already married, but still admire other guy

fuck3you4LL
fuck3you4LL Posts: 25 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
There's a friend of mine who's already married, and now she's pregnant, but she still admire her bestfriend from highschool. She used to be in love w/ this guy and asked him out, but this guy rejected her. However they still remain besties until now.
My friend married to a guy that she (admittedly) not in love with, but this guy is the first (and only) guy who slept with her. so she decided to marry this guy, cause she's afraid no one want to be with her since she's no longer a virgin. in my place, pre marital sex is a huge thing.

she and her bestie still meet each other, and sometimes I think she trust and listen to this guy more than her husband. this guy, well of course, he need my friend to boost his ego. nobody want to lose his/her fans, no?

I wander, where this relation will lead to? Are they going to be like that forever?

need your opinion...

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  • BROscience_PHD
    BROscience_PHD Posts: 215 Member
    Who cares, Live your life, because its your life. Let your friend live her life.
    That or get yourself a freind like your friends friend and make happy.
  • thebaconbeast
    thebaconbeast Posts: 560 Member
    Set him free.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,906 Member
    You're asking a group of people from all over the world. The replies from people in the U.S. are going to be vastly different from what is acceptable in your culture.

    Are you sure this is your "friend" and not you? Doesn't matter....the situation is not good. I'd dump the bestie until and unless I waws divorced from the husband. This can't end well any other way.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    What exactly are you concerned about? It doesn't seem to be causing a problem for her, and if it does in the future, then she and her husband will have to deal with it.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Are you sure this is your "friend" and not you?

    Hah. Do people still do that "I have a friend.." thing? :P
  • Sarah_Wins
    Sarah_Wins Posts: 936 Member
    And why would you need our opinions?
  • JBApplebee
    JBApplebee Posts: 482 Member
    She has her life, you have yours. It's like I tell my kids, don't wonder about what if, deal with what is. Just be there for your friend, whether it's good or bad, but live your life the best you can.
  • angieleighbyrd
    angieleighbyrd Posts: 989 Member
    Why do you need our advice? It's not your life. How are we sposed to know what the future holds for her?
  • fuck3you4LL
    fuck3you4LL Posts: 25 Member
    ehm, I like the guy. and this guy kinda like me too.
    but, there's always 'she' between us.
  • fuck3you4LL
    fuck3you4LL Posts: 25 Member
    well, if you have nothing to say, you dont have to response.

    many people talk about SEX in this, i suppose, a weight loss website. I dont have any opinion on that matters, so I keep silence.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    ehm, I like the guy. and this guy kinda like me too.
    but, there's always 'she' between us.

    I'm not sure that "she" is the problem. When he likes you more than "kinda", perhaps you will become more of a priority to him.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,906 Member
    You are getting in the middle of that? Sounds like what we call too much Drama, to me. There's got to be a different man for you without the crazy stuff.
  • BROscience_PHD
    BROscience_PHD Posts: 215 Member
    well, if you have nothing to say, you dont have to response.

    many people talk about SEX in this, i suppose, a weight loss website. I dont have any opinion on that matters, so I keep silence.
    I might come off as ignorant, but then again, sounds to me like youve been closed off to the world. But as i jokingly said before, get yourself a friend and make sex. lmao jk
    just walk up to this friend you like and tell him what you want him to do to you and vice versa.
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
    I wander, where this relation will lead to? Are they going to be like that forever?

    It simply won't last like that. She's not going to be 100% vested in her relationship and you can't have somebody on the side, doubt your marriage in the first place, and think it's going to work. If she really wants it to work she'll probably need to break ties with this other guy. I've been there done that and it simply will not last.
  • BROscience_PHD
    BROscience_PHD Posts: 215 Member
    LOL this must be a troll post.
  • TexanThom
    TexanThom Posts: 778 Member
    Dear Abby.......I live in Payton Place....
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
    Definitely a troll, see user name and the fact they deactivated their account!
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    Definitely a troll, see user name and the fact they deactivated their account!

    I was about to say, the name was a dead giveaway.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Definitely a troll, see user name and the fact they deactivated their account!

    The name was different when they first posted. I think OP also had other issues.
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