Anyone ever start dating someone and felt comfortable & you started gaining weight?
xjgirl94
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I use to be 165 and when me and my fiance got together I started gaining weight. I have no clue what it was that was causing me to gain. I guess I just got happy and forgot to worry about my health and here I am now on MFP! I started almost 3 weeks ago at 203.5 now I am weighing in at 196.8 and I feel better. Has this happened to anyone else???
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oh yeah, relationships always cause weight gain at the start unless yr both working hard against that! dating.... drinking, eating at restaurants... yup.0
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You started eating more and/or being less active. It happens and a lot of times it happens gradually so you don't really pay attention to it.0
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Yeah hes 6'7" and hes a big boy he eats alot but he works it off at work. Before we moved to our own house we ate out alot, went out and partied, and I drank way to many soft drinks. Now I don't eat out, party, or drink sodas! I cook almost everything I eat & man do I feel better!!!0
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Yes its where you are being yourself, and are comfortable...the representation phase of the relationship is gone or the .. impressing phase.. You should definately put some effort in and show that you still care about your weight, health , ect..
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I gained quite a bit of weight when my BF (now husband) and I started living together. I think it was mainly because I fell into habits of cooking things I knew he enjoyed, rather than what was healthy. I also started eating bigger portions (because he was). I also gained more after we got married. In general we were both just comfortable with eachother and that lead to generally poor eating habits.
Now we're both working to lose weight together as a common goal.0 -
That's right, blame the man. Typical....-1
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Oh my goodness, our honeymoon... and the two months following... waaaaaay too comfortable. Part of the reason I'm back here working my tail off.0
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absolutely! about 40 pounds to be precise...when you're happy you get comfortable and a little complacent, we're currently working together to get healthy again because we both gained a lot!0
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Im getting in shape for myself and my health mainly but for him and my family. We have medical problems that run in the family and I don't want to go that far0
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Happened to me. It sucked but I'm on my way back to a even better version of myself so it's cool.0
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Yeah me too! It already feels great!0
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Dating? Try 20 years of marriage!
It's pretty natural, really; when you're single, you can eat a salad for dinner or something and it's fine, but when you've got a relationship (and then a family) you Make A Real Dinner no matter what. Then time passes, metabolism changes, kid/s come, there are snacks in the house, metabolism changes some more, there's ice cream in the fridge, you've got a job and a family and it's hard to fit in the exercise (because it's not like you're going to the gym after work, you have to pick up the kid etc etc) ...
Even if you don't have horrible eating habits, it's easy for the weight to start adding up.0 -
That's right, blame the man. Typical....
I did'nt read where she blamed anybody. I'll blame it on my wife though she makes fried chicken I would crawl over flaming coals for. Then she would tie me to the chair and force me to eat the whole chicken till my plate was totally clean. That silly girl !0 -
I think it's quite common. You eat out more, or stay at home with a bottle of wine and a takeaway, or watch movies with snacks or whatever. I think a lot of women get caught out by portion matching a taller, heavier male partner, without thinking about it. That caught me with my ex. Or he would cook and automatically dish up what he would eat as a portion, which was probably another half on top of what I would have served myself.0
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I am just glad I ain't the only one!0
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Oh good lord this is me. When I started actually dating my guy I lost weight like crazy(we worked on my families ranch and ate nothing but garden produce and hard boiled eggs for a month plus). Then we got super comfy with each other and both gained weight when I started cooking dinner for us. Movies with soda and cheese trays. Apple cider and ice cream for dessert. Glad it's not just us.0
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Yes! I got married 3 years ago and gained 35 pounds. I never thought that would happen to me! It was definitely not an intentional "I'm married now so it's safe to let myself go" but looking back, I can see why it happened. We love to cook and eat good food and went out to eat A LOT. I also baked frequently. We also went from going out all the time to being newly married homebodies. It all adds up!0
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Yes, my SO
He's put on 30 lbs since we met. Kind of ironic considering he's the cook. He says it's because he's happy. 0 -
Not at all! If anything, a relationship gives me more opportunities to be out and about doing things that challenge me (e.g., I probably wouldn't have gone backpacking through Alaska without my husband there too). I've personally never understood why relationships/dates revolve around food and drinks. It just seems so unoriginal (to me). My "dates" were mountain biking, water skiing, kayaking... not sitting at a table stuffing my face and waiting for the check.
Maybe try redefining what your conversations revolve around. Instead of a meal, go for walks together.0 -
Yep, I think this is normal. Instead of going out all the time, I get complacent in a happy relationship and start spending evenings curled up on the sofa watching movies and eating popcorn. Bam, weight gain.
Have you asked your fiance if he would join a healthy eating or workout program with you? It helps if you do it together, sometimes.0 -
Definitely happened to me! I was 190 and trying to lose when I started dating my husband. We slowly gained weight throughout our dating and engagement until I was my highest ever, 233! We lost 30lbs together right before our wedding and then gained most of it back the following year. Basically, we can be really healthy but we have to both be into it, and when we lost weight before our wedding it was definitely a diet instead of a lifestyle change.
Now I'm down to 185 and we're enjoying learning how to cook healthy things and working out together. But yeah. Definitely did that happy relationship gain. O.o0 -
Yep! IT happened to me every time I got into a relationship;and this relationship I'm in now (planning to get married in Aug) has been the worst of them all. But, on the positive side, he loves me the same, and still tells me that I am beautiful. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; lose weight to be and stay healthy. It's long over due for our society to kick the habit of us trying to configure to a small select few standards. Be your own person and love who you are=) Keep up the good work0
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I date this guy who was a cheesemonger and wine/whisky/beer guzzler. He always had chocolate in his pocket and something amazing cooking on the stove. We loved to eat and drink together. I'm sure I gained weight.0
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Fell in love, gained 20 pounds. Broke up, gained 20 more.0
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Now since we have moved to our own place I cook healthy foods now. Sometimes I cheat just a little but he works a full time job goes to school full time and works a part time job as well but hes never at home and when he is hes eating fast food! Lol but what can I say I love him!!!0
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After a few months my and my boyfriend made the decision to both cut out the junk that we eat together - me for my weight and him as he has digestive issues. Now we are both happy and sexy
(or healthy you know, whatever) 0 -
Oh yeah! Welcome to my world. Started dating a guy, eventually got engaged, and he's not my husband. I love him to death, but he's definitely bad for my weight gain...lol...hence I'm taking help from MFP! 0
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Yeah same here but were engaged! Lol so hopefully I keep it up!0
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This has probably happened to almost everybody Lol. Definitely happened to me but was lucky to catch it before it got too out of control. You get comfortable and bad habits set in, let's face it. Eating is amazing:p0
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