Is anyone here tall AND fat?
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azulvioleta6 wrote: »I can only think of one person that I have rejected for height--he was WAY too short to dance with me--dancing is a pretty important part of my social life. If we had a ton in common or he had been an extraordinary person in some other way, it wouldn't have mattered.
I'm pretty tall, so most of the people I've been with are shorter than I am.
Yes, I think that making height a major factor in deciding who to date is shallow. Getting angry at other couples because of their height differential is just strange.
Definition of shallow; Judging a person based strictly on looks, not factoring in their personality whatsoever.
So when someone says 'oh I am really attracted to redheads' or 'I find blue eyes attractive' that must be shallow too? Just because I find tall women attractive doesn't make it a shallow. Never said I only date tall girls no matter their personality, just that I made dating tall girls one of my preferences...
You seem a bit quick to judge someone being shallow.
Eh, I dont see it as shallow at all. Like, I think its perfectly reasonable for me to say I prefer a guy who is at least my height, though Id love a man who is 6'1" and over so that I can wear heels without towering over him. Just...would be nice to feel like Im out with my MAN and not out with my son, who I have to bend down to kiss.
Then again, I have a raging thing for blond blue nordic like guys...soooo, maybe Im shallow? Blame my hormones for that, cause I swear, the feelings I get when I cross paths with one of em is not a reaction I can control
ANYWAY! Im 5'10" and yeah, Im always the giantess... my friends even joke I cant stand next to them when we go out and wearing heels, because all anyone can see is me...making me the worst wing woman everrr LoL!
Not to mention...the one "compliment" I get from guys a lot is...wow, you are one healthy looking woman! Like yeah, I feel like that compliment is better suited for a horse instead of a feminine woman when a guy says that to me. Im an adorable petite little lady trapped in a amazonian giantess' body.
But you know what? I wouldnt trade that for anything. I like being tall. Just wish that being tall didnt equate to people having the darnest things to say. "WOW youre TALL!" Ya dont say.
Okay that was the best post ever! I just totally lol'd for real at my desk. Seriously though, who says that? "you are a healthy looking woman" That is just dumb!
I get all the time "have you grown?" I am like "No, I am 31 years old, of course I haven't grown. Really haven't grown since I was 17 years old." Their response is that they don't remember me being so tall. I don't know what to think about that.
And I also hate when people short change me. I am 6'6" and they say you are like 6'2" right? How can people be that off? Maybe to them it isn't that big of a difference but that would be like me asking a guy who is 5'11" if he was 5'7" big difference to me.0 -
azulvioleta6 wrote: »I can only think of one person that I have rejected for height--he was WAY too short to dance with me--dancing is a pretty important part of my social life. If we had a ton in common or he had been an extraordinary person in some other way, it wouldn't have mattered.
I'm pretty tall, so most of the people I've been with are shorter than I am.
Yes, I think that making height a major factor in deciding who to date is shallow. Getting angry at other couples because of their height differential is just strange.
Definition of shallow; Judging a person based strictly on looks, not factoring in their personality whatsoever.
So when someone says 'oh I am really attracted to redheads' or 'I find blue eyes attractive' that must be shallow too? Just because I find tall women attractive doesn't make it a shallow. Never said I only date tall girls no matter their personality, just that I made dating tall girls one of my preferences...
You seem a bit quick to judge someone being shallow.
Eh, I dont see it as shallow at all. Like, I think its perfectly reasonable for me to say I prefer a guy who is at least my height, though Id love a man who is 6'1" and over so that I can wear heels without towering over him. Just...would be nice to feel like Im out with my MAN and not out with my son, who I have to bend down to kiss.
Then again, I have a raging thing for blond blue nordic like guys...soooo, maybe Im shallow? Blame my hormones for that, cause I swear, the feelings I get when I cross paths with one of em is not a reaction I can control
ANYWAY! Im 5'10" and yeah, Im always the giantess... my friends even joke I cant stand next to them when we go out and wearing heels, because all anyone can see is me...making me the worst wing woman everrr LoL!
