I am shy ...

SwitzEngine
SwitzEngine Posts: 3,418 Member
edited November 10 in Chit-Chat
what do I need to do to overcome ...

Are you shy?

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  • Sinistrous
    Sinistrous Posts: 5,589 Member
    Yup. Me too. Takes a lot to break me out of my shell.
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    I'm shy. I learned years ago to just fake confidence in uncomfortable situations.
  • davesgalforever
    davesgalforever Posts: 220 Member
    Alcohol helps me fight shyness :)
  • missmarymcmcmc
    missmarymcmcmc Posts: 78 Member
    I'm with buck. I was super shy until about 17 and realized I'd never get anywhere in life being like this! I stepped out of my shell, and haven't shut up since! ha
  • missmarymcmcmc
    missmarymcmcmc Posts: 78 Member
    As tink says, you have to fake it till you make it! No kidding
  • missmarymcmcmc
    missmarymcmcmc Posts: 78 Member
    I believe you have to do what tink said. Basically fake it till you make it!
  • GoldieGlocks
    GoldieGlocks Posts: 54 Member
    I'm super shy but don't shut up around friends. Hate being shy though!
  • Groovyca2022
    Groovyca2022 Posts: 21,378 Member
    I'm totally shy.

    Nope, not really. Just wanted to say hi.
  • alyssamontezino
    alyssamontezino Posts: 58 Member
    _Tink_ wrote: »
    I'm shy. I learned years ago to just fake confidence in uncomfortable situations.

    Exactly what I did .
  • alyssamontezino
    alyssamontezino Posts: 58 Member
    I use to be shy but if you have confidence or just fake it like what the people above said , you'll soon start loosing the shyness. You'll be fine :)
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    Nope not shy here☺
  • EZDUZIT68
    EZDUZIT68 Posts: 1,168 Member
    If you're tongue-tied or short of breath don't even try. But if you want to Try a little harder then Something's wrong.

    I'm not naive, but you must must be strong because modern medicine falls short of your complaint, so try a little harder or else you'll just be
    moving in circles because you're too shy. If you see a girl just say "Hey girl, move a little closer!". But really you're too shy-shy, hush hush, eye to eye... too shy too shy, hush hush...

    eye to eye!
  • deathbybunny
    deathbybunny Posts: 259 Member
    Almost 40 and still shy...pretending I'm not sometimes in order to function socially.
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  • deathbybunny
    deathbybunny Posts: 259 Member
    BLACKxLABEL wrote: »
    I get nervous as fck around people with the exception of friends, but even then it's still a little awkward for me. What I do to battle that is to say crazy *kitten* all the time to make them laugh.

    I can not score high on promotional tests at work that require oral participation because I start to get tongue tied. I have a 1000 things in my head all at once and all the comes out is some stupid *kitten*. Complete mind midgets score higher than me and make rank when I know more about my job than most of the department. Surely there is therapy for what I'm experiencing.

    This sucks :/ I think you should seek some help and see where it goes. It's such a pity to not show your full potential. I really wish you the best.
  • attosa
    attosa Posts: 419 Member
    Noooo! Life is way too short to be shy. I want to know everyone. I want to gain experiences. Not to say being a loudmouth is ok -- cos that's just as bad. Enjoy yourself :)
  • TaminaShock
    TaminaShock Posts: 191 Member
    Never was shy... always a clown
  • cdh2015
    cdh2015 Posts: 57 Member
    Not shy...Just introverted due to past experiences. Like with work, I've taught lessons and such so I'm not afraid to speak to people or anything. I just choose to stay alone and spend my time reading except when my wife is home. My wife and family is more than enough for me when it comes to person-to-person contact haha
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  • redhead_che
    redhead_che Posts: 292 Member
    What was "just me being shy" when I was a child is now pretty bad social anxiety. But Xanax is awesome ;)
  • SwitzEngine
    SwitzEngine Posts: 3,418 Member
    Groovycadreamr wrote: »
    I'm totally shy.

    Nope, not really. Just wanted to say hi.
    Not very helpful Cindy :-)
  • Spnneil06
    Spnneil06 Posts: 18,745 Member
    I was very shy until I started waitressing. Even now I take my time before opening up to someone, watch them and decide if they are worth it!
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    Overcoming shyness is all about stepping outside your comfort zone. I would also recommend have an outgoing wingman. You got to approach people. Then it gets to a point were you can do it on your own.

