I should never have gone through my husbands ipad!!

MaryB2
MaryB2 Posts: 331 Member
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I was going through my husbands Ipad today and found some pictures that made me really sad. I weighed about 120 lbs until 2 years ago after I quit smoking and got up to 183. there were so many pics of me at the weight I want to be and some once I got to my highest weight. Seeing the pictures from how I used to be made me really sad but I also hope it makes me more determined!

Sorry, just had to whine a little :sad:

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  • aki7chien
    aki7chien Posts: 85 Member
    I weighed 185 at 5'5" when I met my husband 7 years ago. I started MFP at 135 and am now down to 126. It can be done.

    I look back at the few pics I allowed back then and feel the same. But you can do it!
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    to me that says that he loves you and, whatever you weigh, he still wants to keep pictures of you.
  • hockeymom95
    hockeymom95 Posts: 157 Member
    Use as Motivation! :happy:
  • conniehv40
    conniehv40 Posts: 442 Member
    Okay, I KNOW you gained weight, BUT..... To quit smoking is the HEALTHIEST thing you can do for your body! How long has it been? Did you say two years? That is absolutely great! It is the hardest thing in the world!

    Now that you have worked through the daily desire to smoke, you can slowly work on the food. Take it slow so you can make it stick! Like a healthier breakfast or lunch every day. Change one thing.... Add a walk.

    I will say, though, if you can quit smoking, you can do anything.

    Good luck
  • davepavone
    davepavone Posts: 42
    So you can whine all you want most of us will listen. However your missing some real motivating facts.
    Your Husband still sees you as you were. meaning he see's your true beauty. You noticed you pickup up a pound or two so you can now do something about it. So looking at the ipad was a good thing

    I would guess it aint all bad
  • mrsewert
    mrsewert Posts: 430 Member
    Use it as inspiration...I have my wedding picture from 11 years ago on my desk and I look at it and think "Man I thought I was fat then" I would give my right arm to be that weight again. LOL Chin up girl you will get there.
  • Sidesteal
    Sidesteal Posts: 5,510 Member
    Honestly I was expecting this to be about some crazy porn pics you found.
  • mandy_lynn
    mandy_lynn Posts: 165 Member
    I was expecting much worse! I'd say at least he loves you
  • beachlvr716
    beachlvr716 Posts: 12
    Congrats on the quiting smoking! That is a plus. Now, you can work on what you need to get back to where you were. You can do it!!
  • Leslietheriot
    Leslietheriot Posts: 303 Member
    Use as Motivation! :happy:
    AGREED!!
  • hypallage
    hypallage Posts: 624 Member
    Honestly I was expecting this to be about some crazy porn pics you found.

    same here!!
  • MaryB2
    MaryB2 Posts: 331 Member
    Thank you everyone for your comments. Yesterday was a little shocking and discouraging but y'all are right that I need to use it as motivation. I am glad I quit smoking l, although I joke that I should have kept that habit.

    Porn would have made for a more interesting post. :-)
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    My disappointment in the lack of porn aside...

    Silver lining - this should motivate you, make your proud of your man for seemingly supporting you regardless of your weight, make you smile because you have an iPad :)
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    Hey, I own that book! Not one of her bests, though.
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    Good. Print one out, and compare yourself to that picture from time to time. It's an excellent measure of progress.

    The past is the past. I've been overweight my entire adult life, a good bit of that firmly in the "morbidly obese" category. I'm 5.5 pounds from a BMI that qualifies me as "normal" and 2% away from a body fat percentage of "normal".

    I can look at my old pictures and get all remorseful that I wasted the best potential years of my life being very fat and all that has cost me, or I can look at my old pictures and see how far I've come, and revel in the fact that I have at least salvaged part of my 40s and turned them into the best ACTUAL years of my life so far.
  • MaryB2
    MaryB2 Posts: 331 Member
    My disappointment in the lack of porn aside...

    Silver lining - this should motivate you, make your proud of your man for seemingly supporting you regardless of your weight, make you smile because you have an iPad :)

    Sorry for misleading you. :-)

    You're right though. There are more bright sides to this than bad. It just took hearing other people's thoughts on it. I've decided that rather than be mad at myself for letting it happen to be happy that I know I can get back there.
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    You are you now, not you then. You'll become even MORE awesome than you were before.

