I always fail at diets.
sharonn44
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Hi...I always fail at diets ...can never reach my goal ...but I never give up. I need to lose 20 or 30 pounds. I lose my motivation after a few days or weeks or at times months. Hope to stick with this to reach my goal
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Same here so I have quit dieting and just working on an eating lifestyle where the weight will self adjust to a healthy point over time and stay that way for life.0
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Then don't diet. Change you're whole lifestyle, eat healthier and don't deny yourself that pizza slice once in a while. Set a reasonable calorie goal and make sure you're still in a deficit and you'll sure as he'll lose weight. Think long term
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GaleHawkins wrote: »Same here so I have quit dieting and just working on an eating lifestyle where the weight will self adjust to a healthy point over time and stay that way for life.
This. Stop thinking of this as a diet. Diets have an end. Think of this as a lifestyle change that you'll have forever.
Figure out why you lose motivation and you'll figure out why your past attempts weren't successful.
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yes I have tried that too........but I still do poorly. just takes one or two unhealthy choices and I don't go down.0
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Change your mindset.0
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fact is exercise doesn't seem to work without strict diet control. I love salads and veggies and fruit.......eat every day. but I also like bread and sugar......so that is where I have to restrict mostly......portion control.....
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fact is exercise doesn't seem to work without strict diet control. I love salads and veggies and fruit.......eat every day. but I also like bread and sugar......so that is where I have to restrict mostly......portion control.....
If you want it bad enough that is what you will do. *shrug* No one here can make you want it.0 -
fact is exercise doesn't seem to work without strict diet control. I love salads and veggies and fruit.......eat every day. but I also like bread and sugar......so that is where I have to restrict mostly......portion control.....
No, you cant exercise out a bad diet, but a the same time you just need moderation in a calorie deficit, not 'strict control' - life is too short to never eat cake!0 -
that is a good question. why do I lose my motivation. I still want to be slender. have more energy. less weight to carry up on my hikes and snowshoes. I know I eat for the wrong reasons and not because I am hungry.
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not expecting anyone here to make me want it. just sayin. Here to track my calories and introduce myself .0
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You're looking for answers in the wrong places. You lose weight by eating less than you burn. You can do that with a good attitude or a bad one, with motivation or without, exercising or not, eating lots of salads or none. Just decide how many calories you should eat and eat those calories.0
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Don't diet, make a lifestyle change.0
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that is a good question. why do I lose my motivation. I still want to be slender. have more energy. less weight to carry up on my hikes and snowshoes. I know I eat for the wrong reasons and not because I am hungry.
Everyone loses motivation now and then. The important thing is to build up routine for those days when the motivation is not there.0 -
vikkiitoria wrote: »Then don't diet. Change you're whole lifestyle, eat healthier and don't deny yourself that pizza slice once in a while. Set a reasonable calorie goal and make sure you're still in a deficit and you'll sure as he'll lose weight. Think long term
I like this comment! :-)
Don't think of it as a diet but as a lifestyle change. Lower your calorie intake by just a bit (Check a TDEE calculator and subtract it by 500 for 1 lb loss per week, or subtract it by however you want so long as you're comfortable with it) and exercise a bit more. You don't need to go to the gym and lift 3 hours a day, or only eat celery sticks every single day, cutting off all things they like. That's why most people end up giving up.
Have you heard of the IIFYM/flexibility diet? I won't get into detail but you basically eat what you want so long as it fits your calorie goal. It worked for me! There are times I eat pizza or chips and still lost weight because it fit my calorie goal.
And also, build a routine and keep your eyes on the prize. Feel free to add or message me for support! You can do it. :-)0 -
Liftng4Lis wrote: »Don't diet, make a lifestyle change.
ding! and you don't have to give up anything - it is quite freeing 0 -
How much did you set your goal to lose per week? Maybe you are setting your goal too high/calories too low, and then you feel hungry. Also, its not an all-or nothing approach. If you go over one day, reel it in and stay under the next day. Don't let one or two "bad" choices ruin the whole thing. You can fit in treats and stay within your goals.0
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DancingMoosie wrote: »How much did you set your goal to lose per week? Maybe you are setting your goal too high/calories too low, and then you feel hungry. Also, its not an all-or nothing approach. If you go over one day, reel it in and stay under the next day. Don't let one or two "bad" choices ruin the whole thing. You can fit in treats and stay within your goals.
wine.. wine is good... if I plan on having something that day I log that first then work around it
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I'm with you. Been trying to lose the same 15 pounds for 2 1/2 years. I'll start to lose but then back track. Trying yet again! Add me0
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Since you have to eat every day I think you're in the right place. By logging my calories and exercise daily I was finally able to shed that last 14#'s. Never dieted, keep active when possible (snowshoeing ... yes!), but find the nonjudgemental reminder when I log in at the end of the day very motivating. If every day were like today you will weigh ____ in 5 weeks.0
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that is a good question. why do I lose my motivation. I still want to be slender. have more energy. less weight to carry up on my hikes and snowshoes. I know I eat for the wrong reasons and not because I am hungry.
Set yourself a very possible goal, lose one pound a week. I've become (mostly) used to the amount that I eat now during the weight loss stage, (I've lost 25 ibs, have another 25 I think to lose). It's fine if you have a bad day, you need to learn that. For very special occasions, for example my birthday, I won't think about it, I will damn eat that chocolate cake, that's my cake! Every now and then If I want a sundae from Hungry Jacks I will get that sundae and just make sure that it fits within my calorie limit.
And most of all where it sounds like you're messing up; if you go over one day,
a)Don't freak out
b)Don't think "well I've done it now so I might as well eat more" NO every extra calorie is more calories and makes a difference.
If you go over, try and make it up by eating that amount less the next day, or, if you go over by a big amount, break it up over a few days and eat a bit less than your limit each day to make it up. Don't just keep going once you realise you've got over (unless you're /actually/ hungry (and it's far in to your weight loss journey, if its in the first few days, don't just eat more cause you're hungry unless you're like /painful hungry/ it's normal to feel a tad hungry in the first month or two) but I think we both know, you're not. You just want to eat because it's fun. But when I get like this I think of a little fantasy I have about that one particular person that hasn't seen my weight loss yet and will be so surprised to see the healthy body in front of them, for me it's this little fantasy about the doctor who's been my GP since I was a baby finally seeing how healthy I am. Or about how comfortable you'll feel in a situation that overweight you wouldn't be comfortable in for example, i wore my first ever bikini today to a friends pool party and, although I'm shy and it took me a little while to get used to it, I felt comfortable, even in front of the guys.
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Approaching weight loss with NO COMMITMENT, will result in lackluster results. Commitment means overcoming obstacles and deterences that impede you from reaching whatever goal you set for yourself.
Most people here have a "desire" to be leaner and in better shape. Few people actually commit to doing what it takes to do it though.
Don't confuse effort with results. You either do it or you don't. Sounds harsh I know, but for many who just hover and get little done over years of trying, it's because they believe that not quitting is still "working" on it. This isn't a new story to me having heard it several times over the years in fitness.
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