Hubby gets mad...

LaLouve_RK
LaLouve_RK Posts: 899 Member
edited December 2024 in Motivation and Support
..And then I frustrate and eat the *** junk!
He knows I try to lose weight. Sometimes he even count the cal for me. Other times he just gets mad after the counting and that I dont eat what he eats or want to eat. Frictions begins and I end up, like today, eating freakin' burgers at 800 cal!!!!!!!!

He's big like a asparagus and this, no matter what he eats, he can't understand. He is spoiling my diet plan =(
Anyone got this issue? How do you manage?

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  • socalsweetheart87
    socalsweetheart87 Posts: 38 Member
    My husband came home from the military January 2009 and my good eating habits when down the drain. he would look at my food and say it was nasty or he didn't eat those foods. we were too poor to feed both our diets so i let him win, for almost three years. i have been a 300 lb woman since i had our daughter because he wants taco bell, taco shop or burger king more than a home cooked meal. Before me he says he never knew anyone on a diet or who ate tofu or diet this and low cal that.

    You have to decide when its enough. You stay strong and eat what you want to put in your body. Its not his body that your feeding, its yours. on his nights to cook find something you can add. I'll have a SMALL portion of whatever he made and either add a cup of two of veggies on the side or a protein shake depending on the meal. when its my turn to cook, i cook healthy but don't stop him using a gallon of ranch for his broccoli.

    It started getting easier after the like 20th time in a row that i did it my way instead. i learned the stop and starts of a diet got him confused and made it that much harder to try again.

    I also chose meals he kinda liked and made them "healthy" and asked him to REALLY try them instead of just objecting because he wanted to. Find out what he REALLY doesn't like... for example my husband HATES celery.... so i don't use it....he is okay but doesn't really like edamame, but he will eat it once in a while.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    I'm having a hard time understanding your post. I'm guessing English isn't your first language.

    He gets made at you when you want to eat healthy and pressures you into eating high calorie food? First, you need to sit him down and let him know that that kind of behavior isn't acceptable. You are a grown woman and you can eat whatever you want, and he can eat whatever he wants. He's not allowed to control you.

    Next, compromise. If he wants burgers occasionally, you can have them together, just either make yours smaller, healthier, or substitute something like a veggie burger. Or even having a 8000 calorie one every now and again won't derail you as long as you do well the rest of the time. Also, try finding out what kind of healthier foods he likes and try to work those in. Or having health main dishes with higher calorie side dishes that you can skip. "Dieting" when you share meals with others who aren't dieting is hard but not impossible as long as everyone involved is willing to make sacrifices and changes.
  • jgirl09
    jgirl09 Posts: 34
    My husband does well with my calorie counting for the most part, every now and then when he feels like cooking he'll throw together food and not be able to tell how much of what is on the meat or other side dishes so I kind of hover in the kitchen when he's preparing the food so I can see what exactly he's putting on the food so I can estimate it out and log.

    As of for fast food or runs to the mini mart for snacks, we both have our weaknesses but I try to say no when he asks if I want anything or if I know I have enough calories for something then i'll get a little something. You can't force someone to eat the way you want to they have to want to do that on their own (I learned that lol) so just try and stay strong on your diet and think of how you want to look and be positive. Maybe him seeing you change will make him want to change his eating habits.

    Good luck :)
  • ZeroWoIf
    ZeroWoIf Posts: 588 Member
    Problems with dieting is that you also need a supportive cast to complete your goals. If that supporting cast is not there then you are not going to make progress.
  • LaLouve_RK
    LaLouve_RK Posts: 899 Member
    The good news is that he is not a junk food lover, well not really.
    Sometimes, for exemple, he would like potatoes with the chicken, I just say "I cant, but I'll make some for you if you want". He gets mad saying, "nevermind"!
    Or today, he craved for the burgers, and got mad coz I didn't want. I had to bend to his wishes to prevent too much frictions.

    Guess he'll have to suck it up next time... NO SURRENDER! ahahahah
  • yogsvr4
    yogsvr4 Posts: 149 Member
    He gets made at you when you want to eat healthy and pressures you into eating high calorie food? First, you need to sit him down and let him know that that kind of behavior isn't acceptable. You are a grown woman and you can eat whatever you want, and he can eat whatever he wants. He's not allowed to control you.

    Next, compromise. If he wants burgers occasionally, you can have them together, just either make yours smaller, healthier, or substitute something like a veggie burger. Or even having a 8000 calorie one every now and again won't derail you as long as you do well the rest of the time. Also, try finding out what kind of healthier foods he likes and try to work those in. Or having health main dishes with higher calorie side dishes that you can skip. "Dieting" when you share meals with others who aren't dieting is hard but not impossible as long as everyone involved is willing to make sacrifices and changes.