    I am now the weight I was when I first met my husband, but my body is totally different. And I am happier in my body now than I was back then. Just use it as motivation for showing YOURSELF what you're capable of. =)
  • poppyloganriley
    poppyloganriley Posts: 44 Member
    Honestly I was expecting this to be about some crazy porn pics you found.


    :) But honestly, everybody else is right. What a great motivator! You can do this!
  • MochaMixAZ
    MochaMixAZ Posts: 844 Member
    Sad = cheeseburger-eating for me... so no sadness! Agree with other posters and hope you can use as motivation.

    And something else to think about - all of these experiences contribute to who you are TODAY. While you may look back and notice some missteps, you're all the wiser and more experienced for it. AND you have a great man standing by you!!
  • jenbk2
    jenbk2 Posts: 614 Member
    If you can print them out and put them on your fridge as a reminder of what you want to look like
  • lizzybethclaire
    lizzybethclaire Posts: 849 Member
    I know what you mean. I would love to be the weight I was back in HS when I thought I was "fat." It just proves my point, we are stupid from our teens into our mid-20's.
  • QuirkyPanda
    QuirkyPanda Posts: 44 Member
    Honestly I was expecting this to be about some crazy porn pics you found.

    Haha, me too!
  • Squig4
    Squig4 Posts: 2 Member
    Good for you!! I am smoke free 7 years this month and, I too, put on the poundage. If I could quit cold turkey, then I can get in better shape. Recently turned 50 and everything is slowing down, but not, I'm forging ahead. You can, too!! Use those pictures as motivation and inspiration. Good luck.
  • focus4fitness
    focus4fitness Posts: 551 Member
    I know how you feel. I got up to 171 and I was 115. We watched some home movies of me playing with my baby and putting up Christmas stuff and I looked AMAZING. lol (at least to me I did) So depressing. But you know what? We were there once, and we can get there again! I am down to 143 and feel better everyday!
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
    I was going through old photos and found some of when I was like 50# lighter.. .and I remember thinking at that time that I was horridly big… IF ONLY I STAYED THAT WAY…..
  • EveyRose
    EveyRose Posts: 74 Member
    Congrats on the quiting smoking! That is a plus. Now, you can work on what you need to get back to where you were. You can do it!!


    i use a pic on the fridge form my heaviest weight to remind me why I'm tryign to be healthier. and the others are right, he has stuck with you through the weight gain so that is sign he truly loves you and its time for you to love yourself and take care of business. feel free to add me as a friend for motivation purposes if you want! sometime s we all need that wake up call!!
  • jeanninecurran
    jeanninecurran Posts: 63 Member
    Had a similar experience this weekend. My fiance' was going thru his pics and there was one of me at my highest weight (183) and I was proud of myself instead of feeling insecure as I always used to. I don't know if it's age (I'm 50) or the fact that he never made me feel ugly but I no longer am an insecure woman. I gained weight and now I'm doing something about it. I can tell you have great muscle tone and I think you looked pretty even when you weighed more. You are right to see it as an inspiration, We women have to be nicer to ourselves
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    Honestly I was expecting this to be about some crazy porn pics you found.

    Me too. I mean, maybe a donkey show or something.

    Seriously, my wife does this when she looks at her old pics sometimes... especially if she looks at her pictures from before we had two kids. I have nothing but love for her and even more because she's given us two beautiful girls. My life is better with her and if she decided to do something about the weight, I'll support her however I can.

    Quitting smoking is a big deal! Congratulations! That was a major hurdle to a longer, healthier life.
  • SinCity2003
    SinCity2003 Posts: 163 Member
    I look at pictures nearly all day long of what I used to weigh....my wedding pictures are all over the house. I have to remind myself though that DH was with me for 5 years and asked me to marry him when I weighed what I do right now, not what I weighed when we got married (I lost 91lbs once we got engaged). I kept it off until I got pregnant with our son...who will be 8 in 3 months. I'm losing much more slowly this time, but my DH reminds me all the time that he ask me to marry him at this size and that I don't need to be that small again. It's for me, though..I'm not happy at this size and that's truly what matters. I agree with others that your DH loves you no matter your size :)

    Congrats on quitting smoking! My quit date is August 3rd and I'm terrified that all the weight is going to pile back on way quicker than I've been able to lose it. We will see!
  • Vince_1964
    Vince_1964 Posts: 359 Member
    1. Use this as motivation to get where you want to be, and ...
    2. Like most of us men (despite what I see in some of these posts :noway: ) - it's not about the way you look ... we love you for who you are!

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