At my wits end, Please help me!

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  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    You won't be a happier person if you lose another few lbs. It's the same with money - you won't be happier with more money. I've been rich and poor, thin and fat and none of these things changes our outlook or self-confidence.

    Love yourself. Treat your body well. Feed it. You cannot let a couple of lbs on the scale bug you...

    If you eat more, the scale numbers may go up temporarily, but then they will gradually slide on down to your goal weight if you keep consistent. Besides, when you get to your goal weight and increase calories to maintain, those water weight lbs are going to come back then too. You cannot go from cutting to maintaining without replenishing your glycogen/water stores, which will cause a few lbs gain.

    Add calories. Cut down sensibly to 2-3 lbs below your goal weight. Eat at maintenance after that.

    You can do this. Your body is amazing.
  • akjmart2002
    akjmart2002 Posts: 263 Member
    Honestly?

    Relax.

    Seriously. Chill out. You are coming across as way too panicked about this. Take a serious look at your habits, exercise, and caloric requirements and do the math. This is a good read, as well:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

    Don't eat too little or you won't like the results. Don't eat too much or you won't like the results.

    Work out with a good combination of cardio and weight training. Do some fun things that you enjoy.

    Don't freak out. It's a marathon, not a sprint.
  • DinahKyle
    DinahKyle Posts: 186 Member
    wow. A lot of you seem to be thinking that I need to be seeing a counselor or something. I agree that I have issues with my weight, but I didn't think that it was THAT bad. Again, thanks to all for the advice.
  • wftiger
    wftiger Posts: 1,283 Member
    Try upping your protein and lowering your carbs. If you are exercising a lot you will need the protein for your muscles. Many carbs can make people bloated, maybe if you cut back to half what you are eating now that will help you.
  • mcrowe1016
    mcrowe1016 Posts: 647 Member
    I love my scale - It is my best source of motivation. I am that person who weighs everyday and multiple times per day.

    If the variations bother you, weigh every morning and record each weight in excel and plot it in a line graph. This way you can make sure that the overall trend is that your weight is decreasing.
  • mscrumbyy
    mscrumbyy Posts: 116
    I agree with others who've said to just get rid of your scales altogether. I've seen people on here who've stayed the same weight/even gained one or two lbs and lost inches, that really depends on the type of exercise you're doing. But still, if you want to monitor progress and not worry about such big fluctuations I think regularly taking your measurements as opposed to actual weight (which can be affected by so many things aside from your diet and exercise habits) will help reduce some of the panic.

    I don't think the people suggesting counselling mean it in any sort of offensive way to you, though. I found counselling to be a pretty good tool when I was getting to grips with things because self confidence and learning to appreciate yourself is such a massive part of weight loss- if you despise yourself so much now are you really going to be happy 10lbs down the line? You're more likely to be successful/happy if you can keep a reasonably level headed view of yourself. It's okay to not be happy enough to want to change your weight, but if you're struggling to really appreciate the fact that you're losing inches (and therefore succeeding!) then you're probably not going to be much happier when you reach goal.

    Good luck :smile:
  • beautybandit1
    beautybandit1 Posts: 46
    Someone once asked me - what's more important, the number on the scale or how your body looks? When I was asked that everything changed for me...I realized that I would be freaking HAPPY if I weighed 200 pounds, but was a size 2. That was enough to get me away from the scale forever and just concentrate on dropping inches. If you think about it, no one will ever no how much you weigh, but they will SEE how small you are ;0) Good luck and stay positive - you're awesome :0)

    Thank you.... even though I'm not the one who wrote this, your words REALLY helped me!
  • DinahKyle
    DinahKyle Posts: 186 Member
    Try upping your protein and lowering your carbs. If you are exercising a lot you will need the protein for your muscles. Many carbs can make people bloated, maybe if you cut back to half what you are eating now that will help you.

    Okay, I am understanding that people are telling me to cut my carbs. But I don't really understand how to go about it. Any suggestions?
  • gilaman0819
    gilaman0819 Posts: 6
    muscle weighs more than fat so......................... if the inches are going down that is the main thing. don't beat yourself up
  • amivox
    amivox Posts: 441 Member
    If you are working on building muscle, throw your scale away. Or just hide it for a few months. The best way to measure progress when you are losing fat and building muscle is by measuring yourself. For every 1 lb of fat space, 3 lbs of muscle can fit there. So if your clothes fit better, you are fine. the scale is the devil
  • jwalker9598
    jwalker9598 Posts: 5
    I get frustrated too, I've been eating healthy for the last four weeks and working out at least five days a week for an hour and a half to two hours. I seriously have only lost like 8lbs total and it pisses me off. I figured the more weight you have to lose the faster it would shed...well not for me. I have noticed my legs do seem tighter, especially my thighs and my pants are loose in the thigh and butt area so I guess that's a good thing. Just try to stay positive...I know it's hard, especially when the scale doesn't say what you want.
  • janeite1990
    janeite1990 Posts: 671 Member
    I get frustrated too, I've been eating healthy for the last four weeks and working out at least five days a week for an hour and a half to two hours. I seriously have only lost like 8lbs total and it pisses me off. I figured the more weight you have to lose the faster it would shed...well not for me. I have noticed my legs do seem tighter, especially my thighs and my pants are loose in the thigh and butt area so I guess that's a good thing. Just try to stay positive...I know it's hard, especially when the scale doesn't say what you want.

    Eight pounds in four weeks is two pounds a week. That is awesome! Be proud, not pissed!
  • astrampe
    astrampe Posts: 2,169 Member
    You are not eating enough for that much exercise.
    ^^^This! Per your diary, you are eating around 1600, and then burning 800-1000....net is 600-800! If you're working that hard, you need to eat to fuel your body.

    THIS.....
  • mcarter99
    mcarter99 Posts: 1,666 Member
    Exercising 2 hours a day, every day, is not healthy, unless you mean you're walking or something. Exercise smarter, not longer. When you do that much, of course you get impatient and of course your scale stops moving.

    I think you'll get the same advice Mon. but your calorie level is fine for weight loss. And I wouldn't start blindly following anyone here's advice on macros, either.

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