Not to mention...the one "compliment" I get from guys a lot is...wow, you are one healthy looking woman! Like yeah, I feel like that compliment is better suited for a horse instead of a feminine woman when a guy says that to me. Im an adorable petite little lady trapped in a amazonian giantess' body.
But you know what? I wouldnt trade that for anything. I like being tall. Just wish that being tall didnt equate to people having the darnest things to say. "WOW youre TALL!" Ya dont say.
I'm 6'4" blue eyed and willing dye my hair more blond than it is. Let's meet up.
Jk im married.
When I was single, I always found I had better luck with tall women, as they all want a man taller than them. Lol0 -
As an average 5'5 woman, I am JEALOUS as hell of tall women. They are beautiful and look so strong. They also get to eat more, lol.0
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nuttynanners wrote: »As an average 5'5 woman, I am JEALOUS as hell of tall women. They are beautiful and look so strong. They also get to eat more, lol.
I am 5'11, and I'm not a fan of being super tall, but the food thing is awesome.0 -
Feeling you guys so much! Were I am from seems to be the land of tiny people. I'm even a good three inches taller than my older brother! Played sports and was very active when I was younger so, could rock that hardbodied amazon frame. 8 years, a sysadmin job, and less than ideal apartment with no walking areas later - thats not there. Hardbody is now a thick one, if you will. Hoping that calorie counting will pull down some weight and hitting the gym pushes it along.
At 5'10" about 225/230 feels like I still have a long way to go."Dragn77 wrote:
Eh, I dont see it as shallow at all. Like, I think its perfectly reasonable for me to say I prefer a guy who is at least my height, though Id love a man who is 6'1" and over so that I can wear heels without towering over him. Just...would be nice to feel like Im out with my MAN and not out with my son, who I have to bend down to kiss.
Then again, I have a raging thing for blond blue nordic like guys...soooo, maybe Im shallow? Blame my hormones for that, cause I swear, the feelings I get when I cross paths with one of em is not a reaction I can control
ANYWAY! Im 5'10" and yeah, Im always the giantess... my friends even joke I cant stand next to them when we go out and wearing heels, because all anyone can see is me...making me the worst wing woman everrr LoL!
Not to mention...the one "compliment" I get from guys a lot is...wow, you are one healthy looking woman! Like yeah, I feel like that compliment is better suited for a horse instead of a feminine woman when a guy says that to me. Im an adorable petite little lady trapped in a amazonian giantess' body.
But you know what? I wouldnt trade that for anything. I like being tall. Just wish that being tall didnt equate to people having the darnest things to say. "WOW youre TALL!" Ya dont say.
And girl. Last time I went out, dude walked up and said
"I want to climb that mountain"
/facepalm
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6'1 238 fat as hell0
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Okay that was the best post ever! I just totally lol'd for real at my desk. Seriously though, who says that? "you are a healthy looking woman" That is just dumb!
I get all the time "have you grown?" I am like "No, I am 31 years old, of course I haven't grown. Really haven't grown since I was 17 years old." Their response is that they don't remember me being so tall. I don't know what to think about that.
And I also hate when people short change me. I am 6'6" and they say you are like 6'2" right? How can people be that off? Maybe to them it isn't that big of a difference but that would be like me asking a guy who is 5'11" if he was 5'7" big difference to me.
So glad I made your work day that much brighter! LoL And yes, guys have actually said that to me...not one, or two, but so many that I just give them a glare when I hear it. And guys get mad at me for not "taking the compliment" grrr!
I get the "you must have grown" thing too...I used to be polite about it, but now I tell people they must be shrinking in their old age. No one seems to like that!
My family likes to say "Youre so loooong!!" as if Im a piece of string or something. My whole life though, so now I just agree. I'm long.
BTW I get the opposite problem...people tell me I must be *at least* 6' tall.
Sooooooo...6'6" eh? I forgot to mention..I also like glasses and tattoos...just randomly thought Id mention that hehehe!!0 -
dougpconnell219 wrote: »
I'm 6'4" blue eyed and willing dye my hair more blond than it is. Let's meet up.
Jk im married.
