Tummy Skin...

Since having kids ( 3 yr old & 4 yr old now) my tummy looks different. The lotions and potions for stretch marks did very little to help so now I hide them by tanning....when my skin is darker, the stretch marks are less obvious. So that's the first issue with my tummy. Next, since I've been losing weight and inches, my tummy is gradually getting flatter (yay!) but there's this loose skin along with the stretch marks now. Will the skin tighten back up as I exercise or will I have to get cosmetic surgery for that?
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  • Curvy_princess
    Curvy_princess Posts: 135 Member
    Bump..I definitely need help in this area also..great question!
  • MoreThanMommie
    MoreThanMommie Posts: 597 Member
    Bump. I'm having the same problem...
  • I'm dealing with the same damn thing. I hate my stomach! Unfortunately, elasticity in your skin is usually hereditary. I was not blessed with "snap back" skin after having 4 kids in 8 years. When I'm done losing weight, I'll have to get a tummy tuck. :/
  • exercise. dont do cosmetic surgery. you can fix it yourself with just exercise, you get stretch marks because your body grew too fast in a small amount of time. you will still have stretch marks. but tighten your skin up and they'll fade, but not all the way.
  • bump
    my kids are 4 and 2 and I have a similar problem
  • FluttershySweetie
    FluttershySweetie Posts: 216 Member
    Hey! I'm in the same boat... I've learn that almost everyone has stretch marks even alot of people who have never had kids so they don't bother me as much anymore... but the loose skin... yeah... alot of people say it will go back... but i think depending on how much extra skin, cosmetic surgery may be the only option... I know for me it is the only option as I have ALOT of loose skin. Even my Dr said it will never go back to normal no matter what I do... :( oh well, my babies are worth it! haha Good luck!
  • riccoismydog
    riccoismydog Posts: 319 Member
    I've been waiting 12 years for mine to go back. I used to hate it, and be so ashamed. I don't mind it anymore. I look at my son and tell myself to stop being so vain. It's my badge of honor now. My son is and was a big boy. Of course I got stretched out! That being said. There is always "treatments" that will increase the collagen and maybe put things right. If not theres always the ol tummy tuck. Give it some more time and exercise and if it really bothers you, it can be fixed.
  • Menolly22
    Menolly22 Posts: 11 Member
    I have the sagging tummy skin as well. And the stretch marks. A friend of mine's personal trainer, who is totally ripped, lost alot of weight quite awhile ago. She still has the saggy tummy. Unfortunately, it sounds like the only way to completely rid yourself of the extra skin is surgery.
  • Mine is not going back with exercise. No way, no how. The stretch marks are NOT what I'm talking about, those don't even phase me anymore. It's the loose skin, not just a little "stretched out".
  • Tinman42
    Tinman42 Posts: 59 Member
    I've read a few articles about this - and it's really dependent on the individual and your genetics. Some people can lose a bunch of weight (slowly and steadily - aka, the right way!) and with exercise they will have a minimum of "extra" skin. Others, no matter how hard they try, may have to go the cosmetic surgery route. I have also heard that some insurance companies will help pay for that surgery after a large weight loss but haven't looked into that as of yet.....
  • kmac524
    kmac524 Posts: 24 Member
    I know how much loose skin you'll have, but I lost over 100lbs & the only way to get rid of my excess skin was cosmetic surgery :(

    I'm interested to see if others have answers to your questions. I, unfortunately, have a LOT of ugly stretchmarks. I've just realized that I'm gonna have to live with those. No creams or lotions or oils help me. I never thought of tanning to disguise them a bit. I'll try it though!
  • HulaHips83
    HulaHips83 Posts: 129
    exercise. dont do cosmetic surgery. you can fix it yourself with just exercise, you get stretch marks because your body grew too fast in a small amount of time. you will still have stretch marks. but tighten your skin up and they'll fade, but not all the way.

