Dating Issues... Dealing with "I WANT MORE GRANDKIDS!"

beardedwarriortx

So I am a widower and have two kids. They are my world. I also have amazing parents who live close by and help watch the kids. However my mom is forever trying to hook me up on dates and constantly, casually, mentions how badly she wants more grandbabies. Anyone else deal with this? I of course have told my mom that I will marry again, someday, if i want. She just gets sad. Oh parents but you are trouble, lol.

concordancia

"Then you should have had more kids."

Have you told her that it bugs you? I find that a lot of times people are upset by others' actions and can't figure out why they keep it up, but have never actually sat them down and said what is wrong.

You could also try reminding her how much more she can do with the two she has because four kids cost four times as much and have four times as many interests, etc.

JoRocka

Tell her if she wants to hold babies to go work at a pediatric unit.

kaseyr1505

I told my mom "Well, when you're able to support them, you can look into being a foster parent." and she hasn't mentioned it since.

happyvalentinesday

Tell her to foster a baby.

gothchiq

My mom used to do this. I got really freakin fed up and being nice didn't work. I explained to her very ungently that MY body is not a factory to produce amusements for HER, and that she should adopt if she wanted babies. ... and then I got a hysterectomy. POW.