Anyone more critical now?

kindasortachewy

I was 235 last year at this time, I was 213 just sixty days ago when I joined MFP, today I'm at 192 and yet I dislike the way I look in photos more??

Okay, not exactly, I am liking the changes in my body, and some photos I can see the change and I get happy, but I feel more citical, at 235 I really didn't give tow fluffs what people thought of my body and I didn't care if I was tagged in some rather less-than-flattering photos on facebook, but now I'm like.. OH MY GOSH! I look like I haven't lost anything, ew look at my chub, and please take this down - when someone takes or posts a photo of me.. I feel like I should be more confident, not less

xabcdefgeee

It might be because you worked so hard to look and feel the way you do so you are more conscious about how you appears to others?

ETA: You definitely shouldn't feel like that though - you look great! Everybody gets tagged looking all crazy but hardly anyone else notices it as much as we do

JDBLY11

I think you look really great in your clothes. It is hard to believe you are 194 lbs. You don't look it.

kindasortachewy

Thanks you both, I guess I just feel like I should look better than I do? Is that normal?

Jobly, I am 5'11 - less than 20 pounds ago I was obese by BMI charts standers and I'm still in the high high overweight numbers - but thanks for the compliment

khall86790

Hmmm, well I certainly felt up til I hit 145lbs. I'd lost 20-25lbs roughly already by that point and felt like I should look better than I did but I still had unflattering photos. After I hit 140lbs I started liking almost every photo of me and now I am more concerned on how my face looks than my body... I have some very unflattering facial expressions when caught off guard. haha.

Alexandra289

It's all part of adjusting to your new body I guess. I find it really hard to accept how I look sometimes. Like sometimes I'll look in the mirror and to me I look exactly the same before. But recently someone took photos of me and I was really shocked and didn't like it - I couldn't believe how thin I looked! I know I'm not too thin - it's just getting used to it.

Also, sounds silly but I'm really fussy about what clothes I wear. I hate the fact that most tops are designed to be a bit baggy and shapeless because I want to show off the shape that I've worked so hard to get! I feel really big when I wear clothes than aren't fitted but realistically I don't think anyone else would think that.

valeriewxy

I know exactly how you feel I pinpoint areas of myself I dislike more often than I ever used to.

I think xabcdefgeee got it right ~ "It might be because you worked so hard to look and feel the way you do so you are more conscious about how you appears to others?"

55in13

Absolutely. I am no longer resigned to acceptance.

mnm424

Kindachewy you are doing an amazing job!!! keep up all the hard work and dedication!!!

fiberartist219

I can relate. I tell myself that I look beautiful at every weight. I decided to lose for health reasons, and not really for my appearance.

As I started working out, I noticed some positive changes... but as I started to look closer I found more things to work on. I was looking at myself in ways I hadn't before. Instead of congratulating myself for the hard work I'd done, it felt really easy to just focus on what all I had left to do.

My suggestion is to take a break from the scale, or mirror, or whatever it is you're fixating on. If you have to, you might even want to set your calories for maintenance mode for a few weeks just to take the pressure off and get used to things as they are now. Try to focus on how you FEEL rather than how you look or what number you're trying to reach. That helps a lot. When I think about how strong I am and how much energy I have now, that makes a HUGE difference in my attitude.