    Oh I can't guarantee that I won't get cosmetic surgery if I do everything within my power and my stomach still doesn't look right. I can't handle everything else looking as it should and then having the one big eye sore when I put on a swimsuit. I'll definitely do what I can by myself, but after that, if my stomach is still jacked up, I'm getting it fixed.
  • AmyLRed
    AmyLRed Posts: 856 Member
    it depends. It really depends on your age, your skin elasticity, your size, your body. I have only had one pregnancy but i got really really big in the belly (on a short 5'1" frame) and i have so many stretch marks that my belly is like a topgraphical map, no joke! I have a great deal of loose skin and while i am sure it will tighten a bit as i continue to lose weight and take care of my body, i know that it will not ever go away without a tummy tuck.
  • HulaHips83
    HulaHips83 Posts: 129
    If I end up going with cosmetic surgery, I'll probably get the laser stretch mark removal as well....might as well deal with all the imperfections at one time.
  • phillieschic
    phillieschic Posts: 615
    My oldest is 14 and my youngest is 9...and the skin is forever changed. HA!

    I'm pretty sure that my skin will never be taut and smooth again, but planks seem to be the best thing for me to tighten up my abs. :drinker:
  • Jbarbo01
    Jbarbo01 Posts: 240 Member
    The stretch marks never go away :-( they are pretty deep scars in the skin, but maybe its sweet since it shows how much your body went through to give you your beautiful babies? A bit too positive maybe, but you can fix the tummy skin. Exercise will do it, Ive read high intensity cardio, serious weight training, and a very clean diet does work. It takes time though. If you really work hard at exercising and eating clean, the tummy skin should shrink back within a year.
  • couponfun
    couponfun Posts: 714 Member
    I've read a few articles about this - and it's really dependent on the individual and your genetics. Some people can lose a bunch of weight (slowly and steadily - aka, the right way!) and with exercise they will have a minimum of "extra" skin. Others, no matter how hard they try, may have to go the cosmetic surgery route. I have also heard that some insurance companies will help pay for that surgery after a large weight loss but haven't looked into that as of yet.....

    I looked into it recently and confirmed with my OB/GYN. Insurance will pay for it if you have chronic, documented infections from the folds. In my case it "hangs" over my C-section scar, so I try to get powders/creams to help with the skin infections. The problem is that with my other health issues I can't afford to have chronic infections like that, so she said to me to try to lose the weight or as much as possible, and then she could put a request for the tummy tuck due to health issues. Because the skin is causing infections, etc, it would be covered by my insurance. But if there was no infection, then no it'd be cosmetic.

    HTH. I'm waiting til I lose the weight, though.
  • berlynn_j
    berlynn_j Posts: 299 Member
    I've been worried about this as well, since I have a large amount of weight to lose. I've been trying to do research and there are a few things that pop up over and over again as ways to help that lose skin after weight loss. First, I would chill with the tanning. Everything, and I do mean everything, I have ever read has said that tanning will negatively affect your skin and its elasticity, its ability to bounce back. It's not good for your skin and will cause it to age much faster than it will on its own. You are not doing yourself any favors with the tanning.

    But the things you can do to help with the lose skin (from what I've read through my research) is first of all be patient. Skin takes a while to bounce back, sometimes up to two years. And the older you are the longer and harder it is for your skin to tighten. Lose the weight slowly. This gives your skin time to change with your weight change. You lose weight really fast, your skin can't keep up. Eat a lot of lean protein as a part of your diet, and make sure your diet is low in fat. Drink lots of water. Get into weight lifting. This the tip I've heard the most. It will help to add muscle (no you won't get bulky, that's a myth) which will help fill out your skin. Plus, it makes you strong and who doesn't want a little muscle instead of just skin with no definition underneath. Pure cardio isn't gonna help with muscle. Try using some exfoliation scrub in the shower a few times a week to help get rid of dead skin cells which can help keep skin healthy which can help with elasticity. Also, try to avoid body washes with sulfates, they will dry your skin out.

