I am annoyed and I dont really have a right to be.

I definitely had the same issue with my boyfriend right when we started MFP together. As a guy, he could eat more calories, so when he made lunch and made my plate it would have the same amount of calories on my plate as he had on his, which is a huge deal since we have about a 700 calorie difference in our diet. I just had to let him know my diet plan in detail, and how much I needed his help and support in my weight loss journey. So far it's gone well.
I think you should just let him know how vital this is to you on an emotional level.

Exactly! And be strong, it's not always easy, especially with other people in the house. Know that you can do this!

It can be very hard when you dont have a supportive partner. Have you tried sitting him down and telling him how you feel, other than having to say no 3 or 4 times when he tries to get you to eat? Let him know how important this is to you. I think part of the reason he tries to force food on you that you dont want is because he is trying to make it "okay" for him to have it. Try to make healthy alternatives to the food he is eating out on and see if that works, a lot of people think junk food tastes to good to give up, but healthy alternatives can be surprisingly delicious. And if he gets you something you dont want, just dont eat it, throw it away right in front of him, its not necessarily budget friendly but it can get the point across.

I don't think he would be against you. Just make sure he knows that you're not just doing it for yourself, but for the kids and him too. I'd say something along the lines of you want to spend as many healthy years with him as possible. That way he feels like an important reason as to why you want to better yourself.
And if he's not ready to join in on the journey yet, that's fine, once you get to your goal he may see the benefits of your looking and feeling healthy and he'll want to get on that same level as you.

Sounds like one of the times where it would be worth having the argument.

Yeah, I'd be annoyed too! But, you can't make someone else "go on a diet", it seems as though he isn't interested in that right now, so all you can do is keep doing what is right for you.

It sounds as though you need to be really clear and consistent until he gets used to your new way of eating. My husband continued to offer me glasses of wine for months after I stopped drinking a glass with dinner each night. I think he was just being polite really, he didn't want to pour one for him and not me. Now I ask him "water or wine" and he'll often have water with me (which is quite a change!).

If he offers you food that you don't want, be clear about why you don't want the food (I've already had a snack and I'm full up. I don't want an ice-cream now") but make it about you, not about him (i.e., NOT "why do you always want to buy me food that I don't need").
Or, be specific about what you do want "I don't want a big ice-cream, but I would like a small serve of their yummy mango sorbet".

And if he buys something you don't want, eat a few bites (or none at all) and throw it away. Or, put it in the freezer for the kids for later on.

Or, if you think it would work well for him, make a list of the snacks/treats that you DO like - then if he wants to "treat" you, he has an easy way to get something that will make both of you happy. They don't all have to be food either, is there something else little he could get you or do (foot massage, new socks, flowers..... I don't know, non-food treats!)

Good luck!

Sometimes in life we battle along on our own. This is your battle - if he gives up - he is an adult - let him be. my husband and both teens are underweight and eat so much of junk - yet i just look at a cake and it seems like i pick up a pound. right now it is winter holidays in south africa. so both the universities and schools are closed. so when i get home from work they eating mcdonalds and so kindly thought of me and bought for me also. lol always potatoe chips, chocolates etc lying around. I have 10 kg's to lose and i have to do this by myself. i go to gym by myself every morning and evening. i dont cook seperate meals anymore coz it was working out very expensive. so i basically cook one meal and just eat a smaller portion. dont eat the treats your husband buys u - leave it lying there to rot and let him see wat a waste of money it is. for some reason becoz he has given up or failed at his attempt he is trying to sabotage your efforts. ignore him and stick to the plan.

Sounds like one of the times where it would be worth having the argument.

You dont really understand. You cannot have an argument with someone who is not fully able to go from taking that argument and making it something he practices. Arguing with someone with problems like him is like banging your head on a wall and expecting it to move. Like I said, I will probably start to address it with a letter. I am just looking for other ideas...

He may be offended....but thats when you tell him you're offended by him not listening to you and respecting your wishes. Respect and understanding is a two way street. Seems he wants you eating crap so he doesnt have to feel so bad about eating it himself. Grrrrrrr You can do better.

I have a similar situation with my husband. He is one of those individuals that can eat what ever he wants and never gain an ounce. I asked him once why he keeps offering me food that he knows I am not suppose to be eating. He says because he thinks I am beautiful just the way I am, therefore, he does not see the urgency of not offering me bad foods. I so love the fact that he loves me just the way I am but the situation is still a drain on the motivation and my ability to stay on track with my diet.

So I wish I had a some pearl of wisdom to pass on to you. The only consolation that I can offer you is that we are both in the same boat. Hang in there. I know it is not easy but hang tough.

Thank you! You have given me great ideas. I try to be polite about turning it down. And he has stopped buying normal pepsi because he knows its a weakness of mine so he will buy pepsi max if he must have one. Slow and steady wins the race. But I will use most of your suggestions.

I'm glad it helped
And if he has got the message about Pepsi, that's great.
If you're concrete and clear and consistent (and non-confrontational), I'm sure he'll get the other stuff too.

For the people who are knocking him for not being a good husband.... frontal lobe injuries can be really hard to live with because they affect the planning and reasoning and social parts of our brains. Give the guy a break!