abusive relationship = 50ibs ):

Harleyy3

Im 21 needing to loose 50ibs that I gained from being depressed in an abusive relationship. My ex would tell me how ugly and fat I was And those words would just sink in my head and over come my thoughts. I got so depressed and kept gaining weight. I've become so anit-social and don't remember what it's like to feel comfortable in my own skin. So Im here looking for a work out buddy or people to keep me motivated..

katekc22

You've got this! It's a new year and a great time to get where you want to be! Ive got about 40 pounds to lose and its struggle! But I'm ready to have self confidence and be happy and comfortable in my own body! Good luck on your journey you can do it!

Harleyy3

Thanks so much. Good luck @katekc22‌

TinaTimTam

Well it seems like you've taken the first step by making ur bf ur ex. And second step by joining MFP. There are a lot of great people here that will help you with dieting tips and exercise and support and motivate you. You can do this girl

Harleyy3

Thanks @celestina2703‌ And yea Im glad he's gone. But Im really trying to be motivated and block those words out

TinaTimTam

You can do it trust me. Just push yourself everyday a bit harder and challenge yourself. You got this

Harleyy3

I deff will @celestina2703‌ I deserve to feel good about Myself. Actually we all deserve to feel good about ourselves. (:

TinaTimTam

You got that right girl

Merydan

Dont listen to anyone about how u look like because what thatll do is destroy

Just remember to stay strong,healthy,and fit
I wish u good luck on ur journey

CandaceD306

I admire your strength to push forward and look for healthy wats to get back to who you were!! What better way to heal!!

TreeGrace24

Hey Harleyy3, I am also picking myself up after a toxic relationship. I know how those negative things that were said can stick in your head and try to hold you back. You have to recognize the things in your life that YOU can control. Unfortunately, there are people who have come into our lives and hurt us. All we can do is know who we are and what we deserve. That's your motivation. You! As I am mine! Let's do this together. I am going to lose 25 pounds by summer!

mowkayn

Congrats on already making so many positive choices!

Wishing you the best on your journey in re-learning to be kinder to yourself

romanticfantasy

Good luck! You can do it girl don't give up I'm in similar situation having to lose 40 lbs myself I'm an emotional eater and due to depression and stress gained so much when I used to weigh 118 miss those days XD I used to be an abusive relationship so I know how it can be but you got yourself out and now it's time to create the beautiful you you've always been

Harleyy3

Thanks so much to everyone for the kind words of motivation

Sagenettle

You can do this, and you certainly deserve to be happy, especially with yourself. Just know that his words were not based on truth, they were based on controlling you. Now that he's gone his words have no power. Try to believe that. I know how hard it is to try to better yourself when you're depressed, it's really easy to get into the mentality of "why does any of this even matter?" All you can do is try your hardest to get through it, just take one day at a time and you'll get there!

MyName83

@Harleyy3‌ I had "friends" in my life last year that made me very unhappy and took pleasure in upsetting me! I got rid of them and I only surround myself with people who are positive and want to spend time with me as well as wanting to make time for them, you can do 2015 feels like a ver positive year so GOOD LUCK XX ps feel free to add me x

fizzleh

Use the anger to drive you forward in the gym and become a better version of yourself. consistency is key, keep at it and I'm sure you'll be fit again in no time.

paradi3s

I know how that feels. What motivated me to keep going was the fact that all my classmates in high school used to tease me for being so ugly and fat. I know you can do it! :-)

Harleyy3

Thanks again to you all your all so kind and motivating

snowflake930

You are a beautiful young woman and well rid of this person.
I am sorry you were abused this way. Know that you are worthy of being respected and do this for yourself, you are so worth it!

tracys74

Hi harley,I know how it feels getting called those names it's really hard to block it and move on, but like anything else you take it one day at a time and just be strong...

srrosenbalm

I'm so sorry you went through that. No one deserves that kind treatment. Glad things for you are getting better. Feel free to add me if you'd like!

carlamarica7699

I'm picking myself back up after an abusive relationship too with just over 50ibs to lose. We can do this 🙂

Sinisterbarbie1

@carlamarica7699 you’ve uncovered a thread from 2015 so I am writing to make sure you get some words of encouragement back. I hope you feel strong and motivated now that you are out of the abusive relationship you are in and can take back some power for yourself and your health. Be good to yourself and your body. You’ve come to the right place for a fresh start.

kshama2001

carlamarica7699 wrote: »

I'm picking myself back up after an abusive relationship too with just over 50ibs to lose. We can do this 🙂

After leaving an abusive relationship in 2009, I spent a lot of time at the gym and in therapy. Best wishes to you.