Is it bad that i...

NicoleCelinee
NicoleCelinee Posts: 8
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So is it bad that i still get gifts from my ex boyfriend??? Because i feel SOO GUILTY when he insists that i take them!! Like he recently just bought me a Tiffany bracelet... and i told him i couldn't accept that gift but he wouldn't take no for an answer, it was really annoying but yet not because that bracelet was gorgeous.lol I mean we are friends, we don't hate each others guts or anything and we occasionally go out for dinner or something but he knows im not EVER going to get back with him, so he knows that its over for ever but its really weird that he buys me stuff still. I mean so ya he is still in love with me even tho we only dated for like 6 months and i was the one to break up with him but like, wth is going on?!
How do i get the gifts to stop coming my way!! oh and even when he got a girlfriend he was still buying me stuff it made me seem to everybody that i was some horrible person :grumble: but they broke up now...lol help!!! what do i tell him? or is their nothing i can do? lol

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  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member
    Be nice? Tell him that there's no chance?

    Why are you even asking, you know the answer.
  • legs_n_bacon
    legs_n_bacon Posts: 478 Member
    Tell him that you won't accept any more gifts. If he buys you something don't accept it. It's simple.
  • HellsKells
    HellsKells Posts: 671 Member
    Yeah, I think you're probably giving him false hope by accepting them. You should "Just say no". SImple.
  • NicoleCelinee
    NicoleCelinee Posts: 8
    Tell him that you won't accept any more gifts. If he buys you something don't accept it. It's simple.

    i did that. He just left the gifts outside of my door. lol and i left them their for a few days but thought i probably shouldn't do that.
  • daking639
    daking639 Posts: 37 Member
    He needs to man up and move on.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Tell him to stop giving you gifts. IMO, he's still got a thing for you and thinks giving you presents will make you a couple again.

    EDIT: Just read he leaves them outside your door and you can't leave them there (or throw them away). By accepting the gifts, you're keeping him on a string that you might get back together. You dumped him for a reason. Remember what it is and stop picking up the gifts!
  • wbgolden
    wbgolden Posts: 2,066 Member
    take them back to walmart and they will give you gift cards even without a receipt. then you can get all the "hecho en mexico" pure cane sugar soda his money can buy.

    everyone wins.
  • NicoleCelinee
    NicoleCelinee Posts: 8
    take them back to walmart and they will give you gift cards even without a receipt. then you can get all the "hecho en mexico" pure cane sugar soda his money can buy.

    everyone wins.


    This is such a smart idea ! haha
  • YokoJ
    YokoJ Posts: 253
    Sounds like you may have a "fatal attraction" on your hands...kinda creepy that after a 6 month relationships he's buying you such nice gifts. Think you should tell him that it's making you uncomfortable and you want to cut communication with him. He's doing this for a reason...no man just buys expensive gifts for nothing.
  • lifestyle95
    lifestyle95 Posts: 12
    The problems are, you are still his friend and you still go on dates with him.. With some males you can not be their friend and he is one of them....
  • JosieRawr
    JosieRawr Posts: 788 Member
    The problems are, you are still his friend and you still go on dates with him.. With some males you can not be their friend and he is one of them....

    ^^ This

    Unless you secretly like his attention and think there may be a chance, I would recommend gathering up everything he gave u post break up and return it to him, then lose his number n tell him to lose yours. No really does mean no, regardless the situation. Unless you don't mean it, by accepting his gifts and continuing to go out with him, even if occasionally, you are telling him that you don't really mean no.
    So you just gotta figure out what u really want, him or not him, and go with that 100%
    Good luck girly.
  • lil_bit_crazy
    lil_bit_crazy Posts: 161 Member
    Simple ....I'll give you my address and you can just send them to me. Or cut out the middle man, you, and tell him to send gifts directly to me..
    should I include a wish list?
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    :huh:
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    This is not likely to end well... I don't mean necessarily something catastrophic, though that would also fit the pattern. At best there will be hurt feelings -- The sooner you can cut this off, the better. May be interesting if he sees you dating other men.. even if it is staged... Just to let him KNOW you have moved on. At least, in that case, he is much more likely to show his full deck of cards... then you know for sure what you are dealing with here. Be careful whatever you do!
  • Diamond_angel14
    Diamond_angel14 Posts: 53
    Simple ....I'll give you my address and you can just send them to me. Or cut out the middle man, you, and tell him to send gifts directly to me..
    should I include a wish list?
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    u made me laugh :D
  • robpett2001
    robpett2001 Posts: 320 Member
    but he knows im not EVER going to get back with him, so he knows that its over for ever

    Speaking as a human of the male persuasion...no. No he doesn't. He SAYS he does, but the gifts (a Tiffany bracelet??) reveal that he doesn't think it will stay over. There is no question about this.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Tell him he needs to move one and you 2 aren't together anymore.
  • Drenched_N_Motivation
    Drenched_N_Motivation Posts: 1,004 Member
    Is it bad that I cried at the movie Soul Surfer today?

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