Sad, tired of crying and here because I've hit rock bottom.

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  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member
    Reach out if you need friends and help!

    I have a huge list of people who would love to help you!

    Hugs and welcome!
  • junejadesky
    junejadesky Posts: 524 Member
    This was me 6 years ago! I have since lost a majority of my weight. My top weight was 248lbs and I basically couldn't look at my self in the mirror. I also was a fast food junkie. Breaking that habit was the hardest thing I have ever done. I now do not eat fried foods an eat healthy.

    Here is my advice: spend time on learning how to eat better by planning lunches so you can bring them with you. This will be the key for you and it will be hard, but just take note of how you are no longer tired and feel horrible about everything. Start by making small changes and you will be amazed at how much better you feel. When you eat fast food write down 3 words about how you feel, and then do the same for a healthier choice. You and your body deserve to feel happy and healthy.

    Don't think about it as a "diet". You are making a lifestyle change for yourself because you are sick of feeling the way that you are. YOU CAN DO IT! You are a beautiful lady and celebrate all of the little success along the way.

    I always say: you are what you eat... let the food serve you and your body an not make you feel the way you do!!

    GOOD LUCK!! I am on the same journey!
  • johnnys30
    johnnys30 Posts: 64 Member
    I'd agree with other comments. Getting to the point where you're fed up and want to change is the hard part. Its not easy from here, but its downhill. :)
  • kaytyl2
    kaytyl2 Posts: 142 Member
    You have come to the right place. MFP is awesome and the people are so supportive. It really is small steps at a time and before you know it you have completed the journey. Add me if you want and I'll be happy to support you on your journey. :)
  • TomKat428
    TomKat428 Posts: 30
    Hi sweetie, I think we've all been there. It's easy to get to the point where we just feel out of control of our own lives and can't understand how we got where we are. The great thing is, you're strong enough to realize it and face it! You can so do this. Just start small, work hard and be kind to yourself. We are here to support you along the way.

    By the way, your profile pic is just gorgeous. You look like a pin-up girl!
  • WarriorCupcakeBlydnsr
    WarriorCupcakeBlydnsr Posts: 2,150 Member
    My husband may love me no matter what, but its extremely hard for me to love myself when I've let myself get to 236lbs!!!
    I'm tall and curvy and none of my friends would EVER guess that's what I weigh but it's true!

    Saying this to a bunch of strangers is my first step in what I pray is the right direction.
    I've lost control because I'm tired all the time from work, don't get a break so I'm eating takeout regularly because it's quick.

    I have horrible back problems and since the injury in 2003 I have not been able to be that active hence all of my weight gain. That
    and being in a happy relationship (isn't that funny how that works) and quitting smoking has led be down a path of laziness, convenience when it comes to food and just "accepting" that this fat is just how I was meant to be.