When I was single, I always found I had better luck with tall women, as they all want a man taller than them. Lol
LoL! Yeah, married? Nooope! I can imagine though. When I see a tall man, Im eyeing him up and down..and then notice he has a woman somewhere close by. Y'all get snatched up way to fast!0 -
Feeling you guys so much! Were I am from seems to be the land of tiny people. I'm even a good three inches taller than my older brother! Played sports and was very active when I was younger so, could rock that hardbodied amazon frame. 8 years, a sysadmin job, and less than ideal apartment with no walking areas later - thats not there. Hardbody is now a thick one, if you will. Hoping that calorie counting will pull down some weight and hitting the gym pushes it along.
At 5'10" about 225/230 feels like I still have a long way to go.
And girl. Last time I went out, dude walked up and said
"I want to climb that mountain"
/facepalm
Yeah, I live in Miami...Latin Americans generally are rather short. Though there are exceptions, when I go outside, you can pretty much spot me a head above everyone else from a mile away.
Yup, Ive gotten the mountain, the want to drink from that tall glass of water, or tall glass of chocolate milk... or guys that come up to my chest telling me they are the perfect height for me (to do what? rest my drink on your head? I havnt said that yet...but if Im ever tipsy and annoyed enough I just might!)
Ive also had complete strangers just randomly come up to me to tell my why they could never date a woman my height...Im thinking..I didnt ask you! I didn't even notice you til sounds started coming out of your mouth! LoL Im too nice I think. Ive got all this good material in my head, but don't want to be as rude as they are being. Dont wanna stoop to their level. Get it? Stoop? Ba da bing! Okay, I know its time to stop when I laugh at my corny jokes lol0 -
I'm only 4' 27", and I carry the extra weight well enough, but I still think I fit into this thread all on my own. Most of the 30 pounds I set out to lose hangs right over my belt buckle, so big bump to the sexy when that all goes away.
I had to chuckle at a few of the height jokes / pickup lines / challenge stories in here because many of them ring so true. Back in my single days I remember being all excited any time I found a woman I could stand eye to eye with. There aren't many women over 6' tall, and most of them have been shunned by the shorter men. Here's me moving in for the kill...
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I probably just make the cut to be considered "tall" but I'm 5'8 and 191 lbs.0
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I feel huge next to 80% of women, and I am bigger than most of the men that I know as well.
I feel you! Especially being taller than men, sigh. It's so limiting for dating prospects. But you know what? Tall women really rev some people's engines. The whole long beautiful legs, looking like a statuesque Goddess thing.
Being tall can be really amazing if you let it. Embrace it, because it's you!0 -
I have always felt like the hugest person in the room and hated being tall!!! I've always wished I was small, petite, dainty, and cute. I don't know why but I associate femininity with being petite, so I've always felt like I seem more masculine? If that makes sense.
I'm 5'10 and started at 234.2lbs. I'm down to 163 now. I am definitely feeling better about my height since I've lost weight. I don't feel like I can crush people so easily now lol.
And I 100% agree with the tall men thing. Shortness was a deal breaker for me lol.0 -
Oh my gosh yes. I'm 5'10". Granted, I was huge when I started (381). Currently 239. I'm starting to get used to shopping smaller sizes and being able to see clothes (on the rack) and know they will be way too big. But I still feel so much bigger than everybody else. I weigh less than one sister now and wear the same size as another one… but I look at myself and think that it can't possibly be right. I feel like I look so much bigger. I'm sure it's a combination of height and the fact that my brain hasn't quite caught up to my body yet.0
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I'm 5'8'', and I have 40lbs left to lose. I have big everything. My hands and fingers are too big for cheap trendy rings, bracelets and clocks. My feet are at the upper end of shoe sizes, so it's hard to find shoes. My head is big -> finding sunglasses and headbands that don't give me a headache is hard. My boobs are huge (they are). On top of that, I'm fat. It's ridiculous. The upside is that most people don't really think I'm fat.
I recently took a picture with a friend, who is literally a foot shorter than me, and very slim, even considering her height. I look like a freakin' whale next to her.0 -
I'm 5'8.5 (1m74) and 190 (86.3 kg) and sometimes I feel use and sometimes I don't. It depends where I am. Being French-Canadian over there I'm much taller than most women and a lot of men! Now that I live very close to the Netherlands I actually don't feel that big anymore. I guess it's all relative.
