need advice

deniseearheart
deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
So ,my step sister lives in Vegas that is 6 hours from me. Since I moved to Arizona I have traveled through Vegas a few times not to mention going to see her just because, or flying out of vegas to see and spend time with her... When my brother got married in March she didnt make it to the wedding because she said she had money issues but then 2 days later went on a romantic weekend getaway with her husband... Few months ago she and her husband decided they were going to come and spend the 4th of July weekend with me here in Arizona since she has not been to see me once. Every week I asked her if her husband could get the time off or not and she kept saying i dont know i will check etc... Then said he could not get it off. Well yesterday the 5th of july she posts on facebook about a trip to Kansas their making as of yesterday and mentioned all the states they are going to go through and of course Arizona is not one of them... I am so pissed, I know saying something to her would give her what she wants an argument... what would you do??????

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  • SPNLuver83
    SPNLuver83 Posts: 2,050 Member
    She's family, you should be able to express yourself with her If it starts an argument then so be it, families fight.
  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    Well, the first trip may have been planned well in advance, and while i understand you being mad, her husband does come first to her now..

    the recent trip, i would just flat out ask her! You are sisters.. and its not like shes keeping it from you, by posting it on facebook! Be honest with each other! You may find out it was all misunderstood! If not.. well, you cant choose your family.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,393 Member
    Given there is no information on your knowledge of their expenses and that planned trips are usually already paid for/budgeted at the times they occur...I wont say anything other than this...

    She's your sister. Why are you fearing discussing it with her?
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    Given there is no information on your knowledge of their expenses and that planned trips are usually already paid for/budgeted at the times they occur...I wont say anything other than this...

    She's your sister. Why are you fearing discussing it with her?



    UMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM she was planning to come see me the 4th of July weekend.. If she did not want to or was making other plans she should not have even mentioned it then come up with a lame excuse that she can't then the next day after she was supposed to be here post she is travelling to Kansas... Little fuc*** up if you ask me.. Searching the right words to say to her not so easy and asking what others would do.....
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    Well, the first trip may have been planned well in advance, and while i understand you being mad, her husband does come first to her now..

    the recent trip, i would just flat out ask her! You are sisters.. and its not like shes keeping it from you, by posting it on facebook! Be honest with each other! You may find out it was all misunderstood! If not.. well, you cant choose your family.


    Maybe so but why tell your sister your going to come see her in the first place.. Not to mention all the effort I have put into going to see her.
  • marekdds
    marekdds Posts: 2,234 Member
    Yes, ask her flat out or this will only fester. If she doesn't want to see you or you are always second choice, you have a right to know. Tell her it was rude & you could have made other plans. jmo
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    sadly I learned a long time ago that I can't count on my family. so I never ask or plan anything, if I get invited to something I try to attend but I don't really make a huge effort.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    I recommend you leave Arizona. I live here, and it sucks. I don't think that will solve whatever you posted about, but I'm random with my advice.
  • mamamudbug
    mamamudbug Posts: 572 Member
    She's your sister, call her out on it. Then next time you see her, steal her makeup, a couple of shirts and put her in a headlock until she apologizes. <~ Works for my girls :flowerforyou:
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    I recommend you leave Arizona. I live here, and it sucks. I don't think that will solve whatever you posted about, but I'm random with my advice.




    ya I hate it here . We moved here 2 years ago from Seattle. Loved it there
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    She's your sister, call her out on it. Then next time you see her, steal her makeup, a couple of shirts and put her in a headlock until she apologizes. <~ Works for my girls :flowerforyou:




    SOOOOOOOOOOOO true.. I am going to steal her makeup LOL
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    Yes, ask her flat out or this will only fester. If she doesn't want to see you or you are always second choice, you have a right to know. Tell her it was rude & you could have made other plans. jmo




    yep true!!!!!!!!
  • deniseearheart
    deniseearheart Posts: 919 Member
    sadly I learned a long time ago that I can't count on my family. so I never ask or plan anything, if I get invited to something I try to attend but I don't really make a huge effort.



    sadly that is my case too.............
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