I need help...badly.

i just force myself. once i start feeling good, i no longer have to force myself, and i just want to do it.

Im really getting into eating fruit. I wonder how I ever ate ding dogs and other crap when i could have been eating fruit. I have to buy fruit like 3/4 times a week, but it's worth it...because even if they it's the same carbs or calories as some sugary junk food, I know they are better calories.

It sounds like you need to ease into it. Having a self-sustaining plant based diet is ideal, but is it currently realistic? Doing a total revamp of a diet and routine over night takes a lot out of you. Maybe take a step back, breath, relax and take it one step at a time. Remind yourself that this is something you are capable of doing, and that there is no need to stress. Take it slow. Add veggies to every meal. Then the next week cut down your added sugar intake to 30 grams or less daily. By continuing that way you will be making serious changes in your life, without the added discomfort. I hope that helps!

Hey it's fine to pig out sometimes, I'm trying to stay healthy and sometimes I do binge, and I feel terrible. So I take a drink bottle and go for a walk, it clears my head and makes me feel good. The next day I'm back on track, I'm not letting anyone down but myself which motivates me. The sooner I get back on track the sooner I lose the weight, sometimes you may feel TERRIBLE but just imagine how your going to look. Hope this kind of helps

Truthfully, you have to really want it. No one can truly motivate yourself but you. You can add a billion supportive mfp friends, but in the end, if you don't want to do it, you won't. So you just have to force yourself. After you start losing weight, that will help fuel your motivation. But until then, think of what you want to be and do it.

you can add me ...

Right, friends can only do so much.
They can encourage and offer support but won't hold you down and sew your mouth shut.
Seriously, it's all on you.
True motivation is all internal.
We either have that drive or need to find a way to ignite it.

To light that fire, be honest, and answer for yourself:
Why do I want to be healthy and fit? Discover the real answer, and attach great pleasure to that as you set your goals.
Feel and experience that joy when you think of being healthy and fit.

And then ask yourself why do you NOT want to be fat?
Connect with that reason burning pain that you can really feel every time you think about being fat.

This is the key to internal motivation.
Few people can actually do this which is why most people fail in their efforts over and over.
Take the time to do this, and you'll touch off a powder keg of determination and drive.
Sure, you may have challenges; we all do, but you'll keep punching and reach your goals.

All Is Possible!

To reiterate what has already been said, first of all, you have to really, really want to make the change. It can't be a half-hearted hope that maybe you can do it. Some people have to be practically struck by lightning to make the commitment: suffer a major health problem, grow out of every last piece of clothing in the closet, feel awful at the slightest exertion. Whatever bottoms you out.

For me, it was important to clear the house of everything I was not planning to make part of my new food plan. Then I had to prepare things in advance for those times that I needed a food fix. I also want to eat mainly food that either comes from the ground or had a parent. But sometimes those require preparation that in the heat of the moment, I won't do. So I cut up bins of watermelon, roast veggies that can easily be reheated in seconds, make bags of air-popped popcorn, pre-bag serving sizes of things in snack bags so I don't mis-measure later.

And I also make a game of it. What kinds of yummy things can I create today that stay under my calorie goal? How many different foods can I eat and stay under my calorie goal? I take note of my nutrients and pay close attention to the fact that I feel a whole lot better than I did a month ago.

And finally, I get on with my life and try not to make food and especially appearance an obsession. I focus on my career, my hobbies, my relationships, my home and take it on faith that even though I'm not going to lose 20 pounds a month, that every day, I'm doing what's good for me.

Here's something I came up with and it's helpful and true (at least for me).


I've noticed that when I do four things, I lose weight. I decided to make an acronym.

P.E.N.T.


P is for PLAN my meals
E is for EXERCISE
N is for saying "NO" to things.
T is for TRACKING.

Instead of focusing on losing weight, focus on your health. Thinking about what I COULD do with my future if I recover is what gets me through the difficult times. I want to do so many things with my life, I want to own my own nursery and run a charity too but I can't do that if I'm ill. I'm not saying you are, nor am I trying to patronise you so I hope you don't think that but when you feel unmotivated, think about the good things you are doing for your body(providing your eating enough). Focus on your health, eat a good balanced diet and I believe the rest will fall into place. You're strong, you've got this xxx

I feel the same way! I have had a lot of ups and downs recently, and I have realized that I need to be more strict about my diet choices. I have good motivation to loose weight, I just lack will-power to say no, and that's what I need to work on.

I am also looking for more friends/support on here. I have some friends, but only one or two people interact with me. To be honest, I'm better at logging food and exercise when I know others are watching!

I sent you and a few others a friend request. And anyone else is welcome to add me as a friend for mutual support!