Giving up, and gaining weight?

VictoriaSadler
VictoriaSadler Posts: 13 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Just by looking at my diary, my love for food is evident. It shows how i cannot stop eating, in the morning, lunch, dinner and even after. How can I stop? I don't know. It's too hard. I just want to be thin....



How can i actually suprese hunger, improve my will power not to eat. Any advice? Things have gotten from terrible to bad now and I'm not sure what to do. Anyone else want to offer some advice?

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  • MissGND
    MissGND Posts: 11
    The love of food usually stems from childhood problems, stress eating and emotional issues. If your will power is not strong enough to over come your love of food, then I would suggest seeking professional help. Sometimes, especially women, eat to counter their emotions and stress, instead of confronting the real issue that is troubling us we take comfort in food. If we don't figure out why we eat, and resolve the issue we continue to use food as a substitute for many of the emotional things we need, or to disassociate ourselves from the problems we are facing, we keep gaining weight which adds to our emotional and stressful issues, we get depressed and give up, and eventually kill ourselves with food. There is nothing wrong with enjoying food, but when the "love" of food takes over our lives, food is not the real problem.
  • jynxxxed
    jynxxxed Posts: 1,010 Member
    Replacements. Eating a part of a doughnut for 200 calories will not fill you up nearly the same as 200 calories worth of vegetables will. In your position, I would personally remove all of the junk from my diet and find veggies/fruits that I can snack on throughout the day guilt free for MUCH lower caloric content (and more nutritional value in general). Next time you're hungry instead of grabbing a candy bar, grab a bunch of cherry tomatoes or something similar instead.
  • ChapinaGrande
    ChapinaGrande Posts: 289 Member
    The love of food usually stems from childhood problems, stress eating and emotional issues. If your will power is not strong enough to over come your love of food, then I would suggest seeking professional help. Sometimes, especially women, eat to counter their emotions and stress, instead of confronting the real issue that is troubling us we take comfort in food. If we don't figure out why we eat, and resolve the issue we continue to use food as a substitute for many of the emotional things we need, or to disassociate ourselves from the problems we are facing, we keep gaining weight which adds to our emotional and stressful issues, we get depressed and give up, and eventually kill ourselves with food. There is nothing wrong with enjoying food, but when the "love" of food takes over our lives, food is not the real problem.

    I 100% agree. I have spent the last year almost in counseling and resolved some personal issues and now, I don't feel the need to eat constantly anymore. I stop eating when I'm full. Even when I'm stressed, food is only nutrition nowadays. I am happier than I have been in my entire life. No exaggeration.
  • AlexPaige
    AlexPaige Posts: 72 Member
    I know this may not be what you want to hear, but being healthy is so much more important than the "t" word (aka thin). While it might be an added bonus if you can ultimately get down to your ideal measurments, health should not be defined by your waist, hip and arm sizes! Like others have said, it might be helpful to seek professional help to get down to the root cause of your food addiction. I find that if I'm in my over-eating phase, just getting rid of the tempation will curb it-if it's not in your house, you can't eat it! If I'm thinking about how much I'd love some Hostess Cupcakes, I'd have to actually drive to the store,then drive home just to eat them, and for the most part it's just not worth it. That might be helpful to you too ( :
    I hope you can overcome this and just know that MFP is supporting you!
  • 75Juniper
    75Juniper Posts: 376
    Just by looking at my diary, my love for food is evident. It shows how i cannot stop eating, in the morning, lunch, dinner and even after. How can I stop? I don't know. It's too hard. I just want to be thin....



    How can i actually suprese hunger, improve my will power not to eat. Any advice? Things have gotten from terrible to bad now and I'm not sure what to do. Anyone else want to offer some advice?

    Umm, you are under your calorie goal every day. I'm confused about this inability to control yourself that you're talking about, especially when the timeframes you are referring to are called normal meal times and you aren't eating excessively.
  • jamiem1102
    jamiem1102 Posts: 1,196 Member
    I'm kind of the same way. I LOVE to eat... but what helps me with hunger is usually caffeine - coffee and tea. Plus I've found lots of substitutes for things that I love or just eat what I want in moderation. I also make sure I run if i want to eat something in particular if I know that I want something that is super high in calories. :)

    Good luck to you! If your desire to lose weight is legit, then you'll figure it out. :)
  • Springer007
    Springer007 Posts: 84 Member
    Just by looking at my diary, my love for food is evident. It shows how i cannot stop eating, in the morning, lunch, dinner and even after. How can I stop? I don't know. It's too hard. I just want to be thin....



