Anyone Lack Confidence or Self Esteem?

Ready4Change5 · July 2012

Hi everyone so I have struggled with finding confidence in myself or good self esteem. I always find my self thinking why can't I look like this person. I've always struggled with thinking I am pretty because I feel everyone looks better than me. I always was made fun all throughout school and being twenty one is hasn't even stopped. When I was working the other day a group of people called me ugly. The just crushed all my self esteem. I really don't know how to fix it when others see the same as me. I really could use some support.
Anyone else have low self esteem?

IamSheaMc · July 2012

I had to zoom up on your pic to see why someone would call you ugle. I honestly don't think you are ugly and they might have said that because they see your weakness and to try and break you that's what they when after.

I don't blow smoke up anyone's butt you aren't ugly.

People will recieve what you give off. A man will go for the more confident girl if the prittier girl is insecure. What i'm trying to say is if you feel ugly you start to act like you are, and people will see you for that, I could be less attractive than you but I believe in myself that I am beautiful no matter what, and my personality reflects that and people see that.

Ready4Change5 · July 2012

Thank you for that!

genuinelyfrans · July 2012

Hey don't sweat it, I have low self-esteem too. I have had very little confidence throughout my life. Being overweight did not make me feel good about myself. There were days when I dreaded looking in the mirror. Now my confidence is still shaky but it is getting better. Definitely a long way to go before I am confident in how I look.

Ready4Change5 · July 2012

Ya I am hoping once I get to the weight/body I want it will make me feel better and it will start to change

coachblt · July 2012

Not to sound like a creeper or anything, but you are NOT ugly.

Yes, losing weight will help you mentally and, of course, physically. However, don't you believe for one second that you are ugly. Telling someone else they are ugly is ugly, though.

Keep the faith!

hooperkay · July 2012

I have always thought I was pretty much invisible. Not that I'm ugly or anything like that, but just not memorable. I think you have to learn to deal with it yourself. I'm okay with me. I don't have to be the center of attention. I am 40 though, had a little more time than you.I did waste a few years avoiding people because of this thinking. I would offer this little bit of advice. Life is short-- you could spend it sitting around wondering what people thought or who you'd like to look like, or you could live YOUR life to it's fullest. Forget about the negative people and enjoy yourself. Find a hobby or activity you like and do it. Your happiness will reflect in your personality. I'd much rather have true friends/ lovers who liked me for me than just the way I looked. I'd like to add that you are beautiful and a bubbly bright personality would only make you more shiny.

stpetegirl · July 2012

Yeah I've struggled with it for along time! One of the reasons I'm on here getting myself healthy, because I want to find the self esteem I lost a long time ago as I gained weight. And I looked at your pic, no way your ugly!!

MartiJ521 · July 2012

I lack Self Esteem

I've always thought I was never pretty enough

shelbiejo · July 2012

I totally get where you are coming from. I struggled with the same thing growing up and like you it hasn't stopped now that I am 20 either. It was actually some girls smug comment about me that got me to start making changes in my body/life style. It is hard. Don't get me wrong, I have good days where I feel like I am a straight up 10....But most the times that just isn't the case. It has started taking a huge toll on my relationships and has started giving me really bad anxiety. It is at the point now that I can't even be in a room with a bunch of people without getting close to fainting.

I'm trying to realize that nobody can ever be the "perfect looking" girl. Every girl I find very attractive from movie stars to people in my classes, will have people who consider them "ugly." And I know it is easier said than done, but we need to worry about ourselves. If we will good about our bodies and our looks then it shouldn't matter what anyone else's opinion is.

Peoples words hurt. I know I've said thing before that have taken a toll on others self esteems, but when I said it I never took in to consideration the other person feelings or situation they where in. In the past when I have said things I was viewing the person as just a meaningless object really. People don't think before they speak. People can be shallow. You are beautiful. I'm sorry you had to hear such hurtful words from such immature people. Keep your head up girl! There are millions of people out there that would kill to look like you! Never forget that!

MrsAngelique · July 2012

Hi R4C5!

I know all about low self esteem and I know what it is like to believe a lie that others are better than you just because of the way that you look outwardly. I tell you the truth skinner or fat, your body shape does not define the person you really are. I know I have been both lol... I have not been called ugly but I have been asked how many months pregnant I was. I also know what it felt like for people to look down on me just because I no longer have the shape I once did when I use to model. All these thing use to get me and I would become depressed but things changed for me when I took my eyes off of other peoples negative opinions and started believe in me, in who God says that I am, and in what I can do. I learned that I am special, unique, with so much love to give. I am sure that you are too as well as many on here on this site. I learned that all though I may not be able to change people, that I can change the way I respond to them. I can choose to believe the truth, that I am far better than what some people have judged me to be and that I am proving it to myself by loving me, taking care of me, doing something about my weight problem and by making a positive change. I can only hope that you may find it in yourself to look beyond other people opinions and start believing in yourself as well and see the real beautiful person that you really are :flowerforyou:

P.S. Did you deactivate your account???

ChcolateLady11 · July 2012

Yes I do.

My sisters are so beautiful and small. I am the big "pretty" one. It is hard being next to them at times.
Slowly, and I mean s...l..o..w..l..y I am gaining confidence. I tell myself while working out that I am beautiful, or sexy,...ect it seems to be helping, but I still have my low points/days.

Anyone Lack Confidence or Self Esteem?

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