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The feminist critique of the 12 steps is that it's not a good guide for women either because women frequently are too passive. Asking them to surrender to a higher power is more of the same.

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It's about whatever approach helps you lose weight. Some people are more motivated by more rapid loss.

Absolutely. Most people vastly overestimate their activity level. I've never been anywhere near clinically overweight, but the only way I've managed to stay in the normal range (unlike members of my family) is by eating less, and even then my weight has been creeping up. I'm also not really active, but in terms of weight…

It's hard to say without knowing your body fat percentage. You look very attractive, but it is possible that your bf % is a little high. You don't seem to have much muscle tone (I'm not saying you should look like a body builder). Again, it's hard to tell from your photo.

It's actually more complicated than that (the metabolism is a complex subject that is imperfectly understood). It's still a good rule of thumb. All an average person can do is weigh everything, eat known foods, track scrupulously and weigh herself or himself several times a week to stay on top of weight loss. The older one…

You have to attack this problem in multiple ways: See a doctor to eliminate a physiological reason for your eating. See a therapist: Examine why you have a need to eat this way. Get support in building a structure that will help you eat more healthily and exercise more. Commit to healthy eating. It's one thing to know…

Why don't you assume that this is a thread for people who know their calorie needs?

I agree with you. You can have self-regard but still understand that your weight is, or will in the future cause you health problems. It also will usually affect your social desirability.

It's important that calories in the diet come from food high in nutrients, if you are at goal and focused on body composition, macros matter a lot. But calories still do matter. 2000 calories from any source is way too much for a short woman who finds she loses only on 1,200.

It's true. If I eliminate sugar, alcohol, and excessive fats and carbs I'm there. Right now, I'm focusing on avoiding sweets. I've had a lot of stress and I can't go on a flat-out diet at the moment. (For me to make significant progress it helps for me to go on a very streamlined eating plan for a limited period.)

I've never had to lose anything other than vanity pounds. But if you've been in a certain range all your life, a weight increase is very concerning. I need to be under 1200 to lose weight. Sometimes I am hungry. But more frequently and troublingly, I'll find myself eating when I'm not hungry. Granted, my caloric needs are…

I've always used both, with a preference for the scale. It's just a tool.

You'll have to exercise some imagination, then, because the other forum member told you what her situation is. I don't think you do actually understand that "we're all different and stuffs [sic]".

Be forthright with your doctor. Besides, as others have said, 1800 calories is not a huge calorie deficit. Just a stab, but I assume the iron supplements were prescribed by a doctor. Problems can arise from too high a dosage taken for too long a time.

I don't believe the menu at McD's is the same as it was 40 years ago. Yes, personal responsibility matters, but societal influence matters too. For example, if the U.S. government didn't subsidize corn, we wouldn't find high fructose corn syrup (a form of sugar) in so many foods. The additives cause people to gain weight,…

I know someone whose grandmother sued McDonalds over terrible burns. The coffee in the urn was 700 degrees. McDonalds had received complaints in the past that it chose to ignore. If you're ever a consumer badly hurt because of a corporation's negligence or reckless disregard, I'm sure you'll have a different view then.…

Thank you. Of course there are a huge number of costs, direct and indirect. And this is exactly why I have a problem with "Fat Acceptance" (over "Fat Tolerance"). The proponents won't acknowledge basic, well known facts, such as that being obese is strongly associated with many unhealthy conditions and complicates any…

It's not true that they have no impact on my life. Who do you think pays for the larger seats when the money could be used on education? The taxpayer. Who do you think pays for the increased cost of PREVENTABLE diseases caused by obesity? To discriminate means to treat differently. We treat smokers differently for purposes…

No one's vilifying them. We're just not saying it's OK (healthwise), or enviable or beautiful to be excessively fat. Fat Acceptance people want everyone to be PRO-obesity. That's ridiculous.

Obesity and the state of being black or gay are not comparable. Blackness and gayness are immutable conditions that cannot be changed, over which the individual has no control and there is no rational reason to discriminate against those groups. Obese people are unhealthy. There is no justification for accommodating obese…

What constitutes a medically healthy weight is a not a matter of mere opinion. It is based on observing people who are overweight and noting what the excess weight does to their bodies: Their joints, hormonal systems, vascular system, etc.

I believe in fat tolerance but not fat pride. The fat acceptance people I encounter, usually on the Internet or on TV, believe that they're healthy and will remain so even though that is patently not true. They think the solution is for government and private establishments to install bigger subway, train, and airline…

Eating once a day, skipping breakfast, eating a low-calorie diet twice a week will not cause you to gain weight, although many people find those approaches helpful for losing weight; the most important thing is that they eat a healthy diet with sufficient calories over the course of a week. It's not quite as simple as…

I bought a MiR women's weighted vest a few years ago. I've hardly used it. It was a little too big, and didn't arrive in perfect condition, which, considering the $100+ price, angered me. http://www.mirweightedvest.com/women-weighted-vest.html

There are charts on the web that tell you how to estimate your body frame size. I use a tape measure. I have a small frame, have always been a low weight, and I look pretty wobbly at 108 at 5' 2". Beyond frame size, individuals vary in how they carry their weight. I don't carry mine well.

I hate it when I do this. I have the added problem that at my size, age, and activity level it's extremely easy for me to go overboard. I'm also often around people who are ignorant of calorie values and don't care about staying trim so they're a terrible influence. Add alcohol -- and I usually want a drink at gatherings…

SW: (Starting weight) 108.2 I've been at this weight, which is very high for me, since Christmas. I've had a lot of stress and depression, including a death in the family and have engaged in hardly any physical activity. I still don't know if I'm up for reducing calories, and I hurt my knee so I can't walk or run. CW:…

Some hunger is common for people who are losing weight. They're eating less than they are accustomed. If everyone's natural signals functioned, no one would be overweight.