HELP!!!! Picky bf..

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  • nammer79
    nammer79 Posts: 664 Member
    Just give him a taco, he'll be happy.

    What he said ^^^^ that and let him cook for himself he cooked when he lived alone or did someone else cook for him then too
  • harrietlg
    harrietlg Posts: 239
    If I cook him a meal I just put something else on his plate :) but i'm a chef and he just eats what i cook at work tbh it's not difficult to adapt you just might have to make separate things !
  • Nikkiham520
    Nikkiham520 Posts: 117 Member
    Meat, veggie, carb. If he doesn't want the veggie, so what?? Spaghetti, salad. If he doesn't eat the salad, It dsoesn't hurt anyone. I have been married to a picky eater for 12 years. I don't care what he eats. If you cater to him now, you always will!!
  • Lisseth03
    Lisseth03 Posts: 518 Member
    Hrm... if he's that picky, he should cook for himself.

    this.
  • livinginwoods
    livinginwoods Posts: 562 Member
    Eh. It's not that big of a deal. Just make yourself some extra veggies when you cook dinner. He is a grown man. If he does not want to eat them don't force him. I am sure there are things you don't like?
  • marycmeadows
    marycmeadows Posts: 1,691 Member
    my boyfriend claims to not like veggies too, but I cook dinner every night, and it always includes vegges! -- check out my blog for ideas - marysforkandspoon.blogspot.com
  • Jacole18
    Jacole18 Posts: 716 Member
    don't change your habits for him...cook something for you and he can cook his own :)
  • mflinchb
    mflinchb Posts: 2 Member
    As a fairly picky eater myself, I know what it's like. My BF will eat just about anything and will try just about anything once. I on the other hand, didn't eat salad/green things until about 5 years ago. I used to think I was getting a good source of veggies between my corn on the cob and my baked potatoes. I've become better about eating veggies, but there are somethings I'm still hesitant to eat- raw broccoli and cauliflower? Not my thing. Here's a recipe for some really good turkey burgers that have zucchini in them from skinytaste.com
    http://www.skinnytaste.com/2010/05/turkey-burgers-with-zucchini.html

    Just get a cheese grater and grate the zucchini up thin. It bulks up your burgers and doesn't taste like anything. I added a few tbsp Worcestershire sauce to them!
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    Hrm... if he's that picky, he should cook for himself.

    This!
  • LNPurdie
    LNPurdie Posts: 84 Member
    My husband is also a very picky. If I ask him first he will always says peas, no thank you to salad. I do bear in mind he is not a veggie person and so I fix myself a big salad, or a veggie based main. He gets a portion as his side dish. I slip extra veggies in his steak and noodle stir fry, 1/2 a green pepper and some salad onions compliment his starch/meat diet. Slowly over 5 years I find he eats more and more of his "side portions".

    Recently, I reduced my portions to a 1/3 of the starch he does. I have never been a big meat-eater, and will skip the meat main all together if its beef or lamb. Substitute my main with poached fish, etc.

    The point is you can eat complimenting meals, you do not have to eat the same?

    Examples:
    I am having a spinach salad with grilled chicken and strawberries.
    He gets a small side spinach salad, he leaves the strawberries on the plate and I give him a big breast grilled instead of mine chopped over the salad.
    He has a Jacket Potato, a no fuss starch.

    If we have Spaghetti
    I eat a big salad and small portion
    He eats small salad bigger portion....

    I love him and I am glad he is eating veggies more now that we are married. I haven't managed to get him on any fruit yet, but I am working on it. :) What I am saying is make your main his side dish.

    I don't buy into this advise tell him to cook for himself, nor the advise that a good match is indicated by liking the same foods. My husband is my best friend and he does laundry and the bank account, I do the kitchen. It is now how our marriage works. I hate laundry!

    I love my husband and I am glad he is slowly eating more adventurous. He doesn't pester me to give up fish and start eating sausages and steaks, or black pudding! I still hate Christmas cake, and don't get dark beer. Just make sure you are cooking something you both like and then yen/yang balances the portions.

    Oh and if I am having a "weak" day, he orders take away for himself. It works.
  • AlmstHvn
    AlmstHvn Posts: 376 Member
    I assume you've shared some meals while dating. What did you do then?

