non-dieting spouse/partner

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  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    My husband is 6 inches taller and 12 years younger. Despite the height difference, his current weight is within my healthy BMI range, so my goal is about 6 pounds less than his weight.

    It usually doesn't bother me too much, but last night he had a big old serving of pasta long after I was done eating for the day. And I was hungry, too, because we had stayed up too late. But I looked at my plan and decided it was easier to go to bed hungry than to forfeit something from today.

    And occasionally when I weigh out some chocolate and he sits there with the whole bag.

    Luckily, he is willing to be active *with* me most weekends. I make him carry the backpack on our hikes and he uses a row bike when we go out biking.
  • eat_hike_b33r
    eat_hike_b33r Posts: 82 Member
    I am super discouraged in this area. My partner and I are both major food lovers (to the point where we track chefs, restaurants, food trends, etc) and he worked in kitchens for a while. Since I am in grad school, he cooks more than I do, and I struggle with how to limit myself when I am getting home late at night, hungry after a long day, and he has made something amazing. Since cooking is one of his favorite things in the world, I don't want to limit him. Has anyone tried making a simple low-cal vegetable soup or broth to eat before having the "partner food"? I am hoping it will help me keep my portions smaller.

    we are both majorly into food and cooking too and I totally can relate to this!! Coming home from school to amazing food he spends loads of time making.... and there is no way he can cook another low cal version for me, esp since he has trouble keeping his weight up, he needs to eat high cal foods.
    I am slowly putting all of his recipes in to MFP and just trying to make sure my portions are about a third or quarter of his by weight... and then trying to fill up on salad if im still hungry...

    Glad I am not alone in this!!

  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    I'm on the opposite side of this, hard for me to hold onto weight, no health problems no matter what I eat - hubby has to watch what he eats because of his health and because he gains easily. It's hard for me too. I second guess everything because I feel bad and make two versions of some things so he has his "heart healthy" version and I have my full on regular version =/
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