I dont where to start from.

simply_healthy
simply_healthy Posts: 175 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hi all,

I am returning to this website after almost 4 months. I have been really troubled. Had surgery and couldnt work out for long as I was on bed rest... I have gained all the weight back. I went through horrible times in my personal life too and doctors feel that I am slipping into depression.

I am very very worried about my hair loss due to PCOS..Nothing is working for me.. Tried minoxidil, biotin supplements... My blood results are fine.. The doctor says "she has no clues why I am having hair loss"... That answer broke me... :( I have lost so much hair already. I feel very demotivated. I dont know where should I start from !

I have lost all the motivation and am sleepless at nights and I stay up till wee hours... I dont know how to set things right.

Cheers,
SKB

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  • emmloubur
    emmloubur Posts: 21 Member
    Hi, I don't know what advice to give you. I just want to say I hope you can find the motivation to achieve your goals. Good luck :smile:

    Add me if you want i'm online every day xx
  • samblanken
    samblanken Posts: 369 Member
    Sounds about like me. If I would look good ala Britney Spears I would shave my head. I cut it short years ago and haven't been able to get it to grow back. It breaks at about 3-4". And now I'm pregnant. They say your hair gets better during pregnancy because you shed less. I still shed the same amount. I am worried about what will happen after the munchkin gets here because supposedly you shed MORE after birth.

    So find a good hair dresser, or get a wig, I feel like that is about my only option.
  • bathsheba_c
    bathsheba_c Posts: 1,873 Member
    Are you looking for advice or sympathy? If sympathy, then ::hug:: and feel free to friend me.

    If advice:
    If you are no longer on bed rest, then you can start being active again. After all, if you lost the weight before, you can do it again.
    Personal life bad times are the worst. However, it is completely reasonable and common to see a mental health type counselor for a few sessions of talk therapy to help you express how you are feeling and develop the tools to get through it.
    As for your hair, I wish I had advice beyond "hats and scarves can be pretty, too, if it gets to that point." Ooh, have you tried seeing a dermatologist? Maybe the hair loss isn't related to the PCOS.
  • juleszephyr
    juleszephyr Posts: 442 Member
    Hey, where to start.

    Advice?
    1. Get active again, it will help lift your mood and give you some endorphins to fight the depression. It should also help you sleep better.
    2. Start logging your food on here again but maybe don't go too low on the cals, make sure you are eating as 'clean' as you can, lots of fresh fruit and veggies, lean meat, fish and nuts and seeds.
    3. Talk to a counsellor about the depression and if necessary get some anti-depressants.
    4. The hair loss I can't help with but it may be stress related so all of above will help. I like earlier comments about gettting it cut shorter and wearing cute scarves and hats.

    Please try to remain positive, the better you eat and the more active you can be then the better you will feel about yourself and you body will be able to repair itself quicker.
    Good luck
    Jules xx
  • Eleanorjanethinner
    Eleanorjanethinner Posts: 563 Member
    Dear me, that's a lot for you to deal with!

    I'd second the advice to find a counsellor - I do hope your Dr has recommended this if she thinks you're slipping into depression! If not, ask anyone you know who'd used one, or do some searching and be brave enough to make that first appointment. Make sure you 'click' with the counsellor and that they're properly trained and accredited. Feel free to change counsellors as you need to find someone who works for you.

    Also, I'm a big fan of lists.

    Write a list of your problems and issues (you kind of already have) then brainstorm small steps you could take towards dealing with those issues.

    i.e. hair loss - make an appointment to see another doctor or ask to be referred to a specialist or something.

    Then just start doing one or two things on your list of small steps.

    Re: exercise, I wouldn't worry too much about it. You don't need to exercise to lose weight (Heresy! but it's true). If you log your food accurately and eat less than your recommended calories then you'll likely lose. But I wouldn't put weightloss as your top priority at the moment. You need quite a bit of emotional energy to eat healthy and you do really need sleep. I'd say sort out your head first, the rest will follow.

    Good luck on your journey! :smile:
  • Terree83
    Terree83 Posts: 93
    Definitely hate to hear about your struggles. I do hope that things start to turn around for you :)

    I know how depressing it is to gain back a bunch of weight you worked so hard to get off. As tough as it is to get it off the second time, it is possible! I would start small. Set realistic goals and be honest with yourself about what you can achieve in a set amount of time.

    I think we all know that when you're feeling down, it is so easy to not do anything. All you need to do is get started! Start getting active and go for walks or anything that gets you moving. Exercise really does help make you feel better, both physically and mentally.

    Best of luck to you! Feel free to add me! I'm on every day.
  • otrlynn
    otrlynn Posts: 273 Member
    Jules ^^^ said it really well! Not much I can add other than don't give up on yourself. I would strongly encourage you to see a counselor re the depression. If that really has you down, it will make it hard to motivate yourself to do anything. But while you are waiting for an appointment, get out and move. MAKE yourself get off the sofa and go for a walk outdoors. Set a really small goal (10 minutes?) and feel like you have accomplished something when you achieve it--then set it for 5 more minutes tomorrow. Setting and achieveing small goals can help you feel better emotionally, and the exercise will help you feel better physically.

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