For the boys!!!

Foxypoo61287
Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
Have you ever had some girl BLOW UP your phone with text messages, Voice mails & e-mails about you two being together, when really you weren't?

*Here is some back story*
I had some issues with this female while I was with my ex. He has admitted to cheating on me & stuff with other girls but not her after we broke up. Well while me & him were together she was going on and on, supposedly they had bumpity bump etc. ANYWAYS, now we are split but she keeps harassing him. "Supposedly" He has shown me Texts & Messages from face book, saying he cheated on her. I have even called her and told her to leave him alone that we are trying to work things out. Well of course that made things worse.

So now she won't stop calling him, texting him Saying all this stuff about bumpity bump, how they had bumpity bump, blah blah blah. Now, I saw 1 text from him saying " You cheated on me" And her reply was I never cheated on you, I'm not stupid. I love you. Etc. I told him that he had to have done SOMETHING to make her say this crap. Lead her on, had some bumpity bump with her. Nothing makes a girl go like this. But he constantly denies it. Now, I don't care if he bumpity bumped with her. But for him to tell me that she is NATURALLY just like this, I don't believe it. What do you think?

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  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Just break up with him if you don't trust him.

    Also, the word you're looking for is "sex".
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    I'm not with him. I don't plan on getting with him. I just think its kind of funny that alot of guys pull the " Oh she is just really crazy" And that they haven't done anything to provoke them to act like that.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    In the "good old days" before mobiles were popular it was done differently....

    Called at all hours of the day and night, letters through the door BY HAND, accused of rape, accused of drug offences, accused of assault......

    Had "guards" in the churchyard on our wedding day.....

    yep...it was fun...

    *sigh*
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    Oh my word. And it was for real. Like you did NOTHING to provoke her to act that way?
  • TheDreadPirateRoberts
    TheDreadPirateRoberts Posts: 225 Member
    If your boyfriend will not deal with a woman who is constantly texting and ringing him and saying she had sex with him while you're about, then he's either a wimp or he gets off on it or he's a liar (and not a good one).

    Either, tell him to tell her to p*ss off and stop harrassing him or he will involve the cops (there ARE laws about this), or get him to change his number. If he wont do either then move on.

    To be honest, by the sounds of him he gets off on cheating and flirting and you would be better off dumping his *kitten* and moving on.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    see below ;)
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    Oh my word. And it was for real. Like you did NOTHING to provoke her to act that way?

    I was her first....

    She was 21 and didnot have the maturity I thought she did. It did not go well...

    Few years ago a friend sent me a FR on facebook and I accepted....I had one from her within 2 minutes.....
  • Hendrix7
    Hendrix7 Posts: 1,903 Member
    No sure I understand...........this guy cheated on you.....now he's cheating on someone else..........why do you even care if he is getting harassed? he sounds like a waste of oxygen.
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/post/edit/9443801?page=1#
    No sure I understand...........this guy cheated on you.....now he's cheating on someone else..........why do you even care if he is getting harassed? he sounds like a waste of oxygen.

    I don't care. I was just asking if this stuff REALLY happens. Like girls go Psychotic without being provoked.

    ETA: I can't even say that I could be provoked into doing something like that.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    It's called self respect, put the trash on the curb.

    It's also called "sex"

    jersey Shore much?
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    b****es be crazy
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Maybe it wasn't sex. Maybe they went somewhere in the car and there were a lot of potholes.
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    It's called self respect, put the trash on the curb.

    It's also called "sex"

    jersey Shore much?

    What do you mean Jersey Shore? I don't watch Jersey Shore, but I just didn't want to use the word Sex incase my thread got locked.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    It's called self respect, put the trash on the curb.

    It's also called "sex"

    jersey Shore much?

    What do you mean Jersey Shore? I don't watch Jersey Shore, but I just didn't want to use the word Sex incase my thread got locked.

