How do you feel when....?

I get what you mean, but do you also feel like you carry yourself differently now that you have lost weight? (This is just a generalization, so I could be off base completely) But do you feel like you have more self confidence and so people are seeing that too?

It might not just be the weight, but also your attitude now, but the weight is more of an obvious thing for people to comment on.

I TOTALLY get what you are saying! I used to have this problem, now I just have different problems !

Anyhow, I never knew what to say when someone would complement me. I always seemed to belittle myself and not accept the complement. The best advice was given to me, my friend to me to say "Thank you, I've really been having a lot of fun with it" It's simple, accepting and didn't belittle my efforts.

Here's my favorite story:

I had lost around 70 lbs, I live in a town of about 70,000. So you are bound to run into people from time to time. So I'm going to the store and this lady whom I hadn't seen for a couple of years stops me and says "Oh My God! You loost a TON of weight! WOW!" I was feeling a bit sassy that day and answered back "Well, not quite a TON, but yes I did loose some."

She felt soooo bad for insuating (sp) that I was a fat cow before (which I was) and kept saying she was sorry. I just laughed, it was pretty funny.

I have never thought of this as being a problem before.
I do NOT think that they are saying that you looked like crap BEFORE.
I think they are saying that you look greater NOW.
They are NOTICING that you look GREAT!
As far as I am concerned, THIS is the POINT! To get NOTICED for Looking better, Feeling Better, Being Better.
And face it when we lose weight we are healthier, our skin glows, we glow, we are happier, so we have a tendency to smile more.
and everyone looks better with a big old grin on their face! :bigsmile:
So I agree with Beep, Just say THANKS! with that big old grin on our face and accept the fact that you looked Great BEFORE but NOW you look GREATER!!!!!
--Diann...

I've had a lot of people say exactly what you did, that it makes them feel a little bad or insulted.

I'm speaking for myself only here, but seriously, why am I trying to lose weight? Deep down, i don't like the way I look. And if i'm completely honest, I think I'll be cuter the thinner I get and that's part of my motivation. I refuse to believe that the only reason people want to lose weight is to be healthy. We all want to look better too.

So then if we want to look better, then we obviously don't like the way we look when we're heavy so why do we expect everyone else to think we look fabulous? I'm not trying to be unsupportive but my goodness, people are afraid to compliment each other these days.

If you don't think of the glass being half empty (oh, so I looked like crap before?) then maybe you can enjoy those compliments that you deserve to get for all your hard work.

As I lose the weight, the best and only compliment that I still keep with me is the one my husband said, which was
"You were beautiful before you lost the weight, but now that you are happier, you are even more beautiful".

Oh, he's good .... keep him.

Actually I find myself blushing at the lovely compliments . :blushing: And say thank You! I know I didn't look and feel as great the way I was , I didn't like the way I looked. Now I am getting noticed as I did when I was younger. And I have been told that my skin glows too. What a good feeling for me.:happy: