embarrassed to say...i have 200lbs to lose. :(

motmot21

I've started again...lost 13lbs in the last 2 weeks thank God yet it's already becoming hard to not think about eating all the time....How in the world do I hang on for 187 more pounds?

whatatime2befit

Don't look at the 187 lbs you have to lose. Set small milestones for yourself. 10 lbs, 20 lbs, etc., and aim for those. That is way less overwhelming than a larger weight. Don't get mad or frustrated at yourself if you have a bad day or bad week, we all have those. Just pick yourself up and move on.

I don't think you should be embarrassed at all. I think you should be proud of yourself. That you've taken the step to lose weight and get healthy.

Please feel free to add me as a friend.

LadyoftheIron

Be proud, motmot21! You've taken the first step, the hardest step! I have 170 to go. I understand how daunting it is looking at those big numbers. Give yourself some mini goals. Focus on progress, not perfection!

McBoffin

There's nothing to be embarrassed about - you've recognised a need to do something and you're doing something about it, many people don't - you should be proud and not embarrassed.

13 lb is a great start, just stay positive and you won't even notice what you think you're depriving yourself of.

Good luck :-)

andeey

Patience. Here is a great link for you to start with: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

Miss_1999

Don't be embarrassed. There's nothing to be ashamed of. They're numbers. And you are MORE than a number! With that said, 13lbs is a great loss! You're off to a wonderful start! This isn't easy. If it were easy, we'd all look like Marilyn Monroe, naturally. It does take some work, and some figuring things out. What works for one person may not work for another. A huge thing honestly that helps, is truly changing your mentality. Realizing you are NOT on a diet.

In the past, the minute I went on a diet, I immediately craved, something- be it pizza, ice cream, a candy bar, some type of fast food- something I wasn't "supposed to have" on that "diet". But the difference is, when you change your lifestyle, there isn't anything you CAN'T have. It's simply a matter of finding where things fit in. Proper portion control, and having a balance of healthy and better food choices combined with others.

I'm a real person. I'm not saying those who enjoy a vegan lifestyle, vegetarian, clean eating, ect. aren't "real" so to speak, but for me, that wasn't who I was. For me, being real, means having a slice of pizza when I get a craving. Or, if I want a can of Mountain Dew, I have one. The difference is, I don't eat an entire pizza, or sit down and drink an entire two liter or Mountain Dew. Don't get me wrong, I could. I could easily drink a two liter of Mountain Dew without taking a breath. But, I know it's reasonable if I'm going to have one, to pick where it fits, and enjoy my can.

Find exercises that you enjoy. Taking a walk is something I really enjoy. I like walking around my neighborhood, seeing the sights, looking at beauty of nature during the various times of the year. I try to make things a little exciting sometimes by finding things new, or will even tell myself- I'm going to find three things today on my walk I've never noticed before, and make a game of my exercise.

As you get to do things like that, then you never know what you might expand to enjoy! But the big thing is, don't look at the "big picture" so to speak. When you look at those large numbers, they do get overwhelming. Look at today. Worry about getting through today. Focus on your daily goals and what you want to accomplish for the day, and maybe even the week. So many people get overwhelmed, and ultimately fail because they look at the big number and think it's just hopeless. They give up, because they feel like it's unattainable, when, it's a slow process. It didn't happen overnight, and it will definitely take it's time coming off, but, it can, and will happen.

Hang in there, and keep going!

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motmot21

Thank u all for the words of encouragement! It means so much!

elephant2mouse

Focus on smaller milestones, like the others have said; and think about just how proud you'll be when you look back and say... Look at how far I've come.
The first step is always the hardest. Best of luck on your journey.

TheSatinPumpkin

Well begun is half done.

Just take it one day and Lb at a time. With time blitzing by this day and age before you know it it's 10.25.2015. Soak up as many inspirational success stories and milestones as you can. Very encouraging.

scarletstripes

Hiya.. I'm just getting started (again) .. I have 230 to lose.. I've been pretty miserable I'll admit this week about what to do and where to start.. however tonight I have had my light bulb moment and i'm suddenly feeling a lot more positive. I am now currently looking for more friends who are in the same kind of situation as us so please add me if this is you
(Oh and this is my first ever mfp post so hai!)

sue_stef

start small yes the ultimate goal is 187lbs down but make one that is more reachable
then once you hit that make another one
You will get there just keep at it

Therealobi1

Never give up and you will do it. good luck

AmyMCGS

You can do it! I agree with several other comments that small goals are the way to go. Personally, I'm finding it motivating to add MFP friends... those silly little comments and "likes" each day make me want to check in and be sure to do my log each day.

365andstillalive

You may feel embarrassed by it now, but think of how proud you're going to be at the end of your journey when you can say that you had the commitment to not just lose weight, but to lose almost 200lbs.

I'm down 70, and believe me, any weight loss gives you bragging rights.

You can do this and building a support system makes it easier.

justalittlecrazy

You do not have 200 lbs to lose. You have 187 lbs to lose. Claim your weight loss- you did it and give yourself credit for it! It is tough, no doubt. Look at smaller goals. I started with 160 lbs to lose. My goal weights are a stair step of what happened at those weights. Right now, I want to be under 298, the weight I got pregnant with my last child. And then 285, the weight I graduated high school. And on from there. Make your numbers mean something to you.