    I love the suggestions of finely chopping/blending some veggies into meals. I've done that a few times, too, and it worked nicely. There are 3 of us in the house and all 3 of us like only a few vegetables - and few of those are in common. So pureeing carrots or spinach into other sauces has eliminated the wrinkled noses and they discovered they could tolerate some veggies that way ;)
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    my brother don't either. used to bug me growing up watching my mom cater to him like he was some little prince or something!!!!!
  • futuremalestripper
    futuremalestripper Posts: 467 Member
    Cook separate or make a couple dishes you like, some of which he may eat as well, and then he can make whatever else he wants to fill his plate. My dad is far pickier. He just eats buffalo burgers 6 days a week and a roast on Sundays. Every week...
  • daylily2005
    daylily2005 Posts: 203 Member
    for all you "tell him to grow up" "he's not a kid anymore" responses....

    sometimes people legitimately do not like vegetables. I'm one of those people. While I want to like them, and am trying to learn various ways to include them in my diet (i like the pureed idea!), eating some vegetables (cooked every way I know of) literally make me want to gag, and I almost do. Now i'm sure that's an extreme response, and it's going to take me a while to figure out a way to get over it. BUT, that being said, people not eating veggies doesn't always mean they're just being stupid and never grew up from their childhood junkfood. people have different taste buds, and taste differently. a lot of veggies taste really bitter to me, but my parents and siblings never taste that.


    i think all the ideas about sneaking them into foods are good. or let him eat around them. no need to make it a big deal. if he can't handle that, then i'd say you guys should sit down and talk it out. maybe he wouldn't mind making his own meals, or supplementing some sides for when you make veggies.
  • TXGirl821
    TXGirl821 Posts: 115
    My bf is the same way. I cook because he works and I don't. When people say "Just let him get his own food," they don't always understand that sometimes cooking dinner is all I can contribute! But as far as veggies go, you just have to find which ones he WILL eat. Like, my bf ended up adoring zucchini and asparagus when I put it on the grill! I do a lot of the "hiding" veggies into foods too. And really, if nothing else, just always at least have a veggie there as an option for him to try at dinner.
  • brigid0113
    brigid0113 Posts: 16
    Meat, veggie, carb. If he doesn't want the veggie, so what?? Spaghetti, salad. If he doesn't eat the salad, It dsoesn't hurt anyone. I have been married to a picky eater for 12 years. I don't care what he eats. If you cater to him now, you always will!!

    This. I make my husband cook for himself because he's so picky. Once a week or so I make him eat whatever we're having just so he'll try something new. But he always ends up making mac n cheese or grilled cheese later on.
  • heatherhb55
    heatherhb55 Posts: 9
    Although it would be great if you could just tell him eat his veggies or make his own food, that’s not how relationships work. Making two meals is a pain and takes away a fun part of living together, cooking together is fun.

    I understand what you are up against. I used to hate veggies up until a few years ago. So here is what I did, I started adding vegetables to things I did liked, such as pasta with bell peppers, hamburgers with tomatoes and avocado or veggies on pizza ect. Hiding the vegetable taste really helped. Another suggestion I liked was treating it like a picky kid. Do some research on strategies for getting kids to eat veggies, you might find some fun recipes.

    Another thing that might help is considering dips. Dipping veggies into something or top it with something. Someone mentioned carrots and honey that sounds good to me especially with broiled carrots, I might try that. I would start with things like celery with peanut butter, broccoli and velvita cheese, tomatoes with mozzarella on a cracker or bread, stick it in the toaster oven. I also really like steamed broccoli and with marinara sauce and feta cheese mixed together, it's really good and low cal.

    Also try dressings. We really like poppy seed dressing, creaser, ranch and thousand island. I know it seems like it defeats the point but it really is about getting the palette acclimated to veggies and making them likable. Also remember that veggies with marinara are still way better for you than spaghetti and meatballs.

    My point is you have to introduce them slowly, find ways to make them something you both enjoy. My boyfriend and I moved in together a year ago and there are a few things I love that he can't stand and vice vers so you have to learn to compromise or make things you both like.
  • ChelSleeve
    ChelSleeve Posts: 144 Member
    Okay I appreciate all of the responses in support of my wanting to eat healthy.. but I would appreciate it even more if this didn't turn into a thread of you all bashing my bfs choice of not eating veggies.. he's an adult as am I.. I posted this thread to get ideas for healthier food that would fit both mine and his palates and what we like to eat.. thank you..
  • Wonderob
    Wonderob Posts: 1,372 Member
    Okay I appreciate all of the responses in support of my wanting to eat healthy.. but I would appreciate it even more if this didn't turn into a thread of you all bashing my bfs choice of not eating veggies.. he's an adult as am I.. I posted this thread to get ideas for healthier food that would fit both mine and his palates and what we like to eat.. thank you..

    Exactly!
  • ChelSleeve
    ChelSleeve Posts: 144 Member
    Okay I appreciate all of the responses in support of my wanting to eat healthy.. but I would appreciate it even more if this didn't turn into a thread of you all bashing my bfs choice of not eating veggies.. he's an adult as am I.. I posted this thread to get ideas for healthier food that would fit both mine and his palates and what we like to eat.. thank you..

    Exactly!

    Thank you

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