    I agree, but I also want to see a picture of that 8000 calorie burger.... :laugh:
  • LaLouve_RK
    LaLouve_RK Posts: 899 Member
    He gets made at you when you want to eat healthy and pressures you into eating high calorie food? First, you need to sit him down and let him know that that kind of behavior isn't acceptable. You are a grown woman and you can eat whatever you want, and he can eat whatever he wants. He's not allowed to control you.

    Next, compromise. If he wants burgers occasionally, you can have them together, just either make yours smaller, healthier, or substitute something like a veggie burger. Or even having a 8000 calorie one every now and again won't derail you as long as you do well the rest of the time. Also, try finding out what kind of healthier foods he likes and try to work those in. Or having health main dishes with higher calorie side dishes that you can skip. "Dieting" when you share meals with others who aren't dieting is hard but not impossible as long as everyone involved is willing to make sacrifices and changes.

    I agree, but I also want to see a picture of that 8000 calorie burger.... :laugh:

    Not 8000, 800!!! hahahahah!
    I would not eat for the year if I had to eat that kind of burger! lolll
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    That hubby! Always causing trouble! :angry:
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
    Sometimes my wife eats totally separate from me.
    Her bird food diet and mine do not gel together, so she makes her crappy dishes, and I go with my fabulous plates of perfect eating.
    We meet later and forget all about food....:blushing:
  • wookiemouse
    wookiemouse Posts: 290 Member
    You can modify anything, you know.

    All burgers aren't bad. Get the super lean beef and a whole grain bun, top it with mustard and avocado instead of ketchup or mayo. Load it with veggies. Let him fix his burger how he wants to. I do this with my family all the time. You can skip toppings or sauces on a lot of stuff to make it healthier for you.
  • samra2012
    samra2012 Posts: 715
    another one... :huh:
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    The good news is that he is not a junk food lover, well not really.
    Sometimes, for exemple, he would like potatoes with the chicken, I just say "I cant, but I'll make some for you if you want". He gets mad saying, "nevermind"!
    Or today, he craved for the burgers, and got mad coz I didn't want. I had to bend to his wishes to prevent too much frictions.

    Guess he'll have to suck it up next time... NO SURRENDER! ahahahah
    How about just saying 'okay' when he tells you what HE wants and sorting your dinner seperately?
  • NavyKnightAh13
    NavyKnightAh13 Posts: 1,394 Member
    bump
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    He's big like a asparagus....

    What do you mean by this? My wife would be disappointed if I were asparagus size....
  • caitlyn30
    caitlyn30 Posts: 207 Member
    I guess if we were having chicken, I would just make the potatos, and I just don't eat them. I don't make him starve because I can't eat as much.
  • krislshoe
    krislshoe Posts: 459 Member
    My hubs used to give me a hard time and say he wouldnt eat that stuff....now he is eating healthy like me and losing weight:) He even chose a turkey hot dog tonight over a cheese hot dog...he said he would never drink diet soda...went from regular to diet to just drinking water now....so i guess im saying keep up the hard work and who knows...he might join you when he sees your progress:)
  • Gidzmo
    Gidzmo Posts: 906 Member
    You can modify anything, you know. All burgers aren't bad. Get the super lean beef and a whole grain bun, top it with mustard and avocado instead of ketchup or mayo. Load it with veggies. Let him fix his burger how he wants to. I do this with my family all the time. You can skip toppings or sauces on a lot of stuff to make it healthier for you.

    Ketchup and mayo are, IMVO, not awful if moderation is used. You DO have to be careful with pickles because, although they are cucumbers, those cukes have been sitting in a sodium (salt) solution.

    If you're worried about the carbs, skip the bun.
  • 33neenaj
    33neenaj Posts: 306
    He's big like a asparagus....

    What do you mean by this? My wife would be disappointed if I were asparagus size....

    lmao
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    Turkey burgers are the BOMB. just get some ground turkey (i use jenny-o 93% lean), mix in your seasonings (salt, pepper, thyme, cayenne, cumin, dry mustard, garlic and cilantro), shape into patties and cook until done. 6 ounces is around 250 calories. throw whatever toppings you want on

    as for whether or not he will or will not eat it. i'd see this the same way i'd see a kid saying it : this isn't burger king. if you want it YOUR way then feel free cook it your way. otherwise you eat whatever i cook :laugh:
  • LaLouve_RK
    LaLouve_RK Posts: 899 Member
    lol you're all funny!

    As I said, he does eat healthy... for is lean as a asparagus!

    But I have to strict... and he doesnt help. But now: I will not surrender, let's start a riot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    lol
    Thanks guys!

    BTW: he and I, we know the healthy alternatives. Sometimes it's just moneywise that it's hard: burgers for me, burgers for him, my cheese, his cheese and so on.
    But I have to admit, I've been counting my cal. for only a month. We have to adjust. There will be pain, and it's hard. But we will all make it!

    Thanks guys! Feels good to be able o talk and have people trying to cheer up! :flowerforyou:
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