What's YOUR weakness when it comes to the opposite gender?

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  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    I'm just merely sharing what I tend to like overall (my weakness). Just like people who say blue eyes, big arms, big butt etc etc. I mean no offense to others types or to say I don't like other types.

    First, I'm not offended. That is completely missing the point of my initial reply. Rather I offered you an educational opportunity so that you are less likely to offend women with heritage from the continent of Asia.

    Blue eyes, big arms, big butts (heck, even cufflinks) are fetishes but they are not race-based.

    Now, if you - and whomever is liking your posts - are offended by this clarification, that's a whole other can of worms: being offended when being called out (gently, may I add) after having said something offensive.

    Good luck out there, kid ✌🏿

    “The main problem with white women is they’ve become too feminist” for the far right, Lim writes. “By contrast, Asian women are seen as naturally inclined to serve men sexually and are also thought of as slim, light-skinned and small, in adherence to Western norms of femininity.”

    By far, some of the most profound statements I've seen in a hot minute. This was a great article. Thank you.
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    a strong independent woman
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,230 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Asians 🤯 ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see 😫

    😕 Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.

    Do you know the guy personally? Do you know if he has assumed fetish?

  • PaperDoll_
    PaperDoll_ Posts: 32,026 Member
    lx1x wrote: »
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Asians 🤯 ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see 😫

    😕 Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.

    Do you know the guy personally? Do you know if he has assumed fetish?

    Filipinos 😍
  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,587 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Asians 🤯 ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see 😫

    😕 Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.

    Don't get wrong, article was definitely educational in many ways I appreciated the article for what it is but I honestly think it could have been shared elsewhere without having it attached to this particular posters reply to his weaknesses.

    Yeah I get you...

    I have a friend who says all the time, for him, she's gotta be Asian... And he's not a creep, he's a pretty good Dude...

    But we grew up in the same city and it was just what all the boys were into I guess back then... Some of us grew out of preference like this, while others possibly not I guess 🤷🏽‍♂️...

    It's not due to any perverse stereotype like this article suggests and just comes down to varying other factors...
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,287 Member
    lx1x wrote: »
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Asians 🤯 ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see 😫

    😕 Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.

    Do you know the guy personally? Do you know if he has assumed fetish?

    And here I thought this was peacefully quashed several minutes ago. But if we insist on another round discussing the appropriateness of having a fetish, romantic preference or any other affection based on solely race then here's an ally 🤷🏿‍♀️...

    In Defense of Asian Romantic Preference
    https://doi.org/10.5840/ijap2019211110

    Lest the claim becomes I'm not objective (not that I need to be). It has a DOI reference in a journal so it MUST be valid.

    In all seriousness, I'm not here to speak on behalf of all Asian women, so if you're interested in finding out if this preference is offensive then be curious and open-minded to do your own due diligence when presented with a new idea or construct. Especially one that may make you uncomfortable or has the possibility of making others uncomfortable:

    * educate yourself on the matter in question using critical thinking skills
    * have respectful, compassionate conversation with the people of concern that involves more active listening than defensive talking, and otherwise
    * be humble about the fact one's affections are not always reciprocated or considered complimentary to another person (or group of people).
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,230 Member
    edited July 2020
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    lx1x wrote: »
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Asians 🤯 ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see 😫

    😕 Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.

    Do you know the guy personally? Do you know if he has assumed fetish?

    And here I thought this was peacefully quashed several minutes ago. But if we insist on another round discussing the appropriateness of having a fetish, romantic preference or any other affection based on solely race then here's an ally 🤷🏿‍♀️...

    In Defense of Asian Romantic Preference
    https://doi.org/10.5840/ijap2019211110

    Lest the claim becomes I'm not objective (not that I need to be). It has a DOI reference in a journal so it MUST be valid.

    In all seriousness, I'm not here to speak on behalf of all Asian women, so if you're interested in finding out if this preference is offensive then be curious and open-minded to do your own due diligence when presented with a new idea or construct. Especially one that may make you uncomfortable or has the possibility of making others uncomfortable:

    * educate yourself on the matter in question using critical thinking skills
    * have respectful, compassionate conversation with the people of concern that involves more active listening than defensive talking, and otherwise
    * be humble about the fact one's affections are not always reciprocated or considered complimentary to another person (or group of people).

    I don't need education. I'm Asian and have female relatives.. you painting that all whites only seek Asian or other race other than theirs for a fetish is bs. Unless you can prove the person is such a person.. DO NOT ASSUME!

  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,287 Member
    edited July 2020
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Asians 🤯 ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see 😫

    😕 Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.

    Don't get wrong, article was definitely educational in many ways I appreciated the article for what it is but I honestly think it could have been shared elsewhere without having it attached to this particular posters reply to his weaknesses.

    Point taken, hug given. I don't message/friend on MFP though and had I thought my comment would potentially derail a generally cute thread perhaps I *may* have reconsidered.

    Some topics though, should not be left unaddressed. That said, I do commend @fitnessjustin01 for his balanced response.
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 21,734 Member
    I must be out of the loop ,, He likes Asian Women ! Why is that a fetish ?
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    a strong independent woman with fetishes
  • iMago wrote: »
    a strong independent woman with fetishes

    based on what though?
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    a strong independent woman with fetishes

    based on what though?

    not sure yet where the line is ill have to get back to you on that one
  • iMago wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    a strong independent woman with fetishes

    based on what though?

    not sure yet where the line is ill have to get back to you on that one

    Watch this space!
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,287 Member
    lx1x wrote: »
    I don't need education. I'm Asian and have female relatives.. you painting that all whites only seek Asian or other race other than theirs for a fetish is bs. Unless you can prove the person is such a person.. DO NOT ASSUME!

    Interesting since, by the same token, I would not assume the ability to speak on behalf of all of the African diaspora or those living on the continent. 🤷🏿‍♀️

    Also reread my initial reply, I was speaking to one person (who has long since replied) and not all men who identify as white. Nor did I speak on behalf of everyone who identifies as Asian.

    You can make this about me but I'm unphased.

    My initial intention is the same as the current one: sharing the POV of some women who have consistently felt objectfied. Does that mean a women? No.

    This topic has been ongoing in people of color (POC) communities for generations. Let's not pretend I invented it or surfaced it from nowhere.

    Why bringing it up gets folks riled is quite the curiosity indeed.

    But, I've been ready to get this thread back on track two hours ago so speaking of fetishes...
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,287 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    a strong independent woman with fetishes

    Do cufflinks count? Asking for a friend.
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,230 Member
    🥱
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    a strong independent woman with fetishes

    Do cufflinks count? Asking for a friend.

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  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,538 MFP Moderator
    edited July 2020
    Dear Posters,

    This thread has touched on a sensitive topic, but I also think you guys are doing a good job trying to get your points of views across in a respectful manor. Please continue to be thoughtful in your responses. If you feel anything breaks guidelines please feel free to report it to the moderator team, or if you disagree with my choice to leave this discussion open please PM me.

    Thanks for your cooperation,
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  • Tonydevolanii
    Tonydevolanii Posts: 658 Member
    Trimmed feet nails, painted green and blue with a rainbow effect