member
    You look like you have a healthy weight, maybe drop 5-10 pounds since you said you don't like how you look, but thats it. You look good the way you are now so I think whatever size you are works well for you.
  • hill_dilley
    hill_dilley Posts: 15 Member
    HI,

    Totally agree with other posts on here, you look healthy, fit and sporty with a well defined waist.

    In terms of sizes, you look similar to me pre-baby - but better legs and smaller bottom! :wink: That would put my estimate at a 10 top /12 trousers.

    I have been 16 and now 14 post baby and you are definaely slimmer than that.

    p.s I think you are very brave putting up these pics and asking for advice - Well Done!

    Liz :smile:
  • Depending on your height I'd say 10-12. But more importantly - you look very nicely proportioned, nicely toned and just right to me.
  • NannersBalletLegs
    NannersBalletLegs Posts: 207 Member
    You're built pretty much the same as me, but you're way more toned than I am. I hope to be where you're at in a month or two. Looking good!
  • hazelovesfood
    hazelovesfood Posts: 454 Member
    Before I read anyones elses reply I would have said a ten to twelve, which is way slimmer than me, im a 14 count yourself lucky you are that size,