Calorie guidance please!!

I prefer to eat the same amount every single day, workout or not so I go by this method:

BMR times TDEE minus a percentage. If you have a lot of weight the lose choose 15-20% (i'm closer to goal so I minus 13%).

http://www.fat2fitradio.com/tools/bmr/

MFP set my caloric goal, without excercise at 1370 a day. I was speaking with a trainer at my gym yesterday who said he feels like thats really low esp for someone who is active (I do circuit training 5-6 days a week). He encouraged me not to eat my excercise points and felt that I should consume the same amount of calories each day. I know that there are a million opinions out there, but I have stayed about the same weight and I keep reading about people who increased to about 1500 or so and then started to lose. I did just start about two weeks ago so I know that the weight loss does take time, I'm not looking for unrealistic results- I'm just feeling a little confused!

Any thoughts on this? Thank you!

OK--the 1370 is the number of calories to can safely consume in order to lose the weight you want to lose, based on your starting weight and BMI. If you include your circuit training in your exercise totals each day, just like you include every calorie you consume, you'll get an accurate estimate of what you will weigh in 5 weeks if every day is like that, exercise- and food-wise.

If you want to be a science project, do a lot of calculations and measure and weigh everything and use your BMI and BMR, etc., etc. I'd challenge anyone who uses one method or another to produce references that shows that that method actually works. (I'll bet there aren't any.)

Each day your energy and stress level, your activity level (whether or not you are training every day), your intake, your ounces of fluid--all those things will be a little difference. Your metabolism isn't absolutely consistent.

All the measuring in the world, all the "eat the same number of calories each day," doesn't change that. You would be controlling one or two factors in a system (your body) that has many many more factors, all of which fluctuate, and some of which depend on each other to determine those fluctuations.

Good thing we don't have to be that careful.

People who are healthy are balanced. If you are spending your day calculating this and controlling that, you are not living a balanced life.

Pay attention to your calories, eat balanced, pay attention to your activity level, and in between that, LIVE.

But anyone who gives you some kind of ultimatum like, eat the same number of calories each day--A) ask for a SCHOLARLY, CREDIBLE reference for that suggestion....

That kind of silly pseudo science will raise your stress level (and thus your cortisol, which in turn changes your metabolism....). It also means that if you want an apple one day and a cookie the next, you can't do that because..... you aren't following the rigid plan.

You want to lose weight? It's calories in must be less than calories expended. That's it.