My mission is to teach myself how to deal with negative comments from family members!:(.

111grace

Why is it so difficult to get negative comments from family ( or others) members say out of your head. How can one deal with this derailing beast!? They make you take steps back? rather than progressing you forward!
A few I have heard from good friends.
1." Don't let them rent space in your head", this is easier said then done! because you have to deal with them everyday!
2. " they don't pay my rent"
3. "The enemy uses all different types of people to drag you down"
4. " Is it true? if its not walk away!" where to if you are in the same house!
5. " focus on something else"
6. " Love yourself more?"
7. " Don't be a puppet on a string"
8. " you are being played"

peachyfuzzle

I learned to deal with most things in life through the power of compartmentalization. This has lead to a hearty feeling of apathy toward just about everything that I don't personally view as being important, or valuable to my environment.

People tend to view that as a negative character trait, but I have found that it has helped me emotionally sift through so many things that it's what I've come to rely on.

Wronkletoad

separating yourself from them? not seeing them? not participating in their activities where they "force" you to participate?

all of those sayings are fine and good, but how can one accomplish that?

what about concrete advice? "get the heck away from them. you don't deserve to be treated like that. you shouldn't sacrifice yourself to fulfill their notions of 'familial obligation' or other horseschaas like that"

stuff like that - familial negativity - is such a hard thing. so unfair to you. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that crap.

middlehaitch

Can you not sit the said family members down and tell them you are well aware of ' whatever the negative comments are about' , you are working in it/ them and their comments are not helping you.
Explain what you are doing and let them know you would be so excited if they would support you and make your project a fun family project.
Say everything nicely with a smile on your face so no one gets defensive.

DragonShoe_GCole

middlehaitch wrote: »

Can you not sit the said family members down and tell them you are well aware of ' whatever the negative comments are about' , you are working in it/ them and their comments are not helping you.
Explain what you are doing and let them know you would be so excited if they would support you and make your project a fun family project.
Say everything nicely with a smile on your face so no one gets defensive.

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