Want to start lifting yesterday

Th3Ph03n1x

yopeeps025 wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

You mean he is afraid of you getting stronger than him.

I don't think so. I know him well enough I'd wager if he gets worried about that he'll just start lifting again (he's lifted before but it's been awhile) with me. Of course the way he is if it did happen I wouldn't be surprised if he wore it like a badge of honor.

Ok so DH used to lift and does not want OP to lift for safety reasons. Sounds like he can easily show you how to lift. He wants his wife to be nice and weak and oh yeah bendable. There is something wrong with all of this.

No that's not it...lol. The second part plays into it I'm sure but not the first. He's knows me well enough to know if I want to do it I'm going to do it. He has shown me some stuff. He's helped me find my max on the bench and choose a starting weight for reps but he operates on outdated info. What he "knows" from way back when and what I have learned reading from now are worlds apart.

so he on that you are going to get bulky crap? Yeah that is some outdated stuff.

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Something like that he was cool about the upper body but he did express concern about me getting big legs. I told him if anything they would get small because... yeah the thighs are pretty large right now . Of course he doesn't always believe I know what I'm talking about which in this case is understandable since I have next to zero practical experience.

Th3Ph03n1x

deksgrl wrote: »

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

You mean he is afraid of you getting stronger than him.

I don't think so. I know him well enough I'd wager if he gets worried about that he'll just start lifting again (he's lifted before but it's been awhile) with me. Of course the way he is if it did happen I wouldn't be surprised if he wore it like a badge of honor.

Ok so DH used to lift and does not want OP to lift for safety reasons. Sounds like he can easily show you how to lift. He wants his wife to be nice and weak and oh yeah bendable. There is something wrong with all of this.

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

You mean he is afraid of you getting stronger than him.

I don't think so. I know him well enough I'd wager if he gets worried about that he'll just start lifting again (he's lifted before but it's been awhile) with me. Of course the way he is if it did happen I wouldn't be surprised if he wore it like a badge of honor.

Ok so DH used to lift and does not want OP to lift for safety reasons. Sounds like he can easily show you how to lift. He wants his wife to be nice and weak and oh yeah bendable. There is something wrong with all of this.

No that's not it...lol. The second part plays into it I'm sure but not the first. He's knows me well enough to know if I want to do it I'm going to do it. He has shown me some stuff. He's helped me find my max on the bench and choose a starting weight for reps but he operates on outdated info. What he "knows" from way back when and what I have learned reading from now are worlds apart.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I learned to just not argue with him, I agreed with everything he said, and did things the way I was learning it anyway. And now it's fine. I tell him hey, I deadlifted 120# today 5 x 5 and he says wow, that's great, I'm so glad you found something you like and are sticking to.

I'm sure that's how it will end up particularly once results start showing. Good to hear from other people who have been in the situation... thanks

yopeeps025

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

You mean he is afraid of you getting stronger than him.

I don't think so. I know him well enough I'd wager if he gets worried about that he'll just start lifting again (he's lifted before but it's been awhile) with me. Of course the way he is if it did happen I wouldn't be surprised if he wore it like a badge of honor.

Ok so DH used to lift and does not want OP to lift for safety reasons. Sounds like he can easily show you how to lift. He wants his wife to be nice and weak and oh yeah bendable. There is something wrong with all of this.

No that's not it...lol. The second part plays into it I'm sure but not the first. He's knows me well enough to know if I want to do it I'm going to do it. He has shown me some stuff. He's helped me find my max on the bench and choose a starting weight for reps but he operates on outdated info. What he "knows" from way back when and what I have learned reading from now are worlds apart.

so he on that you are going to get bulky crap? Yeah that is some outdated stuff.

Something like that he was cool about the upper body but he did express concern about me getting big legs. I told him if anything they would get small because... yeah the thighs are pretty large right now . Of course he doesn't always believe I know what I'm talking about which in this case is understandable since I have next to zero practical experience.

Well at least he is showing whatever concerns he has even if they are wrong or right or not the whole truth. People like what they like but when the SO wants something else and expresses that it will make they happy people will still say like well what if this happens. what if you get too define. what if your butt gets smaller. what if you lose what I like about you. As for being flexible combine with weight training is very smart I will add.