    I am here as a last resort. I need motivation and I want to give it in return. So please, feel free to add me and maybe together we can beat this! : )
    Well, at least if you're at rock bottom, there is only one way to go and that's up (and I don't mean your weight.) I'm also tall and curvy, nobody ever believed me when I told them my highest weight was 221. Being single, I eat out more often than in, I made some changes to what I eat when I eat out (part of it for me is that I'm allergic to wheat so no more burgers on the go.) I bring my own breakfast and lunch to work (yogurt or protein shake and fresh fruit for breakfast, a sandwich, a v-8 juice and fruit for lunch, snacks of either raw veggies or fruit and a protein shake before I go to the gym.) If I'm eating out, I get salads with chicken or steak (I do check the websites for the restaurants I tend to favor so I make sure I'm getting good salads) no fries unless it's treat days, if you're needing to have a burger, get a kids meal (some of them now give apple slices instead of fries and you can get 1% milk with it instead of soda.)
    Talk to your doctor about what exercises he/she recommends for your type of back injury , my chiropractor recommended simple stretches for my neck (I have a bulging disc in my neck,) walking, and yoga to start. I started researching exercises that wouldn't do more damage and might help, I discovered bellydancing (no impact, great stretching, and improved my flexibility) and now am taking a body pump (weights) and body combat (mma/kickboxing) at a gym on top of my dance classes and performing.
    You're welcome to add me as a friend, we CAN beat this!
  • Redtango76
    Redtango76 Posts: 144
    I think fed up and rock bottom is probably how the majority of us got here. You are not alone! We have about the same stats and similar situations ...you can do this !
  • dfair1967
    dfair1967 Posts: 91
    Hey we all bottomed out in one aspect or another or we would not be here also.I have sent you a friend request to help you on your change. Great support is what you will get if you are willing to travel down this road.
  • SuziQueue
    SuziQueue Posts: 64 Member
    Hey Chick - Good for you! Hitting bottom is the first step to picking your self up from your bootstraps, give yourself a nice, swift kick, and start a new journey beginning today. Commit, and make it your #1 priority to take care of you and be the you that you want to be, because no matter where you go, no matter how hard you run or try to hide from the you that you've become, there you are. You've come to the right place for support. All of us have crappy days - we have salad one day and ice cream the next, but when we stumble we get back up and make the next day better. Godspeed to you in your new, exciting journey!!
  • Hang in there! You are not alone. I have several friends who have used MFP and have seen great results. I just started using it yesterday. My first day, even though I didn't think I ate a lot, I went over my calories by 1,422 and over a lot on the carbs, fats, and protien. Today, after dinner I was 180 calories over and a lot less in the others. I went on a walk while my husband and kids went down the street to my aunt's house to swim. I walked probably about 1 mile or so around my area and burned 130 calories after walking for 40 minutes. Take your time, there is no rush. Every step counts. Do little things like park farther away when going to a store, take steps instead of an elevator. I work in a manufacturing business doing billing and HR so I sit most of my day. Thankfully, due to employee laziness, I have to go out and verify a lot during the day, so I get some walking in at work too. Just seeing how much I was over yesterday in all my numbers, made me more aware of it today, and I tried that much harder not to snack. And cut your portions in half. My portion control is OUT of control. A friend of mine lost 30 lbs just by eating half of what was on her plate. she would throw the rest out. That way she wasn't tempted to eat it later if she put it in the fridge. Good luck with your goals and whenever you get discouraged just jump on here. We're all here for each other. :smile:
  • gpstrucker
    gpstrucker Posts: 930 Member
    Glad you came here, you have found the right place. Fill out your profile accurately, be honest about what you log, and you'll be amazed at how much you will learn in a very short time.

    I know how you feel, I have a bad back, a bunch of pins and screws in my pelvis, and a bit of arthritis. When I signed up here I could manage to get out and walk a half mile or so but that was about it. Now I am freaking JOGGING!

    The best advice I can give anyone with this is to not view it as being on a diet (a negative) but making a change to a happier, healthier lifestyle (a positive). Attitude is EVERYTHING!
  • This isn't your last resort, this is the first step. A huge, hard step!

    We're all here to support each other. Just take it one day at a time and love yourself first.
  • katejkelley
    katejkelley Posts: 839 Member
    Thanks SO much for the encouragement! This experience and all these wonderful people my just change my life!
    I can't believe the out pouring of support already! I am going to invest in a nice lunch bag and make that my first real change...packing a lunch. : ) It's so simple! Baby steps. : )

    :flowerforyou:
  • yelpat
    yelpat Posts: 414 Member
    You got this girl. Add me if you like :)
  • kingkong247
    kingkong247 Posts: 55 Member
    Rock bottom is good...only up from here!!! Changes are coming!!

    This!! It's time!!! :flowerforyou:
  • ZoeyRobinson
    ZoeyRobinson Posts: 301
    First of all...You are freaking gorgeous so don't say you don't love yourself. You have to love yourself no matter what.

    second of all, you are here and wanting to change.

    Third of all, you can and will do this. So take a deep breath because you are not alone on this journey.
  • lorikmarsh
    lorikmarsh Posts: 1 Member
    You can do this!
  • monkeynumber100
    monkeynumber100 Posts: 134 Member
    Sending a friend request now. This truly isn't you last stop but your first step toward getting back your life. If you are like me, that busy schedule is partly because I am a pleaser. I have had to learn to say no and to put myself first. I was no good to my family, friends and co-workers when I was accommodating but exhausted and miserable.