    I moved to a new state which was my first time ever living anywhere else than my wack hometown. The night when I decided to meet the locals at a bar, I bar hopped 4 bars, My roommate was like well you know what to do if you need help call me. When I was not home before 3 am he called me to check to make sure I was not in trouble. I told him I am going to this girl's house who I met at the bar. His words after were well be safe and details tomorrow.

    I walked into one of the bars that I felt was not too liken to black people. You ever see those scenes in movies where you walk into a spot and everything everyone stops and stares at what you are doing. Yeah that bar felt like that to me. Now don't stay if you feel that uncomfortable. I am not a small guy and I hear I can look pretty intimidating at times. My plan was to find the bartender with the best top shelf long island ice tea.

    Call it what you want confidence or whatever. It gets easier to meet new people and then you figure out ways to bring other people who are shy out of their comfort zone. Yes sometimes I can tell who is shy at a social event. They almost stick out and are that noticeable to me.

    OP I recommend guys night out or girls night out. I have found the women are better wingmen than men are.
  • JeriAnne84
    JeriAnne84 Posts: 543 Member
    I'm not really shy. I just stay quiet until I get a feel of the people around me because I have a tendancy to say inappropriate things that offend people.
  • redromad275
    redromad275 Posts: 884 Member
    Not shy here. My years of military service rid me of any inkling of that. I am an Alpha type sometimes to the point of overbearing( my wife would say more than sometimes) but to get a mission done, there is no time for shyness.
  • SwitzEngine
    SwitzEngine Posts: 3,418 Member
    yopeeps025 wrote: »
    Overcoming shyness is all about stepping outside your comfort zone. I would also recommend have an outgoing wingman. You got to approach people. Then it gets to a point were you can do it on your own.

    I moved to a new state which was my first time ever living anywhere else than my wack hometown. The night when I decided to meet the locals at a bar, I bar hopped 4 bars, My roommate was like well you know what to do if you need help call me. When I was not home before 3 am he called me to check to make sure I was not in trouble. I told him I am going to this girl's house who I met at the bar. His words after were well be safe and details tomorrow.

    I walked into one of the bars that I felt was not too liken to black people. You ever see those scenes in movies where you walk into a spot and everything everyone stops and stares at what you are doing. Yeah that bar felt like that to me. Now don't stay if you feel that uncomfortable. I am not a small guy and I hear I can look pretty intimidating at times. My plan was to find the bartender with the best top shelf long island ice tea.

    Call it what you want confidence or whatever. It gets easier to meet new people and then you figure out ways to bring other people who are shy out of their comfort zone. Yes sometimes I can tell who is shy at a social event. They almost stick out and are that noticeable to me.

    OP I recommend guys night out or girls night out. I have found the women are better wingmen than men are.

    Thanks
  • sweetdixie92
    sweetdixie92 Posts: 655 Member
    davesgalforever wrote: »
    Alcohol helps me fight shyness :)

    This is true. I'm generally shy, unless I really hit it off with someone. Or had enough shots!
  • NJGamerChick
    NJGamerChick Posts: 467 Member
    I'm shy too, sometimes only a little, other times painfully shy. I'm also a loner and only child. How I have friends I have no idea since introversion is my natural state.
  • fitnesscat2014
    fitnesscat2014 Posts: 30 Member
    Very shy. I try hard to put myself out there. I also have my days: one day I'm somewhat social and the next I'm super quiet. I did find out that I have some social anxiety going on and that shyness is just a part of me so I would say first accept yourself, shut any negative voices up then put yourself out there. Some people will break out of it but in my case it's just who I am, it's in my nature and once I know a person accepts me the way I am I tend to open up more. Everyone is different and has special qualities, strengths and weaknesses.
  • cklbrown
    cklbrown Posts: 4,696 Member
    I am very introverted. I rarely speak unless I am with people I am extremely comfortable being around. When I do say something it is usually sassy. Once I am comfortable, I am jocular and tend to be very goofy. I am often in the middle of tomfoolery. It takes quite a while for me to warm up . Even when I am comfortable, I still will avoid people as not to have to speak.
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