    Good code. No one will ever crack it!
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    There are some women who are crazy like this, but, my money would be on she's not crazy, he's saying and doing things to illicit this reaction from her, and then acting like she's crazy because he got caught.
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    Trying to read this is giving me a headache. Girls with natural craziness should not point the crazy finger, by the way.
  • ErB56
    ErB56 Posts: 71 Member
    Most phone companies that I know of have a feature for blocking unwanted numbers. If he really did not want the attention, he could have done something about it. It seems like this is not bothering him that badly . . .
  • realme56
    realme56 Posts: 1,093 Member
    No sure I understand...........this guy cheated on you.....now he's cheating on someone else..........why do you even care if he is getting harassed? he sounds like a waste of oxygen.

    Well said, I hate drama. I would walk away and not look back.
  • thebaconbeast
    thebaconbeast Posts: 560 Member
    Yep , to get rid if her I acted like a complete slob and areshole around her she stopped on her own account after a while :laugh:
  • starracer23
    starracer23 Posts: 1,011 Member
    Maybe it wasn't sex. Maybe they went somewhere in the car and there were a lot of potholes.

    Sounds like it....with all that bumpity bumping
  • luv_lea
    luv_lea Posts: 1,094 Member
    I'm having a hard time understanding why you care if you're not with him and don't plan to be.
  • NamibianRose
    NamibianRose Posts: 151 Member
    Well, if I read your original post correctly, he told her she cheated on him? Then I think it's clear that he's done way more than he's willing to admit and has provoked her.

    I also hate that guys are quick to pull the 'crazy' card. Sure, sometimes a girl can go overboard emotionally, but to act like they were totally innocent is often not the case.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Are you kidding right now? Of course women can be crazed stalkers and men be innocent victims. But given what you say about about your ex -- he probably got this girl into bed by saying all kinds of sweet nothings and then stopped after he got his sweet nothing. Or she figured out he was telling other women the same things he was telling her (and therefore not a special little snowflake). Should be treat women that way? Nope. But does he deserved to be harassed? No, nobody does. If he'd outright told her to stop contacting him and she hasn't, he needs to talk to somebody in law enforcement about that. But to me, it sounds like he is trying to lure you into his drama.
  • BigDaddyRonnie
    BigDaddyRonnie Posts: 506 Member
    It's called self respect, put the trash on the curb.

    It's also called "sex"

    jersey Shore much?

    What do you mean Jersey Shore? I don't watch Jersey Shore, but I just didn't want to use the word Sex incase my thread got locked.

    Jersey Shore = drama

    Getting it in = bumpity bump
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  • NamibianRose
    NamibianRose Posts: 151 Member
    Most phone companies that I know of have a feature for blocking unwanted numbers. If he really did not want the attention, he could have done something about it. It seems like this is not bothering him that badly . . .

    Yup, and you can block people on Facebook, filter your email. He's stoking the fire lol.
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
    My husbands ex girlfriend claimed that he hit her, cheated on her, and was constantly putting her down and told everyone that he was doing the same to me. He didn't do any of that, to either of us. She would call him and leave him messages and email him. Which he let me read and listen too. She would call me and hang up. She would make different accounts on social networks and try to add me pretending to be someone else. She would try and tell me he was cheating on me. He did nothing to encourage this, some girls are just insane. He didn't cheat on me with her, but while we were having a purely sexual relationship, they had sex and he got back with her for a couple weeks, and realized that he had feelings for me. We didn't start dating for a couple months after that. Not really something to be insane about for 5 years. She still gives us problems, just not as much anymore.

    She probably won't go away until she gets whatever it is that she wants, or until she feels completely defeated.
  • ARDuBaie
    ARDuBaie Posts: 365 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/post/edit/9443801?page=1#
    No sure I understand...........this guy cheated on you.....now he's cheating on someone else..........why do you even care if he is getting harassed? he sounds like a waste of oxygen.

    I don't care. I was just asking if this stuff REALLY happens. Like girls go Psychotic without being provoked.

    ETA: I can't even say that I could be provoked into doing something like that.

    No gender has a monopoly on going psychotic, but most are provoked. Your now ex probably did have sex with her and now she feels rejected, so she is making his life he11. Both are a waste of oxygen since they 1) are not being honest with others and themselves; and 2) are not mature enough to handle the situation by just learning from it and walking away.

    I had one guy who did this to me. I eventually had the legal system take care of the problem. Four nights in jail = problem solved.

