Best way to get praised is to wear fitted clothing

SingRunTing

I know that the majority of the compliments I've gotten have been when I'm wearing something the next size down. I have a bunch in storage, but I'm always hesitant to try them on. When I do eventually get over it and wear them, I get compliments and wonder why I didn't start wearing them sooner. But I cling to the oversized stuff.

I just gave away two big bags of oversized clothes to Salvation Army! If it's in the house I will keep wearing it no matter how baggy it is on me. I'm only keeping pj's, sweats, and one pair of "this is where I started from " jeans.

saggyandbaggy

I have lost 78 lbs with quite a bit more to go and I can only agree with you all. It is very rewarding to get rid of the baggy clothes and buy fitted stuff! People do notice and their comments can help on those difficult days. I am buying things that are a little tight as I know they will fit in a few weeks- thank goodness for cheap things on e bay!!
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sexymonicat

Need2Exerc1se wrote: »

sexymonicat wrote: »

Ive lost 30 lbs and wore fitted clothes and my "c" word sister in law didnt comliment me lol Im not super skinny so I guess in her eyes its not worth praising . But when I lose 40 lbs ill pretty much be at 150 (normal weight) and I bet she still wouldnt compliment me . Shes like the only female close to me so I kinda wanted to hear that someone noticed my weight loss. But oh well shes lame. A very unkind , self hating "b" word. Sorry for the rant . She actually used to be like 250 lbs and got skinny after her husband cheated so id have to say she still acts like a fat insecure female

Insecurity comes in all sizes. Were you kind and encouraging when she was losing weight? Are you kind and encouraging to her now?

If you want approval from females, why is this the only female in your life? Go make some friends that suit you.

Im a stay at home mom and its hard to make friends . Most other moms have their own schedules and having a friend doesnt fit into them because theyre so busy raising their family . I actually dont mind not having friends but I think women are more likely to compliment you on a new hair do than a man and stuff like that so wanting to be noticed by a sister in law isnt asking for too much . But then she didn't visit her own mother while she was dying or attend her funeral so maybe it is to much to ask.

smantha32

acorsaut89 wrote: »

TimothyFish wrote: »

Why should I care what other people think?

Usually people who say this only want people to think it doesn't bother them . . . when in reality, it bothers them more than most others.

You don't have to change yourself based on what other people think, but it's very normal to care about what other people's opinions are about you. Do you want to go through life with people not liking you because you don't care about what they think? Caring about them and their opinion validates them, just as much as them complimenting you would validate you. It's a big, beautiful circle and it's pretty normal to be part of it.

Some of us are losing weight to feel better and be healthier and don't give 2 sh*ts whether others give us compliments or not.
Seriously there are people who come on here crying and quitting because they lose weight and other people don't notice.
It's not about other people. And if it is, it shouldn't be. People who lose weight to try to get a response from other people don't usually keep the weight off.

bennettinfinity

smantha32 wrote: »

acorsaut89 wrote: »

TimothyFish wrote: »

Why should I care what other people think?

Usually people who say this only want people to think it doesn't bother them . . . when in reality, it bothers them more than most others.

You don't have to change yourself based on what other people think, but it's very normal to care about what other people's opinions are about you. Do you want to go through life with people not liking you because you don't care about what they think? Caring about them and their opinion validates them, just as much as them complimenting you would validate you. It's a big, beautiful circle and it's pretty normal to be part of it.

Some of us are losing weight to feel better and be healthier and don't give 2 sh*ts whether others give us compliments or not.
Seriously there are people who come on here crying and quitting because they lose weight and other people don't notice.
It's not about other people. And if it is, it shouldn't be. People who lose weight to try to get a response from other people don't usually keep the weight off.

That's good and all, but not really the point of the thread.

smantha32

bennettinfinity wrote: »

smantha32 wrote: »

acorsaut89 wrote: »

TimothyFish wrote: »

Why should I care what other people think?

Usually people who say this only want people to think it doesn't bother them . . . when in reality, it bothers them more than most others.

You don't have to change yourself based on what other people think, but it's very normal to care about what other people's opinions are about you. Do you want to go through life with people not liking you because you don't care about what they think? Caring about them and their opinion validates them, just as much as them complimenting you would validate you. It's a big, beautiful circle and it's pretty normal to be part of it.

Some of us are losing weight to feel better and be healthier and don't give 2 sh*ts whether others give us compliments or not.
Seriously there are people who come on here crying and quitting because they lose weight and other people don't notice.
It's not about other people. And if it is, it shouldn't be. People who lose weight to try to get a response from other people don't usually keep the weight off.

That's good and all, but not really the point of the thread.

If I read it right, the title is "the best way to get praised" is to wear fitted clothing.

Some people responded that they don't care what others think, IE praise, and the girl I responded to basically said that everyone cares what others think of them. So yeah, it was a natural progression away from the point.

sssgilber

Part of the mental process of a weight loss is having a true image of your body. It helps me to try on a smaller size every few weeks, even if I don't buy anything. After years of trying on clothes while not looking in the dressing room mirror, seeing the positive changes in that reflection makes it real for me.

Any comments from others are a bonus.