I can't help judging fat people

It's very hard for me to write this and I'm choosing my words very carefully. Because of previously being a morbidly obese person myself and going through the 18-month process of having gastric bypass surgery four years ago, I judge no person for any reason. It's just not my place. Thankfully, you keep your feelings to yourself! Everyone comes to terms with who they are (either accepting and loving themselves or resolving to make a change). Glad you feel guilty as you should.

To all the folks on these posts trying to lose any amount of weight - good for you! This is supposed to be a site that encourages and motivates people in their journey to a healthier way of life. I hope you haven't affected one person on this site with your harsh thoughts. Let's all try to be very positive on MFP :flowerforyou:

Don't be a diick.

I find it interesting that you've become more judgmental of people that are much like you were before you started on your path to being healthier and thinner. Perhaps it's more because it makes you uncomfortable to see others in that shape because you can't deal with how you felt about yourself when you were there... maybe you just have a cruel streak in your basic personality. I just hope you are able to remain silent when you run into those people. Saying something about how you feel could do a LOT of damage.

I think it's pretty common for people that "quit" a behavior--whether it's smoking, overeating, or drinking/drugging--to have mixed feelings of superiority/disgust toward the poor suckers who are where they used to be.

It says something about you, really. It's fine, it's common, and I think you deserve kudos for admitting it.... but that doesn't make it right or good to continue to allow that to rule you. Dorkaleena has some very good points. Maybe you should try and become friends with someone that repulses you--they might be able to help you get over your issues, and you might be able to help them get healthier.

if I see morbidly obese people I feel like going up to them and saying 'hey, I've lost five stone so far this year - you could do it too'

What do you mean by "judging"? Do you mean you think they are lazy or stupid for not losing weight? If by "judging", you mean the quote above, that's not a bad thing to think. Obviously you wouldn't do it, but it's a normal impulse to want to share something that helped you.

hmmm. well freedom of speech is a beautiful thing, but im sure some people will be offended, which i dont think was your intention. while i dont feel i judge people for being fat- i do understand that feeling of looking at people and thinking," why are they doing to themselves dont they know how bad it is for them, dont they wanna be healthy, dont they wanna live etc. etc.". i think maybe now that you have gotten yourself on track to a new body and healthy life style instead of maybe, "looking down" would be a better word than judging, you could find a way to motivate people to make the same changes. i am vegan and although im not a "preachy vegan" and dont try to convert those around me-i do often look at people, even those i love and think, "dont you know better by now, why do keep putting that garbage in you r mouth?" so i get it, i think wen people get really into something and believe in it- and especially if it makes you feel better about yourself- you start to feel like everyone should do it...why arent they??? but like i said, try to find a way to help those who you feel are in need of seeing the light instead of sounding judgmental.

Op might have lost weight, but he did not lose his a$$holeness.

You Pikey...

I think it's a different kind of judging than one that just writes fat people off as inhuman. You've been there, you know what it takes to lose weight, and your 'judging' sounds more like a desire to help and motivate people.

If you're not well established in a career you like, maybe you'd make a good nutritionist or fitness trainer? Then you can get paid to help people all day.

I don't. They can't help being that way most times. Whether from medication or injuries which prevent one from being active, I never ever judge.

I'm sure they have enough issues themselves and I can say I have never looked at an overweight person with disgust.

I've never been overweight nor had an issue with weight gain, but I have been the butt of jokes because of my thin-ness and I know how sh itty it feels to be judged by how one looks/weighs.
This thread is not going to end well.

It's very hard for me to write this and I'm choosing my words very carefully. Because of previously being a morbidly obese person myself and going through the 18-month process of having gastric bypass surgery four years ago, I judge no person for any reason. It's just not my place. Thankfully, you keep your feelings to yourself! Everyone comes to terms with who they are (either accepting and loving themselves or resolving to make a change). Glad you feel guilty as you should.

To all the folks on these posts trying to lose any amount of weight - good for you! This is supposed to be a site that encourages and motivates people in their journey to a healthier way of life. I hope you haven't affected one person on this site with your harsh thoughts. Let's all try to be very positive on MFP :flowerforyou:

You are lying if you saythat you NEVER judge. Don't be a hypocrite

I don't judge them. I completely understand them. Everyone has their battles; we just may battle different things. I do want to run up to obese young people and tell them to change their lifestyles now - it's much easier to lose weight while you're young and still have a metabolism. But I would never do that. I don't want to make them feel any worse than they probably already feel.

Don't be a diick.

THIS.

It's very hard for me to write this and I'm choosing my words very carefully. Because of previously being a morbidly obese person myself and going through the 18-month process of having gastric bypass surgery four years ago, I judge no person for any reason. It's just not my place. Thankfully, you keep your feelings to yourself! Everyone comes to terms with who they are (either accepting and loving themselves or resolving to make a change). Glad you feel guilty as you should.

To all the folks on these posts trying to lose any amount of weight - good for you! This is supposed to be a site that encourages and motivates people in their journey to a healthier way of life. I hope you haven't affected one person on this site with your harsh thoughts. Let's all try to be very positive on MFP :flowerforyou:

You are lying if you saythat you NEVER judge. Don't be a hypocrite

While this wasn't in reference to my own post, I can safely say I never judge someone based solely on weight. If someone acts like a punk then sure I judge, but that transcends weight, class, gender, whatever.

While I agree judging is bad and all that, I feel positive that every single person that has responded has probably judged someone in their life in SOME way, even if they kept it to themselves...if you haven't then truly good for you that's awesome and we should all try to be like that. :flowerforyou:

OP- good for you for admitting it...and for knowing that it's wrong. Maybe that's the first step to changing your thinking! Next time you find yourself judging someone maybe stop and consider it- not dwelling on the judgemental thought obviously...but maybe consider it from a different angle making it positive?