Everyone is always so eager

I think we notice more when people gain a lot of weight suddenly. People will notice and start commenting for you I'm sure. For me people didn't really start noticing until I'd lost about 40 pounds.

I definitely agree with AZKristi. Although I'm miffed when others fail to notice my weight loss, I've failed to notice others' success as well! My roommate lost 20 pounds last year, and I hadn't realized it until I saw pictures of her from the beginning of the year. I'm sure she felt better and looked better, but until I saw the direct comparison, it hadn't crossed my mind.

As long as I'm not receiving direct backhanded compliments (ex: my grandma, "Oh good, you're less fat than last year... You know, I never weighed over 100 pounds until after my third child... Just food for thought, but don't think about eating it."), I try not to let others' opinions (or lack thereof) bother me. I share my success with my mom and that's enough.

Edit: LOL, I just realized that my ticker makes it look like I've lost a total of like 2 pounds, which would explain why nobody's has commented. I've gained/lost before MFP; it's not all reflected in the ticker, haha.

I've been the same size for 10 years. 250, sometimes a little above, sometimes a little below but always there. Through 2 pregancies and everything. So, I've never gotten that.

What I get is very back handed compliments. Some people I know don't mean them how they sound, like my mother. She's just not the best with words and I know she's supportive. (More so now than a month or so ago since my results really started to show.) Like the other day we were at the store together and she told me that you could tell that I lost weight because my back fat didn't eat my shirt anymore. lol I was HORRIFIED and pleased all at the same time because that's one of the main reasons I started this. (I saw a picture of my back rolls, eek. )

I'm about 20lbs down now all together. 14 lost on there and 5 on my own before that. I've gone from an 18-20 to a 14-16. In most people's mind's that's still fat. Especially to people who have never been a size 20 before. So, they'll say good job and then make some comment on how you still have a ways to go and keep trying, like your effects so far are almost quaint, 'let me know when you lose 50-75-100lbs, then I'll be colored impressed.'

What I've find the most frustrating thing so far is my lack of support and passive agressive eye rolls and snide remarks from my massively super obese mother in law who is normally very kind and supporting in most things. She of all people should hope for me to do well because she knows what it's like to be overweight and shouldn't wish that pain on anyone. (The literal pain of not being able to move or breath...) I realize though that's it's jealousy and she can get over it. I guess she supposed her son married a woman a lot like his mother (creative who likes to cook, tubby, a bit loud.) I don't think she likes that I'm trying to change at least one of those things.

Anyway, rambling. But here's my point... screw them. Screw them all. Compliments are great, comments are normal, and people who are *kitten* are just that. You're doing this on your own, even if you have support from the outside world- in the end it's just you doing this. Compliment yourself. Compliment your own successes. Keep going and one day compliments from all sides will pour in and you can smile and in your head remind yourself that you did it- with or without them.

(BTW, people who compliment you on your size change but don't help at all in the process remind me of that story Little Red Hen. The one making the bread... Does that make sense? Everyone wants a piece of you when you're skinny and healthy but no one wants to help get you there. You just have to keep on going.)