Goals. Are mine reasonable, close to reasonable, ridiculous, or impossible? &Where to measure hip?

Phaewryn

I've decided to fast on rest days, not a hard fast, just a lower fat, less calorie fast day. Probably 2 days a week. I've set my goals to exercise 4 days a week, but realistically, I will probably exercise 5 days a week, I just didn't want to make my goal so high it discouraged me. I would like input from others who have lost weight and gained muscle as to if my current goals are reasonable. All week my Cholesterol - Iron stay the same. On work days, I'm allowing myself 1300 calories, with a 40% carb, 40% protein, and 20% fat ratio. On rest days, I'm allowing 850 calories, with a 55% carb, 30% protein, and 15% fat ratio. I'm not sure what healthy ratios of saturated/polyunsaturated/monounsaturated fats are under those percentages, so I just have it set to 2 saturated, 22 polyunsaturated, 3 monounsaturated, 0 trans. But wouldn't those change between the 15% fat days and the 20% days? Here are my work days and rest days profiles:



I'm a 39 year old female, I'm 5'2" (light framed/petite). I suffer from metabolic syndrome due to a medication I was on about 3 years ago. I currently weigh about 135 (that puts my BMI right on the edge between normal and overweight, and that is NOT acceptable), my goal is to get back down to under 120 (but not under 115), UNLESS I start lifting more, in which case 123 has always looked good on me with muscle. But, at this point my weight lifting is limited to about 3 days a week, and I'm not pushing it hard, and my main goal at this point is to lose my belly (I have no waist anymore, very poor waist to hip ratio). I do realize that if I choose to lift more (for mass/bulk - which I've done in the past), I will need more calories. I'm having NO problems with getting these calorie numbers, I've gone to bed every night with leftover calories I didn't want to eat. I've never eaten much, I don't think that I was eating more than 1400 calories before I started dieting, yet I was putting on weight. I'm trying to eat BETTER/healthier calories, and less of them, way less on rest days. Is this a reasonable method?

While I am here, ladies, where do you measure your hip measurement? My upper thigh at the very base of my butt is my widest part, but to me that is hardly a "hip" measurement:

To me hips are the bones just under the love handles, and that measurement goes around the top of the butt:

Or, there's a dip between both of those that gets smaller, should I be measuring that smallest middle part? Here?

I'm not sure which one to use when calculating my waist to hip ratio. Is there a diagram online somewhere that displays the correct level/place to measure women's hips at? Advise?