Jealous

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  • DiabolicalColossus
    DiabolicalColossus Posts: 219 Member
    Nope.
  • habit365
    habit365 Posts: 174
    edited October 2014
    If they are putting in more effort than I am, then more power to 'em. If they are getting results without any seeming effort, that is when I start to feel a bit grumbly. I don't want to hear about how a 3' tall 100 year old lost 200 pounds eating 5000 calories a day, especially when they seem to believe that it should be as easy for everyone else as it was for them. >:)
  • keshabbaker
    keshabbaker Posts: 152 Member
    I completely understand, my coworker eats whatever she wants and is thin and we do lunch together and she always says I am not counting calories with you I am eating this big juicy burger and fries HUHHHHHHHH the terror!!!!!!
  • Cyndal25
    Cyndal25 Posts: 9 Member
    BinkyBonk wrote: »
    Not really. However it does drive me a bit nuts when people tell me they are jealous of my success and they wish they could lose weight. Usually results in me having a conversation about MFP and offering to help them get set up on it, telling them "eat less, move more", followed by their response of "oh I don't have time for that". Two weeks later, same conversation all over again.

    Sorry for the mini-rant. It's been one of those days. :angry:

    I understand that, people tell me all the time they wish they had my motivation, and first of all I'm like....well mine has been kinda lacking here lately. Or they wanna know how I lost all my weight and when I tell them, they are like "oh I was hoping for something easier" I'm like "REALLY" get up and move more or make an effort of what you eat!!
  • Cyndal25
    Cyndal25 Posts: 9 Member
    Cyndal25 wrote: »
    Does anyone ever......lets just say gets "jealous" because someone you know is getting better results than you and putting in more effort than you. You know you could be getting those results if you put in the effort. Like I used to weight 320 pounds and currently weight 230 and when I see their success stories, I'm like why not me. It motivates me for about 1 minute then the feeling like the failure kicks in and then I sabotage myself. I haven't gained weight but my main big goal is to be under 200 pounds and I am so close.

    I guess I should say I am extremely happy for them, and yes I am proud of my 90 pounds, and I work out almost everyday, I am more jealous of there eating habits and how they stay so focus. I changed my habits over a year ago and I guess I am more "jealous" of someone who has been doing this as long as me and have more results. Basically I want to be like them!! lol
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    I'm jealous of their willpower sometimes and wish it was so 'easy' for me.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    edited October 2014
    I don't get jealous, I get even! As in, "if she can do, so can I!" And then I try my darndest to do it.
  • lorib642
    lorib642 Posts: 1,942 Member
    Maybe it is because I am just starting, but no. I am impressed and inspired. And, like you stated I know I am not putting in the effort as some people.
  • pinksafyre
    pinksafyre Posts: 13 Member
    Yes, sometimes. And it Really pisses me off when a MAN
    '"decides to lose weight", then TWO DAYS LATER is like 7 lbs down.
    :s
  • TheSatinPumpkin
    TheSatinPumpkin Posts: 948 Member
    edited October 2014
    No i was very inspired when i was reading the success and milestone threads here when i first joined Sept 2013 with 232lbs to lose. Year later with 13lbs left to lose i still get inspired by reading members stories.
  • 808Trish808
    808Trish808 Posts: 122 Member
    thou shall not envy... LOL just kidding... every body is different...
  • lorib642
    lorib642 Posts: 1,942 Member
    TheSatinPumpkin wrote: »
    No i was very inspired when i was reading the success and milestone threads here when i first joined Sept 2013 with 232lbs to lose. Year later with 13lbs left to lose i still get inspired by reading members stories.

    wow, that is great :)
  • wmcmurray61
    wmcmurray61 Posts: 192 Member
    Not really and I will tell you why: I stopped comparing myself to other people (as part of my spiritual journey) years ago. The truth is, no matter who you are, there is always somebody "better" and there is always somebody who wishes they were you. From the very beginning of my weight loss journey I decided that my most attainable goal was to try and achieve a healthier version of myself. I am 10 lbs away from losing 85 lbs which is only part of that goal. This is not to say that I never get jealous. I do. But then I give myself a good talking to and get over it.
  • 808Trish808
    808Trish808 Posts: 122 Member
    wmcmurray61 wrote: »
    Not really and I will tell you why: I stopped comparing myself to other people (as part of my spiritual journey) years ago. The truth is, no matter who you are, there is always somebody "better" and there is always somebody who wishes they were you. From the very beginning of my weight loss journey I decided that my most attainable goal was to try and achieve a healthier version of myself. I am 10 lbs away from losing 85 lbs which is only part of that goal. This is not to say that I never get jealous. I do. But then I give myself a good talking to and get over it.

    true story!
  • DragonShoe_GCole
    DragonShoe_GCole Posts: 137 Member
    I can honestly say "no," based on the specifics that were outlined in the OP (i.e. person working HARDER than me and getting results I desire)... Now if I'm working just as hard (or even harder) than the person I'm comparing myself to and they're still getting better results, then yes, that would piss me off
  • Ehrmantraut
    Ehrmantraut Posts: 7 Member
    Jealousy is a natural thing, but also unattractive. I only feel jealous if I see people using LESS effort and getting better results, but then I find out things like one friend is bulimic, one is anorexic etc and I feel more sad that anything. Get inspired, get motivated, reach your goals, and then motivate others :)
    Anyone can feel free to add me btw
  • NK1112
    NK1112 Posts: 781 Member
    edited October 2014
    No, I don't get jealous of others who are doing better than I am. I have found over the years that it is a depleting emotion thus it works against me. I look for the common thread to what they did that worked for them and perhaps try some of those techniques myself.

    What I have learned is that a one-day 'failure' does not a life-time make.
  • ljashley1952
    ljashley1952 Posts: 275 Member
    I can only say that while it's normal to envy those who have more success, what about those who look to you for inspiration? They see someone who has lost nearly 100 pounds! There will always be someone who has lost more weight, is in better condition, has cuter clothes, writes better, has a better house or car. It's pointless to measure you own worth using someone else as your measuring stick. I occasionally have those moments too, but they are few and far between because I'm trying to focus on my own journey; trying to become the best me that I can be. I won't be the best at many things; maybe not even at anything, but will like who I have become and take my self-worth from within myself.

  • forkofpower
    forkofpower Posts: 171 Member
    I'm never feel jealous of someone if they earned what they have through hard work/skill, but I am jealous of people who do better than me but don't put in more work/aren't more skilled.

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