I'm trying to not lose perspective and remember that I used to be 250 pounds.0 -
Yeah, its totally relative to who you are around too. Like, if I were 5'8", Id still be considered tall around here. Not to the extent that people would look at me like Im a freak of nature like they do now LoL! But, still taller than norm.
When go to the midwest..or when Im in Europe, I blend right in since the people on average are closer to my height. I crack up though, on dating sites here where guys are like, "Im 6' tall ladies, so feel free to wear your heels!" and Im like dude, If I wore heels Id be taller than you. LoL Unless he's wearing dress shoes, then we'd be the same height.0 -
I'm 6ft & at my peak was 310lbs. Currently around 245lbs so still a way to go but yes, tall, fat & large framed.
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Yeah, its totally relative to who you are around too. Like, if I were 5'8", Id still be considered tall around here. Not to the extent that people would look at me like Im a freak of nature like they do now LoL! But, still taller than norm.
When go to the midwest..or when Im in Europe, I blend right in since the people on average are closer to my height. I crack up though, on dating sites here where guys are like, "Im 6' tall ladies, so feel free to wear your heels!" and Im like dude, If I wore heels Id be taller than you. LoL Unless he's wearing dress shoes, then we'd be the same height.
Some people are just rude! In what world is staring at a stranger appropriate! I had a female colleague, she was 6'7. I've never seen a woman so tall, but I never mentioned her height to her unless it was appropriate in the topic. I figured she must have heard all the comments 1000 times before.0 -
I am 5'10" and currently 183. I spent most of my young adult life at 145lbs. once I started being stupid and "dieting" I went down to 130 and looked like a skeleton. But that started my yo yo of up and down. I have gotten up to 194 and have worked my way down over and over again but can not seem to get down past 170.
I felt good at 170 and was happy. But once again I slacked off and gained up to 184 again. I am here again.
I have always felt HUGE. Even my sisters at 5'4 and 5'3". My own bother is only 5'10". BUT good news the next generation is very tall! I work at a hospital and it seems all the young girls now are over 5'8" in majority and the boys are well over 6'.
I know its hard but keep on plugging away!0 -
I feel you! Especially being taller than men, sigh. It's so limiting for dating prospects. But you know what? Tall women really rev some people's engines. The whole long beautiful legs, looking like a statuesque Goddess thing.
Being tall can be really amazing if you let it. Embrace it, because it's you!
What she said. For Sure.0 -
You sound like me @hubkal !! I too was 145 throughout my youth. I always got teased for looking long and lanky lol - oh, except during and after my military years...not just tall, but muscular. Screw all that women never can look muscular thing..I had strangers asking me to flex and wanting to touch my arms. Now that sucked - so I didnt try to lose until I got into the upper 150's...just trying to get back down to 145, and then somehow my weight went in the wrong direction! Couldnt get out of the 170s in my early 30s, and now in my late 30's, stuck in the 190s.
Oh I'm so used to it now @Judiness101 and dont think people mean to be rude, just mostly in awe. ...Already by the end of elementary, I was the same height as my teachers, and have been 5'10" since I was 13 (when I thankfully stopped growing!) Honestly cant remember any time of my life where my height wasnt a big deal. I get annoyed mostly cause I *have* heard it all ad nauseum. Id actually be impressed if someone was clever enough to come up with someone new! LoL0 -
lawlifehanna wrote: »I'm 5'8'', and I have 40lbs left to lose. I have big everything. My hands and fingers are too big for cheap trendy rings, bracelets and clocks. My feet are at the upper end of shoe sizes, so it's hard to find shoes. My head is big -> finding sunglasses and headbands that don't give me a headache is hard. My boobs are huge (they are). On top of that, I'm fat. It's ridiculous. The upside is that most people don't really think I'm fat.
I recently took a picture with a friend, who is literally a foot shorter than me, and very slim, even considering her height. I look like a freakin' whale next to her.