Best case scenario is everyone will either support, understand, or compromise with the one you love wishes.

AliceDark

I do understand where he's coming from. There's so much stupid misinformation about women and weight lifting out there, and not a lot of accurate information. I've been lifting for years, and when people find out I lift, they tend to want to warn me about how I'm going to she-hulk out. At this point, I'd be thrilled if that suddenly happened, but it's not going to. It's hard work to get bulky when you're a woman! (I know you know this, OP, but it bears repeating, if only for the lurkers).

If he's worried about your flexibility, make sure you're warming up before you lift and stretching afterward. Remind him that you'll probably have DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness) during at least the first month, and remind him that a little bit of stiffness/soreness doesn't mean you're losing flexibility. I usually wouldn't recommend that people start a bunch of new things at once, because it's easy to get overwhelmed, but starting a little yoga or Tai Chi isn't a bad idea if it appeals to you.

And don't worry about what the scale does in the next 4 weeks! You'll most likely either see a little bump or at least a stall. It's water retention from the new exercise, it's totally normal, and it will go away

Th3Ph03n1x

AliceDark wrote: »

I do understand where he's coming from. There's so much stupid misinformation about women and weight lifting out there, and not a lot of accurate information. I've been lifting for years, and when people find out I lift, they tend to want to warn me about how I'm going to she-hulk out. At this point, I'd be thrilled if that suddenly happened, but it's not going to. It's hard work to get bulky when you're a woman! (I know you know this, OP, but it bears repeating, if only for the lurkers).

If he's worried about your flexibility, make sure you're warming up before you lift and stretching afterward. Remind him that you'll probably have DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness) during at least the first month, and remind him that a little bit of stiffness/soreness doesn't mean you're losing flexibility. I usually wouldn't recommend that people start a bunch of new things at once, because it's easy to get overwhelmed, but starting a little yoga or Tai Chi isn't a bad idea if it appeals to you.

And don't worry about what the scale does in the next 4 weeks! You'll most likely either see a little bump or at least a stall. It's water retention from the new exercise, it's totally normal, and it will go away

Thanks for the heads up I appreciate it. I've been measuring as well as weighing but I'm guessing measuring should only be done about once a month if you expect to see changes?

Th3Ph03n1x

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Th3Ph03n1x wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

You mean he is afraid of you getting stronger than him.

I don't think so. I know him well enough I'd wager if he gets worried about that he'll just start lifting again (he's lifted before but it's been awhile) with me. Of course the way he is if it did happen I wouldn't be surprised if he wore it like a badge of honor.

Ok so DH used to lift and does not want OP to lift for safety reasons. Sounds like he can easily show you how to lift. He wants his wife to be nice and weak and oh yeah bendable. There is something wrong with all of this.

No that's not it...lol. The second part plays into it I'm sure but not the first. He's knows me well enough to know if I want to do it I'm going to do it. He has shown me some stuff. He's helped me find my max on the bench and choose a starting weight for reps but he operates on outdated info. What he "knows" from way back when and what I have learned reading from now are worlds apart.

so he on that you are going to get bulky crap? Yeah that is some outdated stuff.

Something like that he was cool about the upper body but he did express concern about me getting big legs. I told him if anything they would get small because... yeah the thighs are pretty large right now . Of course he doesn't always believe I know what I'm talking about which in this case is understandable since I have next to zero practical experience.

Well at least he is showing whatever concerns he has even if they are wrong or right or not the whole truth. People like what they like but when the SO wants something else and expresses that it will make they happy people will still say like well what if this happens. what if you get too define. what if your butt gets smaller. what if you lose what I like about you. As for being flexible combine with weight training is very smart I will add.

Best case scenario is everyone will either support, understand, or compromise with the one you love wishes.

Yeah he's a good guy... we'll work it out maybe we'll just do the two (or at least I will). Then add in cardio after w'ere used to the routine.

QueenMother14

I just started Stronglifts and I started out really really light. My husband even tried to get me to go heavier but I said NO. I wanted to concentrate on form and then go up the 5lbs each time like it says to do. Why start real heavy and then be upset in two workouts when you cant lift anything? I want it to be a long term program for me so I want to do it right. So far, I LOVE IT. I do dream of the day I lift heavier amounts though. Feel free to add me, would love more friends who are lifting.