    How can i actually suprese hunger, improve my will power not to eat. Any advice? Things have gotten from terrible to bad now and I'm not sure what to do. Anyone else want to offer some advice?

    First off, by looking at your picture, you dont have a severe weight problem. You look to be pretty good as you are. That being said I can understand wanting to lose a couple pounds. However, this is where you will struggle. Because you dont have a lot to lose, its hard to find the will power to make the necessary changes. When you reach your goal, you wont have the transformation that many overweight people get to see and reward themselves with.

    If you want it bad enough, the will power will come to you. Until then, you simply dont want the change bad enough to make it happen.

    Oh and by looking at your journal, you are in the green every day, but its only because you are over estimating your excercise and activities. Dont give yourself 60-70 calories credit for "cooking". Little things like this should not be counted as cardio activities. Im not even sure why they put them out there. They only trick people into thinking they can eat more.
  • mielchat
    mielchat Posts: 41 Member
    I just looked at your diary, and you seem to be lacking protein and fruit/veg. Like insomniaddict said, it's a good idea to fill up on fruits and vegetables since they're low calorie & high fibre, so can keep you satisfied. Also, protein is very good at controlling hunger. I eat a lot more protein rich foods now and I've lost that need to snack.

    If you search 'high protein meals' or 'low calorie snacks' in the database it might help with idea's :smile:

    Edit: Just adding that chewing gum after a meal can help.
  • Roxanne082
    Roxanne082 Posts: 6 Member
    This is exactly how I feel. I have gained 5lbs this past week and I just want to give up..
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,290 Member
    Are you sure its hunger...or do you just want to eat? There IS a difference. I was rarely hungry before I started my weight loss program. I just wanted to eat....and eat...and eat for the sake of eating. To enjoy the taste....to make myself feel better....to end the boredom. Now I actually feel hungry .....first time I can remember that in many years.

    When you are hungry, you need to eat. If you just want to eat, you need to find a reason NOT to. Thats something that has to come from within you. Everyone can offer support but we cant keep you from eating. You have to want to be thin badly enough to stop. :)
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    Just by looking at my diary, my love for food is evident. It shows how i cannot stop eating, in the morning, lunch, dinner and even after. How can I stop? I don't know. It's too hard. I just want to be thin....



    How can i actually suprese hunger, improve my will power not to eat. Any advice? Things have gotten from terrible to bad now and I'm not sure what to do. Anyone else want to offer some advice?

    Umm, you are under your calorie goal every day. I'm confused about this inability to control yourself that you're talking about, especially when the timeframes you are referring to are called normal meal times and you aren't eating excessively.

    THIS! I'm not understanding the problem either.. Although I will say, upping your protein will help a lot. And as someone else said, aim for health, not "skinny".
  • Lesley2901
    Lesley2901 Posts: 372 Member
    Having looked at the last week of your diary you're eating under your calorie goal which will leave you feeling hungry. You need to eat more and cut down on the processed food ( I find a lot of processed foods still leave me hungry and craving more sugary foods).
  • tlblood
    tlblood Posts: 473 Member
    I just looked at your diary, and you seem to be lacking protein and fruit/veg. Like insomniaddict said, it's a good idea to fill up on fruits and vegetables since they're low calorie & high fibre, so can keep you satisfied. Also, protein is very good at controlling hunger. I eat a lot more protein rich foods now and I've lost that need to snack.

    If you search 'high protein meals' or 'low calorie snacks' in the database it might help with idea's :smile:

    Edit: Just adding that chewing gum after a meal can help.