    You will find lots of great support here. Submerge yourself in the MFP community. Most people on here want to see you (and everyone else) succeed. I look forward to being a support person for you!

    Take care!
  • greggsyv
    greggsyv Posts: 11 Member
    you can do this, as you start you will see just little changes and you WILL want more of those changes and you will then look how you can get more. Since starting this i have given up the gym and now i look for ways to burn calories that will not hurt my sore back, my damaged knee or my ankle. There is so much you can do day to day that will make the changes that you desire and i find i am eating more than before but still losing weight. We all on here are on the same hill climb as you and the ones nearer the top are there to help pull you up.
  • GrandmaJackie
    GrandmaJackie Posts: 36,850 Member
    Thanks SO much for the encouragement! This experience and all these wonderful people my just change my life!
    I can't believe the out pouring of support already! I am going to invest in a nice lunch bag and make that my first real change...packing a lunch. : ) It's so simple! Baby steps. : )

    Hon, my weight was 213 a year ago! If I CAN do this soo can you! The 8th will be a year, yay! YOU can do this! You are beautiful for sure! Its baby steps! One pound at a time! I just added you!
  • foxfirekenzie
    foxfirekenzie Posts: 244 Member
    Oh, there is a lot of great advice on here.

    Let me add this one too-on season 10 of The Biggest Loser, one of the contestants had serious back problems and used that as an excuse to not be active. She was able to work through that injury and become stronger than she ever was. I found that very inspiring.

    I think it is great you are here. DON'T QUIT!
  • Sapd975
    Sapd975 Posts: 22 Member
    You can do it....don't give up...this is my second week and I love calculating it on my phone....
  • skininbonz
    skininbonz Posts: 17 Member
    well, you hit rock bottom now you can rock to the top! We can figure out something and work together. I also hit rock bottom and I need to get motivated to work out or walk or something. Just so I am moving some I am all good. Lets rock to the top. I have already lost 68 lbs but then I stopped logging food and didnt care, now I am almost back where I started. I know it can be done. I just have to be motivated enough to git'er done! I am glad to have found a new site and different people.
  • We've all been at the bottom and that's why we're here. I am also tall and carry my weight well, which helped me avoid it all these years. I also just accepted myself for who I am, but inside I wanted more. Now that I am well on my way, I'm so glad I started. We can do this together!
  • moonowl23
    moonowl23 Posts: 36 Member
    Hiya,

    if you wish to add another friend, go ahead and add me...
  • mumofflea
    mumofflea Posts: 59 Member
    I can understand I'm around the same weight, but really short. I don't do a lot of exercise, but do go on the wii fit every now and then, I've reduces my calorie intake and so far I've lost 6 lbs. If I can do it then anyone can.

    Good luck you can do this.

    Feel free to add :happy:
  • bckjr
    bckjr Posts: 1
    I have had two back surgeries and know how hard this is. Hang in there! My neurologist told me that walking was the best recovery/weight loss exercise for me. Be patient with yourself. Remember, the most beautiful flowers don't bloom overnight-they take a while. YOU CAN DO THIS!
  • johnsongs1
    johnsongs1 Posts: 47 Member
    I did't realize that what I ate was what was making me feel so bad. Once I started eating better, I had more energy. Good luck. Feel free to add me as a friend.
  • cathomer
    cathomer Posts: 88
    Same here really, I'm at 232lbs, I can't believe I've let myself get this big, and I can quite easily see how I could get even bigger. I'm giving MFP a real go this time round, using the community a lot more. It's great seeing everyone's success stories, it really spurs me on.

    Good luck, you can do it, we can all do it!
  • I am looking for some weight loss buddies.

    Anyone can add me. I am friendly. I love to support others on their journey. I love looking at other people's journey.

    MFP is brilliant. I have lost 12 pounds (may not sound much but it's 12 pound less than i used to be). I find I am more active, happier and I will happily experiment with new foods.

    xo