Tiamo719

motmot21 wrote: »

I've started again...lost 13lbs in the last 2 weeks thank God yet it's already becoming hard to not think about eating all the time....How in the world do I hang on for 187 more pounds?

I can't imagine how hard it must be. I have 40 pounds and that seems like a lot. But if you look at the success stories on here, they are very inspirational and motivational.

Here's a fantastic one. Make sure you read how he does it.... very doable!

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10010830/now-down-161lb-and-just-a-few-pound-away-from-being-half-the-man-i-used-to-be-lots-of-pictures/p1

Good luck. If you fall off, just get right back on!

CleanUpWhatIMessedUp

I know where you are coming from. I have about 70-100 pounds to lose and it seems overwhelming, but you just have to keep going I guess.

blackcoffeeandcherrypie

13lbs is a little bit too much to lose in 2 weeks! It's no wonder you're finding it difficult. Perhaps go a little easier on yourself so that you're losing a smaller amount each week (1-2lbs) and then you won't find it so difficult and you won't wonder how you will be able to carry on. But well done and good luck! :-)

TossaBeanBag

motmot21 wrote: »

I've started again...lost 13lbs in the last 2 weeks thank God yet it's already becoming hard to not think about eating all the time....How in the world do I hang on for 187 more pounds?

A day at a time. I just keep telling myself to be active, and the first thing I do each morning, now, is exercise. It is taking a while to rev up the metabolism, again, but I keep making small gains. Not all success is measured on the weight scale. You might gain a little muscle, which washes out any fat loss the scale might notice.

kendallvon

The journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. Welcome to one of the hardest but most rewarding journeys of your life. There will be struggles, missteps, and times you want to throw in the towel. But when that happens, and it will, step back and look how far you've come. Then keep going. Congratulations.

MyaPapaya75

10-20 lbs at a time...and don't use food as a reward....walk walk walk..

999tigger

Read the forums and learn.
Get MFP friends.
Understand how to use MFP properly and in line with safe sustainable guidelines.
Dont demonise food.
Dont beat up on yourself.
Aceept each day as a challenge, but dont be afraid to fail.
Be realistic.
Log and weigh your food.
Focus on small targets, daya to day and week to week. Each one you complete gets you closer to the target.

am sure theyve said all the above

whitehorse67

Don't be embarrassed.....be MOTIVATED.....be INSPIRED.....be DETERMINED!

Don't look at the fact that 187lbs is a big hurdle.....look at the 13 pounds as 13 pounds closer to a new life!

Personally speaking, whether you have 187 to lose or 60 like myself, it can be somewhat overwhelming when you think about all the hard work you have to put in.

Don't look at the over all goal right now.....concentrate on daily goals.....then weekly, then monthly. It will get easier and when you see results, you will become more determined!

When you have setbacks.....and you will....write off that day and set a goal for the next day...meet/beat it and you will be amazed at how good you will feel that you did not give up!

YOU can do this......

lewispwest

First step is admitting it, gets a lot easier when you are honest with yourself. Good luck!

Twinkie2530

Don't focus on the numbers, focus on the changes you are making to make yourself feel better and healthier! Celebrate mini milestones by treating yourself to the things you find rewarding, and above all else, do not become a slave to your scale. The scale is not a reflection of how successful you are! With time and patience, you will get to where you need to be.

Valereee

Hi! Everybody before me gave you excellent advice, so I just want to wish you well. You can do it! When I started I had 300 pounds to lose and believe me, as time goes on it actually gets easier! You'll start to feel better and you'll definitely feel so good that you just won't want to blow it! This morning I got up and WALKED to the park with the grand kids. Then while they played I continued to walk. They are so amazed cuz they only knew me as a sedentary grannie. You can do it!!!!

pkw58

Welcome! You are in the right place. I saw a speech by a very bright high schooler a few weeks ago. the "a" in "Goals" stands for ASK for help. It's my mantra now as my new goals take longer than losing weight. So how do you hang on? ASK for help. I am on my third year of maintenance and somedays it's super easy - others not so much.

Ldbg289

I started out wanting to lose 75 pounds and was convinced it'd never happen because I was looking at the big goal. I started setting smaller goals as some of the people in here have suggested to you and it's worked wonders. I've since set my sights on a new number(wanting to go smaller because I know I can do it). You can do this!

Snow3y

At least you realised you have to lose it.. Better than those who look past it and carry on with bad habits...

Stick to it, and you're on your way to a better life to live

misicat2014

Congratulations of making a start,...that is awesome! Making small goals on teh way is best...I agree with all the others on that. I've done the same thing. Ok, my next goal is to get 10 lbs off, and then when I get there, I'll shoot for another 10. It makes it a lot less daunting. As you go, you'll have days of feeling great and days where you might not feel so great..but don't give up, and come here for support when you need it. And NEVER ever let guilt drag you down if you have a bad day. Guilt does more damage than good. If you've decided to eat a certain thing on a particular day, enjoy it and then move on. Don't give up.

I'm like miss_1999, and she said it better than I've been trying to. I'm trying to eat healthier but we are a normal family, and sometimes we get pizza, etc. But I'm learing to control my portions, etc.

Good luck!!