    Now there are tons of miracle creams and solutions out there. Realize there is no such thing as a miracle cream. They just want to sell you something. 99.9% of the time, they don't work. You are gonna hafta to work at it, and give your skin time. Hope this helps.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,993 Member
    Exercise WON'T reduce loose skin. It's tissue that's been overstretched and genetics and age will determine if it tightens back up. If you're consistent with your weight for a year and the skin doesn't retract, chances are it won't. At that point, it's up to the person if they want to resort to surgery or accept the fact that it's part of what happens in weight loss.

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  • tjungkunz
    tjungkunz Posts: 39
    My stomach, or so I guess it's still called, looks like a pile of mush. Most of my fat there is gone & it's been 9yrs since my last baby. Hoping over time it will tighten some from losing weight, but grossly I can bunch mine up & hold it like a squishy ball lol :( Love my kids, but it's gross and not going away. As for stretch marks... haha just call me silverback & front & side....lol. Embrace being a mom (BEST THING!) and try your best to be a healthy example, THAT'S what matters most :)
  • missprincessgina
    missprincessgina Posts: 446 Member
    The only way to permanently remove stretch marks is by a laser. I went and had a consult with a cosmetic surgeon. It takes a few sessions and I haven't decided if I want to have them removed or not. I don't have kids so no comment on the loose stomach skin.
  • missprincessgina
    missprincessgina Posts: 446 Member
    If I end up going with cosmetic surgery, I'll probably get the laser stretch mark removal as well....might as well deal with all the imperfections at one time.

    Cosmetic surgery was the best decision I ever made for myself. I think it is a very personal choice. I know from my experience, I am 100% satisfied with my results. I had breast implants (after losing weight) but haven't made up my mind about having my stretch marks removed yet. Good luck with your decision.
  • honestly, coming from a kids perspective, if my mom didn't complain that she wasn't beautiful or that she thinks shes fat. then I wouldn't be in the place i'm at now. my mom is a single mother of 3, and we live pay check to pay check, she complains all the time that shes not good enough or that she's fat. but i love her for who she is, and as a person, shes my best friend and when I talk to her about my my weight, she gets upset. but i get it from her. and when I become a mom, I want my kids to see my stretch marks, because it makes me who I am! but i'm changing, how would you feel if your daughter or son was in your position and wanting to get surgery? you would say no, you're perfect the way you are. wouldn't you? I mean, you are who you are and only YOU can change that.
  • I think it depends on how big you were and for how long. I've read that it can take up to 2 or 3 yrs for your skin to settle in it's final position agter losing weight. The older you are, longer you carry the weight, and heavier you are, the less likely it is to bounce back. There is a breaking point, where your skin is too broke down and stretched out to bounce back, but that is different for everyone. Give it time after reaching your goal weight to see if you may need surgery or not. I have look up tips for " helping" it out as much as possible. They included things like, losing weight more slowly, exercise, lots of water, eating certain foods that increase cologen and elastin, such as almonds, not tanning bc that dries out the skin, trying not to be in chloronated water too much, lotions to help with moisture, and fighting gravity by wearing something like spanx... I know I will need surgery on my arms for sure. My arms look like I was 550lbs and lost 300. I have never seen anyone my size with such aweful arms. It makes summer hell. I don't feel pretty no matter how good I'm looking, with rolls of fat hanging out of my sleeves, but I still have hope for my stomach, back and thighs. Good luck!
  • HulaHips83
    HulaHips83 Posts: 129
    honestly, coming from a kids perspective, if my mom didn't complain that she wasn't beautiful or that she thinks shes fat. then I wouldn't be in the place i'm at now. my mom is a single mother of 3, and we live pay check to pay check, she complains all the time that shes not good enough or that she's fat. but i love her for who she is, and as a person, shes my best friend and when I talk to her about my my weight, she gets upset. but i get it from her. and when I become a mom, I want my kids to see my stretch marks, because it makes me who I am! but i'm changing, how would you feel if your daughter or son was in your position and wanting to get surgery? you would say no, you're perfect the way you are. wouldn't you? I mean, you are who you are and only YOU can change that.

