rocker mom on 6month count down to gastric bypass surgery

kytten10

Hello, I m a 40+ rocker mom, married of exhairband rocker, have a 13 yr old son who wants to be the next mick mars lol, i was hoping to find support here while i diet and learn to eat right before my gastric bypass surgery in January. it was very hard for me to finally admitt i needed help, i spent my 20s in rock clubs, traveling with a rock band and making rock videos, weight was never an issue partying kept us all thin, but we are all now settled down in our 40s and most of us put on some weight i am no exception. my son and his band friends look at the pics of me with my famous friends cant believe that was me . I am now starting to have knee issues and not enjoying life as much. my son is playing out and i want to enjoy it but by the time we load in, sound check and get ready for him to go on i am already ready to go home but i stick it out but not having as much fun as i should.
i am not telling any friends (except one who did the surgery herself) or family other than my son and husband that iam doing this.
anyone who has advice as to how to get past these 6 months without throwing in the towel lets here it. iam hope for any and all ideas.
thanks

Doraboyes

I haven't had surgery but maybe if you stick to Mfp you won't need the surgery

Doraboyes

It's gotten me motivated walking dogs doing minor changes, Good luck

MochaMixAZ

Hi and welcome!!

I won't lie - the next 6 months are likely going to suck and won't be easy. HOWEVER - you *can* do it.

I suggest setting a few short and long term goals. For example, where do you want to be in 6 months? 1 month? 1 week? 2 days? What can you do TOMORROW? Meaningful, attainable, goals - wherever you are at. If that means walk 4 miles tomorrow, super. If it means walk to the mailbox twice, great. The key is to be mindful and to BEGIN.

Next, realize your weight didn't come on overnight and it's not going to come off overnight. Take it one day (sometimes one hour, sometimes one MINUTE) at a time. You will have good days. You will have bad days. No matter what, reset your goals and START AGAIN. It's not at all about how many times you mess up, but how many times you keep going.

Your doctor probably gave you some sort of diet to follow? Get it out, review it - make a plan to achieve it. If they haven't given you a plan, do a little research to figure out what will work for you.

You'll get a lot of support here if you look for it. Just ask - there are some great folks.

My very best to you!

summersbest

I had RNY surgery last Sept. and don't regret one minute of it. Only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Feel free to add me for support.

Yes it is definitely difficult to wait once you have actually made the decision but the time will pass quickly. I had to wait almost two years to the date from when my gp put in the request until my surgery. I'm from Ontario Canada and my government covered the cost but hence the wait. I had also been debating and researching for about a year before that so it felt like the surgery would never happen. In the meantime. I took the opportunity to find out everything I could about the surgery and what changes I would have to make food wise for the rest of my life.

You may not get as much support as you would like from here as many are against surgery but I made sure to find friends who had surgery as well and it has really helped. I do have non surgery friends on here who have been very supportive so just igore those that keep telling you that you can loose the weight on your own. Obviously you wouldn't be making the decision to have surgery if you could loose the weight yourself. And no matter what anyone may say, surgery is anything but taking the easy way out. It requires hard work daily for the rest of our lives.

Good luck on your surgery and the wait. It will be so worth it in the end. ~