Friend requests- can you say no?

leahartmann
leahartmann Posts: 415
in Motivation and Support
I want to hear your oppinion- I try to keep the number of my MFP friends low, so I´m able to fully support and be there for each one. I suffer from chronic depression, I don´t have the strength to overcome much, unfortunatly. I get requests from people I don´t know. I really want to support them, but I´m afraid I might be overwhelmed if I have to many, so I won´t be able to support properbly. Is it ok to say no to a request? Or is it to selfish?

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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,422 Member
    I say no several times a day. No explanation given, I feel none is needed. You can't please everyone, just please yourself.
  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    Sure it's selfish. But that's not a bad thing. You're here for YOU, not everyone else. I don't often deny friend requests, but I do sometimes, and I don't feel bad about it or feel that I have to explain myself. It's just the internet. No need to feel pressured to be friends with someone if you don't want to. Don't worry about it. :smile:
  • Meg_78
    Meg_78 Posts: 998 Member
    I say no often. If you don't even bother to send me a message I say no, if your goals are very different to mine I say no...It might be rude, but I find it gets hard to handel my news feed if I have too many friends and I miss stuff, I'd rather have a smaller group of friends that really count and mean something to me, than a mass of people that I don't know, or have time to comment on. Every one has different desires here on MFP, It's perfectly ok to say no!
  • leahartmann
    leahartmann Posts: 415
    cocos_mum. I noticed that you had it written clearly at your profile. A good idea I stole immediately. :wink:
  • DrowningMermaid
    DrowningMermaid Posts: 143
    I tend to keep most of my friends to people I've got as friends in real life or at least someone I feel I've connected with in one way or another. I'm not going to add random people because a) I'll get seriously jealous and bitter if they're losing all the weight and I'm slowly creeping to a halt b) their health-goals are not the same as mine c) I just don't like people that much. I want to be able to like the people I add and support them as well. I want to be able to rejoice in someone's successes and I can't do that with a stranger.
  • MissRemmers
    MissRemmers Posts: 9
    Don't feel bad at all. This isn't Facebook and no one gets "points" (or loses weight quicker) for having the most friends. I agree with others, do this for you - not for anyone else.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    I have a short friends list because I am very selective as to who my buddies are. I always send a message with my requests but sometimes, people have their own thing going on. I don't take it personal, I just know that there's a million reasons why someone may deny a request.
  • leahartmann
    leahartmann Posts: 415
    Thank you so much. That really helps. I feel so much better. :happy:

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