    This is exactly what I was going to say.
  • BeantownSooner
    BeantownSooner Posts: 254
    As many has said here you should add lots of fruits, veggies and protein. A lot of what you eat looks like refined carbs which your body wants more of all the time.
  • VictoriaSadler
    VictoriaSadler Posts: 13 Member
    With the meals. i put things in midday and stuff, and lunch, but today- i ate most of it in one sitting at home tonight. I just can't seem to stop eating at once :/
  • VictoriaSadler
    VictoriaSadler Posts: 13 Member
    And it may say i'm under calorie intake. but i changed my thing today from 1200, to 1800 to maintain my weight.... :(
  • mielchat
    mielchat Posts: 41 Member
    With the meals. i put things in midday and stuff, and lunch, but today- i ate most of it in one sitting at home tonight. I just can't seem to stop eating at once :/

    Maybe try prelogging/planning your meals and spread them out through the day?
  • 75Juniper
    75Juniper Posts: 376
    And it may say i'm under calorie intake. but i changed my thing today from 1200, to 1800 to maintain my weight.... :(

    In addition to the protein recommendation, I don't think you're eating enough. 1200 isn't very much, especially if you are exercising. And are you waiting too long to eat and then you're too hungry? You mentioned you ate your food today in one sitting - if you didn't eat earlier and you were starving, that makes it hard to stop. You could try planning your food for the day and then breaking it up into 4-6 meals to see if that helps.
  • beansprouts
    beansprouts Posts: 410 Member
    Calorie wise...Your food diary looks fine...I wish that someone had told me back when I was 18 to log my food...Hunger is normal and healthy....I would actually worry more about not being able to tell when your body is saying that it is full and that it has had enough to eat... Concentrate on making sure that your food choices are meeting your nutritional needs first (unprocessed food is best)....After you do that...a lot of the hunger should subside.
  • waldo56
    waldo56 Posts: 1,861 Member
    If you can give up, you may as well go ahead and do so, you are doing it wrong and will eventually gain it all back anyway if you do somehow have some success.

    When you find the motivation, failure will not be an option and there will be nothing left to give up too. No wagon to fall off.

    If you can give up, it is a sign that you aren't ready to not be fat for good.

    Look at it like this. If you are a parent is it even remotely possible to give up and walk away from being a parent? No. Sure you might have moments where you need a break, but failure is not an option at all, you can't just give up and fall off the wagon. If you wish to change your life from one of being fat to one of not being fat, you need to find this level of motivation, ironclad commitment to a changed life. Most people claim they want to lose weight. Very few people are willing to actually change their life to meet this goal, to throw all their chips in the pot and go all in.
  • jynxxxed
    jynxxxed Posts: 1,010 Member
    I just read your profile explaining more about your relationship with food. Eating is far from the enemy.. if you're hungry, EAT! Ditch all of the candy bars and junk, and swap it for better and more healthier options.
    I think having the mindset of "eating = fat and not eating = thin" could present a problem. You should eat often but just with healthier foods instead. Setting those unrealistic limits on how often you should eat will likely set you up for failure.
  • newhabit
    newhabit Posts: 426 Member
    I ask myself the same question. I have tried to figure out when specifically I want to eat too much. Mostly I am bored or craving the taste of something specific. I try and figure out what is going on and then I try to occupy myself with other thoughts. It works most of the time. But there are other times I just feel like I love food too much. I agree about replacements but they have to be things you really love. For me, popcorn is something that works. It is low calorie and give me that crunchy thing I am looknig for instead of chips and other things like that. baby carrots are good too. i like them and they are low calorie. You really have to find some good replacement foods. Sure there are thigns we all love, like chocolate and things liek that. but if you stay away from some of the sugary high fat stuff I find that after about a week of staying away from them i actually don't desire them as much anymore. It is a tough battle and I understand. I too have issues with loving food too much.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    I just gained 2 lbs, however, this happened before, I strayed some from the what MFP suggested for me but tightened back up and to date have lost 60 lbs out of the 100 lbs I'm going for.

    You will lose weight, but only if you keep it up. This is not a test, you can't fail (unless you give up), there will be bumps in the road.

    Keep it up, you will do it.
  • HisShadow
    HisShadow Posts: 59 Member
    Well, it was helpful for me to hear from my Doctor that I've got to lose weight or die... YMMV.
  • beansprouts
    beansprouts Posts: 410 Member
    Well, it was helpful for me to hear from my Doctor that I've got to lose weight or die... YMMV.

    Yep.... getting that kind of news will certainly put that whole love eating/food in an entirely different perspective!...Hopefully OP will never face that kind of music.

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