    Sweetie, while I sympathize with you to a degree, I'm the way I am because of my mother as well. But it's from the other extreme. My mother was always the hot mom. She rocked a bikini better than my friends and I did in high school. She weighed about 95 lbs when I was a teenager, had/has long jet black hair, giant brown eyes, and gorgeous dimples. She is hawaiian and drop dead beautiful. It was always frustrating that the guys I went to school with talked about how hot my mom was. With that said, up until I had kids, I was thin and hot as well, but not 95 lbs. I hovered around the 120 lbs mark. I do not think it hurts kids to want to look good. I also don't see anything wrong with cosmetic surgery if that makes you feel better. I say that if it boosts your self esteem and makes you feel good, then go for it. There's nothing wrong with doing something for yourself. Women all want to feel pretty and sexy. What it takes to feel that way varies from one woman to the next. For me, a hot body is what it takes.
  • Hi ladies,

    That has been one of my biggest fears and my reasoning for not losing the weight...didnt want my tummy to sag and look ugly. I am 27 and only have 1 kid. I weigh more now then what i did 9 months prego with her. I started my journey at 257lbs and down to 237.4lbs and the thought is still in the back of my head. Will i be pretty, will i be able to wear a swim suite and look good in it, will my tummy be flat, will i still have 2 big rolls, etc...you never know but i can honestly say that right now i rather have sagy skin then be the fat girl forever. I have been told that if you have enough dairy in your diet it will help with the elasticity of your skin in all areas not just the tummy. But your genetics do play are part. My mom had 7 kids and not matter how much weight she has lost she still has a sagy tummy and a round tummy at that. I am hoping that i have better luck since i have only had 1 baby. A friend of mine had the gastric bypass and she was 280lbs and her skin isnt sagy from what i can tell. she probably needs to tighten it up which she is working on but she still looks dang good. I say if you want the surgery to fix it, then have it but think about it...it wont change who you are and it may not make you feel better about yourself. Be proud of the stretch marks. You have beatiful babies from them. and if you can cover them up with tanning then tan your butt off to hide them just dont go changing yourself to please other people. do it for you.
  • joybedford
    joybedford Posts: 1,680 Member
    I have this problem too I have lost 24 lbs so not a huge amount compared to some people but have a huge amount of excess skin that just hangs there. I really hate it and at times become a little depressed about it. Mine was caused by pregancy one baby weighing 9lb5 he is now 16 and then twins who were 7lb4 and 7lb now 8. As you can imagine i was huge and the skin stretched a lot. I still have a little weight to lose and am reallly concentrating on toning. Hopefully it will improve I have seen patients after tummy tucks and i have never seen one that looks nice yet plus it is major surgery and we couldn,t afford it anyway. My kids were worth it and my husband loves me and finds me sexy so its fine i suppose.
  • ericarae33
    ericarae33 Posts: 211 Member
    It will tighten up some, but never go away without sugery, ...I have a couple mom's on my friends list that look amazing however without surgery!! One has 6 children!
  • sweetNsassy2584
    sweetNsassy2584 Posts: 515 Member
    I have one son and I had a c-section. Lose skin sucks *kitten* but its the price we pay for having kids and/or gaining so much weight. My tummy continues to get tighter and tighter. I'm convinced that it wont be 100% tight like it was before I had my son but my tummy looks pretty good. Besides my son was worth it.
  • Jenjaz1910
    Jenjaz1910 Posts: 433 Member
    I know what you mean I'm only halfway to my goal but I've seen some improvements to my mummy tummy (if you go on my profile and into my threads you should see my mummy tummy thread with pics) x