it's so hard

jcpastry14

It's so hard for me not to go over my daily goal. By the time I reach it, it's lunch time, and when it's dinner I'm too hungry to turn anything down.

And when things get too tough, I close MFP app and eat like I always do. But it's not healthy and I feel so guilty and jealous of all the dedicated people on here who do it all without flinching.

I guess what I'm looking for is support, because everyone in my life isn't taking my goals seriously.

ndj1979

what is your daily goal???

suruda

it IS hard...every day. that's why we are here though, for support and encouragement. Read through the success stories and see how others have gotten through it. I try and eat low cal breakfasts and snacks...and nutrient dense. For me, high protein and lower carb keeps me full. things like eggs, cottage cheese, and greek yogurt are my breakfast go tos. I pack snacks...typically a cut up apple and some veggies that I like. I'll grab some soup or chicken for lunch to go with the veggies and fruit. Then I still have half or more of my calories left for dinner and evening snacks.

You just need to start and find your groove. I know I do the same thing when I think I'm not doing well...stop tracking and stop weighing myself. Go ahead and track a day that you think you go over, maybe you'll see that with just a couple of modifications you can stay within your calories and still feel satisfied. :-) We've all been there and often still have tough days, I feel for you!

LoadedM6Tina

I lost 40 pounds with the help of MFP but I gained 20 back when I stopped keeping track. Now I'm 9 pounds from losing that 20 again so I will be back on track. This time I changed EVERYTHING that I have been eating. I do NOT say to myself, "Healthy food is too expensive." I say, "Why is junk food so cheap?" I can tell you literally everything I ate in the past three weeks and I can tell you everything I am going to eat in the next three weeks. There are occasions where I say, "I don't feel like eggs this morning. I'll do a waffle (one) with peanut butter and blueberries instead. I eat about 6-7 times a day so I'm constantly shoving food in my mouth but it's healthy food. I NEVER ate tofu before but now I have tofu stir fry and it's really filling for me and I have leftovers for lunch the next day. My calorie goal for a day is 1470. Today I went over by 10 calories. I had my waffle taco, a large red grapefruit (which I have always hated), 15 carrots with hummus, a turkey wrap, two oranges, 13 almonds, greek yogurt, tofu stir fry and a skinny cow ice cream sandwich for dessert. I drink a glass of water to get my digestive system running in the morning and drink water all day. I do not drink tea, coffee or anything like that. I want to like tea but I feel that I'm just ruining my water when I drink it. I was STARVING towards the end of my work day but I thought, "I'm not going to ruin what I've been working so hard for just so I can eat." I waited until I got home and now I'm full! We ALL struggle because everyone on this site has an unhealthy relationship with food. This is where we try to help each other stay focused. If you'd like to know some of the other things I eat, let me know. I have a pretty rigid plan and it's really working for me. I also weigh myself everyday. I like to see what I weigh so I can gauge when I need to cut back or if I need to exercise more. Good Luck!

vanessangonzalez

Oh honey. I think most of us here have been just where you are. I've been logging 46 days and it's the longest I've ever gone! And I have days when I feel down and discouraged. But there are days when I feel really good. Just commit to logging and reflect on what you are the day before. That's helped me. I can look at my diary and see what I shouldn't have had or had less of. I think the key is logging it all. Even if you go over 5,000 calories...log it! I remember being so mad in the beginning. Pissed because I had to think about what I was eating or was going to eat later. And I'd blame everyone (mostly my husband) instead of taking responsibility for what I'd put in my mouth. When I'd eat all my calories by lunch I would be angry eating my dinner. And then think, oh well, I'm over anyway may as well eat whatever. It was ridiculous. But I kept logging. And posting how I was feeling that day. The good and the bad. It's a mental battle. A fight within yourself. You can do this. Don't give up. Keep that app open. Look at it everyday. It will get better. You will get better. Good luck!

AmyRhubarb

ndj1979 wrote: »

what is your daily goal???

That would be my question as well. If you're blowing through your calories before lunchtime, your goal is likely to low to begin with. I see by your ticker on your page that your goal is to lose 10 pounds? If so, then you shouldn't have a super low goal - you want a small calorie deficit from what your body burns all day long.

But difficult to offer real advice without knowing more about you, your goals, etc.

Is weight loss hard? Not really, but learning new habits and setting aside old ones can be a bit of a struggle at first. It takes time to learn how to eat well, and to form healthy habits for both eating and exercise.

musicandarts

If you make your diary public, we can give you concrete ideas. Perhaps you are trying to do too much. As Amy points out above, we have to re-learn a lot of things. For me, these were: eating out of boredom, snacking, eating late at night etc.

In the early days, I put a lock on the refrigerator and handed the keys to my wife. Even now, I have a monthly calendar on my fridge, and I get a smiley face on days when I am good and a piggy sticker when I eat more than my target. My daughter gets a kick out these.