Not sure how to phrase this question...

LouLouStBijou

So, when I see pictures of traditionally good looking guys with nicely toned bodies, I find them attractive. They are the people that, in my mind, I would see myself wanting to date...

However, I have never dated anyone who was all that "fit". All of my partners tended much more toward average (not large but most had some padding) and a lot more "bookish" as opposed to gym hard body types.

Do a lot of people have this experience, ending up with people who you would not necessarily said you were attracted to or looking for?

seltzermint555

Eh, I have never really been into the traditionally good looking and fit types. I think on some level I found them girlish (say, NKOTB or other teen stars) or way out of my league (Brad Pitts of the world)...and the super muscly/bodybuilder, oiled-up types aren't attractive to me.

So really, even in my teens I always imagined myself dating big beefy guys, more overweight than muscle-bound, and the taller the better. That is pretty much what I always dated and even married at 25. I think (if only subconsciously) I subscribed to the idea that big (obese) girls should go for the biggest possible guys in order to feel "smaller and feminine".

But then when I hit 35 and got divorced I didn't care about that stuff AT ALL anymore. After 10 years of not-very-sexy marriage to a guy who was more involved with his Xbox and Papa John's Pizza, I was ready for someone healthy and energetic and if that meant a guy who was 5'5" and skinny, I was fine with it as long as he was truly into ME, too, even at my size (5'8" and obese but quite active).

Realizing that I didn't care if people would think "oh look at the fat girl and skinny guy" or any of that...I dated several different types before meeting my current husband...he's tall, about 6'2" and very good looking with runner's legs and a flat belly and I outweighed him by about 60 lb when we met! Now I'm smaller than he is though

LouLouStBijou

I always wanted to feel dainty as well. i am the same height as you and wanted to feel small next to a man. my husband is also 6'2" but he outweighs me by 80 lbs. I feel small next to him, but I would like to see him lose weight.

desika8787

Well honestly I have never been attracted to these well toned guys because in my environment is noone like that I only knew 2 guys who had these "wow"-bodies but they were no fun to go out because they were so concerned about what they ate and drank that it was hard to have a fun and easy evening in a group

And last but not least: I am far far away from a well toned body therefore I guess those guys are not interested in me at all haha

kinkyslinky16

I've never been in to the super buff guys. They are nice to look at but I'm more attracted to guys like Zach Galifianakis. Yep. My husband looks a lot like him except significantly better looking in the face and he's 6'4". Not sure why? Maybe it's just the humor that is more of a turn on than the way they look.