I am a size 16 shoe...try finding those in the store. Not happening. I feel your pain on that one for sure.0 -
I am 5'10" and currently 183. I spent most of my young adult life at 145lbs. once I started being stupid and "dieting" I went down to 130 and looked like a skeleton. But that started my yo yo of up and down. I have gotten up to 194 and have worked my way down over and over again but can not seem to get down past 170.
I felt good at 170 and was happy. But once again I slacked off and gained up to 184 again. I am here again.
I have always felt HUGE. Even my sisters at 5'4 and 5'3". My own bother is only 5'10". BUT good news the next generation is very tall! I work at a hospital and it seems all the young girls now are over 5'8" in majority and the boys are well over 6'.
I know its hard but keep on plugging away!
I was 190 lbs as a freshman in college. Once I quit the basketball team to pursue my education more fully (at a university as opposed to community college) I started gaining weight. Not at first, I was still working out and playing a lot of pick up games, but slowly missing those 2000 calories burns every day from practice and games caught up to me. I ended up at 20 and 250. Back then though I was able to loose it within months and was back down to 205 just from running 1-2 miles every morning and watching what I eat. Now 11 years later I am back up to 250 and have been stuck at this weight even though I watch what I eat and go to the gym daily. (damn getting older!) I just want to get fit and maintain that. So much harder to loose weight now.
On a positive for me though as a guy it is 'better' to be a considered a big guy (even though I hate that and would rather people considered me a fit guy) than it is for you ladies. I wish there was more of us tall guys around to make you feel the way you should feel, beautiful and amazing.
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I'm 6'6.5" and my starting weight on January 1st was 278 pounds. It's difficult even though I can hide my weight well, it's hard having clothes that fit well. Today I'm down to 251 pounds with a goal weight of 218. My wife is 5'2.5" tall and we have been together for 30 years.
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leahannhorton wrote: »YES YES YES! 5'11'' here. Started out at 240lbs (before I found MFP), and I'm down to 165lbs. Even at 165lbs, I still feel GIANT compared to other women. I'm hoping to hit 150lbs as my final weight.
As a total side note: I'm sure you can also relate to this: there is NOTHING I hate more than seeing a short woman with a tall man! I read somewhere once that only 18% of American men are 6'0'' or taller! It gets under my skin SO bad!
I am 5'2" and married a guy who is 6'4".. evidently you would hate me just on principle... seems a little shallow to me.
I didnt know that height should be a factor in relationships.
You tell em babygirl. Lol0 -
I am 5'10" and currently 183. I spent most of my young adult life at 145lbs. once I started being stupid and "dieting" I went down to 130 and looked like a skeleton. But that started my yo yo of up and down. I have gotten up to 194 and have worked my way down over and over again but can not seem to get down past 170.
I felt good at 170 and was happy. But once again I slacked off and gained up to 184 again. I am here again.
I have always felt HUGE. Even my sisters at 5'4 and 5'3". My own bother is only 5'10". BUT good news the next generation is very tall! I work at a hospital and it seems all the young girls now are over 5'8" in majority and the boys are well over 6'.
I know its hard but keep on plugging away!
I was 190 lbs as a freshman in college. Once I quit the basketball team to pursue my education more fully (at a university as opposed to community college) I started gaining weight. Not at first, I was still working out and playing a lot of pick up games, but slowly missing those 2000 calories burns every day from practice and games caught up to me. I ended up at 20 and 250. Back then though I was able to loose it within months and was back down to 205 just from running 1-2 miles every morning and watching what I eat. Now 11 years later I am back up to 250 and have been stuck at this weight even though I watch what I eat and go to the gym daily. (damn getting older!) I just want to get fit and maintain that. So much harder to loose weight now.
On a positive for me though as a guy it is 'better' to be a considered a big guy (even though I hate that and would rather people considered me a fit guy) than it is for you ladies. I wish there was more of us tall guys around to make you feel the way you should feel, beautiful and amazing.
Tall girls rock!
That is such an incredibly sweet thing to say!!! Yeah, I too wish there were more taller men to go around. It would be great to feel feminine and beautiful instead of so huge and looming!!!0
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