Trying to lose weight but feeling like a bad wife/mom

Cook the healthy foods. If they don't like it, they do not have to eat it. It doesn't really make sense to focus on health for yourself, but still suggest that your family chooses unhealthy options. And as hard as it is, try to quit feeling guilty. You have to be healthy to be the best you, mom, and wife. Know that you are not "fighting temptation." Your body wants to be healthy and strong! Congraulations on your loss so far!

I would try to either cook something healthy that still tastes good for everyone or eat the same as them but more veggies less of the other stuff to keep under on calories. Meet in the middle. Healthy meals my husband and son love:

Turkey meatloaf with cauiflower mashed potatoes
Lean steak, pepper and onion stuffed baked potato
Apricot chicken stuffed peppers
Slow cooker pulled buffalo chicken


Just to name a few. Google ideas, try skinnytaste or sneakychef. You already know it is not right to give your hubby and kids unhealthy food to help you eat healthy. Even if they do not have a weight issue they could later, or get high cholesteral blood pressure etv.one last suggestion if you really really can not all eat the same meal, one or t two days a week make all their dinners so you dont have to face the issue every day. If you are not handling raw meat you could keep a snack near by so you can munch on something.

Make your health the priority. If you're healthy, it's SO much better for the entire family in the long run. You're being a good wife/mom, not a bad one, by taking care of yourself because then you can take better care of them.

Can't your husband cook??
Get a grill, men generally like to grill. Tell him to have at it.

Why can't the man cook? I know several men who cook even though they work outside the home and have wives who do not. That said, you are doing the best thing in the world for your family--the health problems that come from being very heavy can really affect the family. Don't let them guilt you into abandoning your health and your well being.

I agree with making a healthy meal for everyone to enjoy, and then letting anyone that doesn't like it to fend for themselves.

make healthy meatloaf without flour or brown sugar! Make delicious steak, chicken, mashed potatoes... you know, man food!!! But without the added fats, sugars, and flour! You CAN eat healthy and please the men of the house too, you just have to figure out what they like that can be made more healthy, and feed them that!
Make gluten free desserts, healthy ice cream, etc. But make it all in smaller quantities so it's just enough for one meal, so that you aren't tempted to go back for bingey seconds while the rest of the family is stuffing their faces too.

And I'm sure they don't mind the pizza and fast food either.

feeding your kids crap is just increasing their risk of inheriting your weight issues.
they'll get a taste for ready meals and pizza which could las a lifetime.

like other posters have already said, cook healthy meals for the whole family. i've always fed the kids the same as i have, because they need to eat healthy food even more than i do! i might add extras to keep their calorie intake high enough for their age but they're eating the same veg & lean meats. we talk through the veges to make sure everyone gets something they don't mind eating, and they understand the importance of good nutrition for life.

your kids are building their bodies. it's your duty to make sure you're giving them the best ingredients to grow them with.

I am trying to incorporate healthy into their diets also... hubby is def overweight but has no desire to change.. my 11 year old is not so healhty either, but I blame myself for that. So, tonight I cooked BBQ ribs, yellow rice, and broccoli. I had boiled chicken and broccoli and tomatoes... I fixed my son's plate and gave him a measured amount... but for hubby, I just loaded his plate up and sat it down in front of him. If he wants to keep eating that way, I can't and won't try to change him, but I don't have too. and I will encourage my son to eat better.

Good luck to you! Just remember you can do it... you can make better choices no matter the circumstances..

Cook the healthy foods. If they don't like it, they do not have to eat it. It doesn't really make sense to focus on health for yourself, but still suggest that your family chooses unhealthy options. And as hard as it is, try to quit feeling guilty. You have to be healthy to be the best you, mom, and wife. Know that you are not "fighting temptation." Your body wants to be healthy and strong! Congraulations on your loss so far!

^^ This! I have a husband and 2 children. I cook healthy foods that I can eat. If they don't like what I cook, they either don't eat, or cook something for themselves. My husband will try anything I cook, my son is a little more picky but I'm hoping that eventually we will all be eating healthy. If they decide to eat unhealthy things, I'm not going to be the one cooking it for them. The idea is to get the whole family to eat healthier. Well for me it is. No one needs to eat unhealthy.

Try eating a healthy snack like a salad or Greek yogurt before you start to cook or chew extra gum. This keeps the snacking down. Your boys are nine start having them help you cook.
Try hungry girl.com for good recipes. You can do this!!!!

I cook for my family of 5 nearly every night. I have 3 teenagers (one is a vegetarian) and maybe that makes things a bit easier. I'm confused. Why doesn't everyone eat healthy food? weight problem or not? And, if you serve something with less nutritional value, why don't you just have a smaller portion. If you offer a veg or two as sides everyone has options. Or, that could be the day you pop something into the microwave for yourself. If you have picky eaters, heard somewhere that it takes 7 times to acquire a taste for a new food. Just keep offering a wide variety of foods. Also, what if you were to ask your pickiest eaters for help in planning dinner. I always found that the more invested my kids were in food preparation, the better things tasted to them. If the problem is counting calories from home cooking that's easy! I think MFP has added a recipe calculator now. You can google others. You can do it! Good luck!

I know that temptation. It's 4.30pm and I'm cooking for my children to eat at 5pm - my husband gets home later so often we eat together after the boys are sleeping but then I don't want to 'double up' on dinner! And I feel really really hungry....How to avoid nibbling when the boys eat if I know I'm eating later? Tricky.

But you know what I do? Either I make healthy dinner for me and the boys - adjusting my portion/veg ratio acccordingly and leave a portion ready for the husband to heat up/steam by himself! (I might go to my zumba class or something)

Or

As I cook the healthy meal for my boys - meatballs, stir fry or home made tuna burgers with roast sweet potato 'chips' - I cook a plate of brocolli or veg and just sprinkle some balsamic vinegar so I satisfy my 'hunger' but don't splurge the calories. A fruit salad with natural yoghurt would do it too. That way there is no angst over 'bad mum'...and really you cannot call yourself that at all. You are looking after your health and your family's health - isn't that the definition of mum??

It is so lovely that you are focussing on healthy eating because it really does put the children on a healthy path - I find my boys sleep and play better/have even more energy (!) when they are not loaded with salty things or sugar. Hearty home cooked food is the best! And you can cook things that everyone can eat but remains within your plan.

And of course, you could always ask the other half to cook on a day or two so you can relax too.

Hope it goes well for you - keep posting. A problem shared as they say....

T