    I am going to say one thing that is not a generalization: It seems that these types of things occur more these days with many young people than they did when I was growing up. Is it that many of the youth of today can't handle rejection? Is it that they don't know how to deal with their emotions? Is it just that many are so immature that they can't deal with what adults have to deal with in life? Or is it the fact that many need instant gratification?

    It is not just with sexual relationships that I see these problems. I see it with work relationships. If a person doesn't like another person, they harass that person, stealing their cell phone, hiding their purse, etc. Why not just realize that you aren't married to the person so only spend 8 hours a day, five days a week with them. Can't even do that in many cases.

    Then we have those who resort to killing because of some slight or miscommunication, or simply because you didn't like their person, their gender preference, or their beliefs.

    Come on people, this is not how to be adults. Adults control their emotions and, indirectly, their actions. I avoid people who act like everything is always about them and they are being slighted, mistreated, picked on, etc. I just don't have time for the kind of juvenile behavior that goes on with the younger group.

    Also, why get involved in other people's problems. I understand where the OP is coming from. She wants to understand why this is happening, hopefully to learn from it. I admire that. Once you learn from it, let him and it go because it is his problem and he needs to deal with it. Both he and the other girl are too immature to be in a relationship from what I can tell.
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/post/edit/9443801?page=1#
    No sure I understand...........this guy cheated on you.....now he's cheating on someone else..........why do you even care if he is getting harassed? he sounds like a waste of oxygen.

    I don't care. I was just asking if this stuff REALLY happens. Like girls go Psychotic without being provoked.

    ETA: I can't even say that I could be provoked into doing something like that.

    No gender has a monopoly on going psychotic, but most are provoked. Your now ex probably did have sex with her and now she feels rejected, so she is making his life he11. Both are a waste of oxygen since they 1) are not being honest with others and themselves; and 2) are not mature enough to handle the situation by just learning from it and walking away.

    I had one guy who did this to me. I eventually had the legal system take care of the problem. Four nights in jail = problem solved.

    I am going to say one thing that is not a generalization: It seems that these types of things occur more these days with many young people than they did when I was growing up. Is it that many of the youth of today can't handle rejection? Is it that they don't know how to deal with their emotions? Is it just that many are so immature that they can't deal with what adults have to deal with in life? Or is it the fact that many need instant gratification?

    It is not just with sexual relationships that I see these problems. I see it with work relationships. If a person doesn't like another person, they harass that person, stealing their cell phone, hiding their purse, etc. Why not just realize that you aren't married to the person so only spend 8 hours a day, five days a week with them. Can't even do that in many cases.

    Then we have those who resort to killing because of some slight or miscommunication, or simply because you didn't like their person, their gender preference, or their beliefs.

    Come on people, this is not how to be adults. Adults control their emotions and, indirectly, their actions. I avoid people who act like everything is always about them and they are being slighted, mistreated, picked on, etc. I just don't have time for the kind of juvenile behavior that goes on with the younger group.

    Also, why get involved in other people's problems. I understand where the OP is coming from. She wants to understand why this is happening, hopefully to learn from it. I admire that. Once you learn from it, let him and it go because it is his problem and he needs to deal with it. Both he and the other girl are too immature to be in a relationship from what I can tell.


    Very well said.

    I appreciate your advice, and I was just questioning if that ever DOES really happen. I just think that he is ignorant and for some unknown reason still feels the need to lie ( if he is lying) about what happened. He has already admitted to me that he lied & Cheated. Why continue to do it. He keeps showing me Texts that are all from her, and none from him. one day he had 35 missed calls from her. You can't fake that crap. I tell him I want nothing to do with his relationship woes, yet he tells me he doesn't want to be with anyone but me. I refuse to take him back.
  • bull_dog44
    bull_dog44 Posts: 16 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/post/edit/9443801?page=1#
    No sure I understand...........this guy cheated on you.....now he's cheating on someone else..........why do you even care if he is getting harassed? he sounds like a waste of oxygen.

    I don't care. I was just asking if this stuff REALLY happens. Like girls go Psychotic without being provoked.

    ETA: I can't even say that I could be provoked into doing something like that.

    It TOTALLY happens....when you're in high school...
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