getting over guilt feelings, and respecting yourself.

santd

I've been a yo-yo dieter all my life, and I must admit now, that I've not had a health relationship with food. If I ate healthy food I resented it, and if I ate unhealthy foods I'd feel guilty over it. But it was the food, it was myself I didn't respect, and I used the food to abuse myself with. When i look at my life I've used food around difficult times, and my weight gains have also followed these life traumas. Then you get stuck into bad habits. But they are just that. habits, and all habits can be broken.

During my diet, I've done a lot of research this time, and I was also very aware of my failed diets, as i don't want another failure on my hands. Where i went wrong in the past, i just went on a diet, and never asked why i got like that in the first place, and of course if you don't know where you've gone wrong, then its just a diet, and then you'll got back on your old habits and gain.

I also don't see it as what people say 'its a new health life style'. Whether healthy or unhealthy they are all diets, and our daily diet must have sustainable balance. If you're like me, I always wanted quick results. hence i failed.

Then after many many years I started to realize, I had to respect myself, not beat myself up for what I ate. Its been the hardest change, than the diet itself. But if you can get it right in your head first, your on the right track.

alisonlynn1976

The word diet implies a temporary fix. The reason that "diets" don't work is because people eat less and/or healthier until they lose the weight, then go back to eating the junk food/large portions they ate before, so of course the weight comes back. For sustainable weight loss, it's necessary to change what/how much you eat permanently.

santd

I used to be a nurse, and when you talk about your daily intake its your diet. just terminology. I didn't mean going on a diet. As I think you see it. Everything you eat is your diet, whether it good or bad.

icimani

I'm having to overhaul how I treat myself as well - learning to respect myself enough to take care of my body.

I'm changing my diet, not putting myself on a diet. I agree with the others - "diet" implies something temporary - and then I go back to what I was doing before? Which clearly was working against me. So yes - it's a new healthier lifestyle. A lifestyle that's sustainable.

annakow

I guess diet is someting.. forever, I wasn't aware of it

_Moose51_

How did you get your head right? I think I have the same sort of struggles.

Mrs_Bones

I can definitely relate to this. It's so easy to beat yourself up and put yourself down when you make a mistake or have a bad day. For me, forgiving myself and nurturing myself has been a huge part of my journey. I've always had really negative body image too which I've been working on. Now instead of looking in the mirror and letting harmful self-talk take over, I look and say, "Wow, look how defined my shoulders are getting!" and find positive things to say to myself. We are our own worst enemies sometimes and learning to truly love ourselves is often the greatest hurdle of all. Best of luck x

icimani

How did you get your head right? I think I have the same sort of struggles.

It's really hard to change the way we talk to ourselves. For me - I try to remember that I wouldn't be friends with someone who talked like that to me all the time, so why do I put up with it? I'm slowly but surely learning to be a friend to myself.