Guys - am I too shoulder muscle-y?

MelonFlower
MelonFlower Posts: 37 Member
edited November 10 in Chit-Chat
I'm looking to drop weight (about 25lbs) regardless of the responses here, but I'm just wondering... men, how much muscle do you think is too much muscle on a chick? I used to weight lift a lot, and stopped about two months ago because I felt I was getting too bulky. I used to catch guys looking at me at the gym, especially during dumbbell military presses, and I can't tell if they were impressed or grossed out. I lifted again tonight just for hahas (sooooo much weaker) and then was inspired to take a poll.

I'm currently 5'5" and 154lbs. I think my body looks best between 128-134lbs so that's my goal.

Anyway, I'm curious what the men think of my current muscular status.

Please disregard my flabdomen. I just ate dinner... it was about 52,000 calories too much.

Thanks fellas!

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  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    How much muscle is too much depends entirely on what you want. If a guy thinks it looks bad, but you like how you look then he isn't worth your time. Every guy out there has their own opinion. Some will like muscles and others don't. Do not, for even one moment, worry about what someone else thinks about how you look.
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    ^^^ what she said...be happy with how you sculp your body to your liking. What I think doesn't matter one iota...enjoy life and live for you.
  • MelonFlower
    MelonFlower Posts: 37 Member
    Ha thanks, and I understand what you're saying; I am choosing to slim down regardless because of how I feel about myself. But I just thought I'd throw a pic up and see what the general consensus is. I realize it's silly and pointless.
  • just_another_day
    just_another_day Posts: 23 Member
    I have muscle-y shoulders and I think they're one of my best features. Do what makes you happy and healthy and don't worry about what others may be thinking.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    Ha thanks, and I understand what you're saying; I am choosing to slim down regardless because of how I feel about myself. But I just thought I'd throw a pic up and see what the general consensus is. I realize it's silly and pointless.

    Look through my pictures. I'm a competitive female bodybuilder. I get lots of complements on my body and above all I feel great. I've been called manly as well, but not by anyone that mattered. I like how I look and I like how I feel, that is what matters.
  • MelonFlower
    MelonFlower Posts: 37 Member
    usmcmp wrote: »
    Ha thanks, and I understand what you're saying; I am choosing to slim down regardless because of how I feel about myself. But I just thought I'd throw a pic up and see what the general consensus is. I realize it's silly and pointless.

    Look through my pictures. I'm a competitive female bodybuilder. I get lots of complements on my body and above all I feel great. I've been called manly as well, but not by anyone that mattered. I like how I look and I like how I feel, that is what matters.

    I've actually seen your pictures from another post. I'm curious how you've gotten your body fat so low and developed so much definition. Definitely impressive.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    usmcmp wrote: »
    Ha thanks, and I understand what you're saying; I am choosing to slim down regardless because of how I feel about myself. But I just thought I'd throw a pic up and see what the general consensus is. I realize it's silly and pointless.

    Look through my pictures. I'm a competitive female bodybuilder. I get lots of complements on my body and above all I feel great. I've been called manly as well, but not by anyone that mattered. I like how I look and I like how I feel, that is what matters.

    I've actually seen your pictures from another post. I'm curious how you've gotten your body fat so low and developed so much definition. Definitely impressive.

    Long term slight calorie deficit and heavy lifting. It just takes time and hard work. I hire a personal trainer to help with competition prep because it's nice to have accountability.
  • madrose0715
    madrose0715 Posts: 463 Member
    @OP - I believe once you reduce your BF%, you will be very pleased with the muscle underneath. For reference, I am almost 5'9" and 155 lbs and my shoulders and back are some of my proudest features:

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  • sentaruu
    sentaruu Posts: 2,206 Member
    I think you look great, but it's really what you're comfortable with.
  • ckmnacln
    ckmnacln Posts: 370 Member
    Well I'm not a guy but my son makes fun on my "dude" arms. I'm tiny and just want definition, not really lots of muscle. I do like feeling strong and LOVE the feeling of my muscles swelling when I start to lift. :). Who cares what anyone else thinks!
  • Sinistrous
    Sinistrous Posts: 5,589 Member
    ckmnacln wrote: »
    Well I'm not a guy but my son makes fun on my "dude" arms. I'm tiny and just want definition, not really lots of muscle. I do like feeling strong and LOVE the feeling of my muscles swelling when I start to lift. :). Who cares what anyone else thinks!

    Psh, your arms are gorgeous.
  • moto450
    moto450 Posts: 334 Member
    You look great.
  • ckmnacln
    ckmnacln Posts: 370 Member
    Sinistrous wrote: »
    ckmnacln wrote: »
    Well I'm not a guy but my son makes fun on my "dude" arms. I'm tiny and just want definition, not really lots of muscle. I do like feeling strong and LOVE the feeling of my muscles swelling when I start to lift. :). Who cares what anyone else thinks!

    Psh, your arms are gorgeous.

    Thank you!
  • MelonFlower
    MelonFlower Posts: 37 Member
    usmcmp wrote: »
    usmcmp wrote: »
    Ha thanks, and I understand what you're saying; I am choosing to slim down regardless because of how I feel about myself. But I just thought I'd throw a pic up and see what the general consensus is. I realize it's silly and pointless.

    Look through my pictures. I'm a competitive female bodybuilder. I get lots of complements on my body and above all I feel great. I've been called manly as well, but not by anyone that mattered. I like how I look and I like how I feel, that is what matters.

    I've actually seen your pictures from another post. I'm curious how you've gotten your body fat so low and developed so much definition. Definitely impressive.

    Long term slight calorie deficit and heavy lifting. It just takes time and hard work. I hire a personal trainer to help with competition prep because it's nice to have accountability.

    Honestly, I actually like being muscular, but I'd like to work toward decreasing the body fat and getting super toned. When I did all that weight lifting, I ate a lot of protein, but I didn't track calories. Maybe I'll try heavy lifting with calorie deficit like you suggest... that could get me to where I'd like to be. Thanks!!
  • beckibelgium
    beckibelgium Posts: 235 Member
    I want some muscle, us women need to show how strong we are/can be and I aim to start lifting as soon as I lose some body fat x
  • JP_909
    JP_909 Posts: 816 Member
    Yes you look great. And @madrose0715‌ u look amazing

    :)
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  • CA_Underdog
    CA_Underdog Posts: 733 Member
    You look great. I'm sure your muscles and tattoos won't be to everyone's tastes, but then neither would a softer body with tattoos. Do whatever you enjoy.
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    If I'm being honest, I would have to wait till you lost a bit more BF before making a preference call on your shoulders. You should do what makes you happy though, not this guy.
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