I can't help judging fat people

I don't. They can't help being that way most times. Whether from medication or injuries which prevent one from being active, I never ever judge.

I am going to correct that sentance. They can't help being that way some times.

Sentence, not "sentance". I apologize for my oh so incorrect grammar.....oh lordy lordy what a sin!

Though I do apologize for the spelling error, I was not correcting your grammar.....

Wow......harsh, much?

OP, you're not an awful person, you're simply human and you posted on here because you felt badly about what you're feeling. No one is perfect, including those calling you a **** or an *kitten*.
Everyone judges, right or wrong, and anyone who says they don't is a liar. It's human nature, but you have the common sense and decency to not run up and spout off to people that you think they're making bad choices.
Don't be so hard on yourself.

I think you brought a very honest post here. Maybe the word judge sounds critical. Maybe you are evaluating and considering what got yourself and others obese. When I go to the grocery store, especially Trader Joes, I look at what healthy appearing people are choosing and sometimes I get ideas. At the commissary where I do the majoriety of my shopping I see very obese people choosing high calorie processed foods that are not healthy. I also see parents buying a lot of sugary drinks and cereals for their children. For a nation that is so smart we sure have been mislead by the food industry.

If this is how you feel, then be yourself.
I wish everyone would make a healthy change in their life.
Sadly this will not happen.

I push forward in my own life hoping to be a positive role model.
I don't judge others for their choices.
Nobody is perfect.

Happy you have made a healthy choice for yourself.
Wish the best for you!

I don't think you are an *kitten* or anything of the sort but can also see how people can read this and think you are. I understand where your coming from but I think having compassion is the most important thing you can do. Be proud of yourself for changing but understand to each their own and you yourself had to make the decision to change. Maybe they will get there, maybe they wont.

Dude, prepare yourself for the flame spray of offended. You crossed the "you hurt my feelings line" of someone I am sure. Good luck to you.

LOL DOH!!!!

I judge smokers fo sure! UGH!!! ex smokers are the worst, arent we?

I feel bad for bigger people because it's mostly ignorance. They have no clue why they are big, they just think they are and that's that. It takes an epiphany for people that have lived that way for so long. It does make me cringe to see what they have in their baskets but I don't judge, I wish them knowledge and motivation, as well as great support when and if they do realize they have control over it.

It's awful isn't it? I hope they can't tell.

I see them gasping for breath at the top of the stairs or squeezing into a seat on the bus. I look at all the dreadful choices in the shopping basket.

Just a few short months ago it would have been me and now the boot's on the other foot. I recognise that I've still some way to go before I hit 'healthy weight' myself but if I see morbidly obese people I feel like going up to them and saying 'hey, I've lost five stone so far this year - you could do it too'

Of course I don't actually do it. I'm the same with smokers having given that up six years ago.

I feel guilty for judging - after all, I don't know the reasons for a person's body shape - but it's shocking to be seeing people as others would have seen me and sure as hell another motivator for me 'never going back'

I don't know that I would call what you are doing "judging" per se, as it doesn't seem like you're really thinking it with a condescending or condemning attitude. You simply remember what it was like to be in their position, and you know how much better you feel now. You just wish for them to be able to experience that same feeling. However, you are wise to keep those thoughts to yourself. Unless a person has come to a point where they really want to change their habits, such thoughts are not generally well received.

From my side and from someone who is working on it, I wonder who is judging me and I wonder if they know how I'm trying to change for the better so that I'm not so offensive to the eyes. I was at Zumba last night and because I got there late I had to be in the middle and wondered just what those people behind me was thinking when they see me try but not quite getting everything because I still can't do it all, but in my head I'm saying I may not do it now but I will get there, yes I will get there. But will they care that I'm working on it or will they judge me because I got this heavy to begin with.

You made me smile really big! Thanks

I'm sorry that you hurt so many people's very fragile feelings.

Seriously, all of you, toughen up a little. I hate to break it to you, but THE WHOLE WORLD judges you- this guy just has the balls to admit it.

I weighed almost 200 pounds in high school, at 5 feet tall. At 135 now, having overcome binging, deprivation, a drug problem and obesity, I have earned the right to say "Yes, I AM better than you, and I'm not going to feel bad about it". I judge the middle age fat ladies wheeling around Wal-Mart throwing cupcakes and Doritos into their cart. I judge the people that are obviously overfeeding their kids. That doesn't mean I run up to them and tell them what terrible people they are, but yes, sometimes, I do think less of people who have given up and accepted an unhealthy life because they're too lazy to give a damn.

you have NO idea where someone is in their life. you have no idea where they have been or where they are going. if you see someone huffing and puffing at the top of the stairs - hey, they took the STAIRS! you don't know if that's the biggest NSV they've ever had. you don't know if they were once 600lbs. and are only NOW down enough to WALK the stairs.

i can understand that fear can show itself as anger very easily - and extereme judgement is actually a manifestation of that anger - but if you're having that much trouble, then might i suggest therapy.

healthy bodies are nothing without healthy brains and healthy sense-of self inside them.

The only time I judge other fat people negatively, keeping in mind I'm still one myself, is when they park in a handicapped spot and take it away from the legitimately handicapped who might really need to park there. But that goes for skinny people who abuse those parking spots too.

However, I don't think we can help but make a snap judgements of other people. It's part of how humans relate to each other. What you do with that judgement is what matters.

I just read the first page haha so sorry if this is a repeat.

There is a huge difference between *thinking* and saying. I'm sure its mostly out of good intentions that you would want to say something, but you know with your heart that's inappropriate. Don't be so harsh on yourself! You're good!

I know what you mean 100% and wish people were more enlightened. What I get upset about is when they try to argue that they are victims of fast food and high fructose corn syrup. I think these are good opportunities to speak your mind about your own weight loss etc etc. But in the store, remember you don't know the other side to it. It could be they are in the process of losing a huge amount of weight, but wanted to treat themselves once...or like my family, had a tragic loss and its really hard to "be hard" on yourself with diet if its not embedded yet. We are all at different stages of self control and you can't judge that by one shopping cart.

you have NO idea where someone is in their life. you have no idea where they have been or where they are going. if you see someone huffing and puffing at the top of the stairs - hey, they took the STAIRS! you don't know if that's the biggest NSV they've ever had. you don't know if they were once 600lbs. and are only NOW down enough to WALK the stairs.

i can understand that fear can show itself as anger very easily - and extereme judgement is actually a manifestation of that anger - but if you're having that much trouble, then might i suggest therapy.

healthy bodies are nothing without healthy brains and healthy sense-of self inside them.

I don't think he's scared of the fat people. And I'm pretty sure he could out run them if he were.

You should re read his OP. Your reaction is extreme considering how mild the OP is.

You are the reason why people sometimes give up. Guess what? Maybe that fat person is walking everyday, running and eating better. Why don't you wait until they live with you, see them eat fried chicken and donuts all day and night before saying anything. You suck and I hope you catch a charlie horse.

I wonder if someone saw me getting on a bus they would think the same thing. Even though I have changed my diet, and I exercise every single day of my life, I still get out of breath when I walk (especially if there is a hill). You SHOULDN'T even have posted this. This is the kind of thing that someone might see and just give up. Especially someone like me who has over 100lbs to go!! This post isn't motivational or supportive.

This guy speaks for all the a*sholes of the world (though I'm sure there are a lot), and who cares what they think about you getting on the bus. If anything, you should feel sad for the OP. Don't let it discourage you or make you think everyone is judging you because they are not.