just depressed, need motivation /:

crumbliss2010

introducing myself
hey my name is Amber and i am 21 almost 22 years old and struggling with loosing weight. currently i weigh 299ibs and i am at a pants size of 24. i am tired of being a big girl and feeling emberassed when i go shopping for pants or shorts. i WANT to be able to go to a store and not worry about them not having my size. ive been trying to loose weight 3 weeks now and ive lost almost 11ibs. but i dont have my motivation anymore. i feel like i have no support from my family or friends. i started off great but my family doesnt support me and i want to finally show them that i can loose weight. my goal will first start off at being 250ibs by Christmas. i NEED support and MOTIVATION to get through this. i dont want to feel alone anymore.

determinedbutlazy

11lbs is AMAZING. Add me for support.

You need to realise that YOU are doing a great thing. You are taking control of your body and changing your mindset. You are going to become physically and mentally stronger than you have EVER been.

Your body is going to do what YOU tell it from now on.
You want to make it run? YOU CAN.
You want to pick up heavy s**t and put it back down? YOU CAN.
You want to fit into off-the-peg jeans? YOU CAN.

The only one who can take control is you. It doesn't matter who tries to put you down or how many setbacks you have (there will be plenty of both) because you. can. do. it.

If you want it hard enough, you will smash those emotional barriers. I went through the same thing and I still think like that sometimes... I still doubt myself.... I'm still not "good enough". But I damn well get out there and do it, because I know I'm the only one who can change it.

Don't pity yourself. Love yourself. Eat properly, sleep, move. Don't just think you can do it, KNOW you can. Set goals and smash the **** out of them.

boberrymom

You aren't alone

You totally can do it but you have to believe in yourself. You already made the decision to get healthy and that's a huge step. Take it day by day and hour by hour if you have to. It takes at least 3 weeks to develop a habit so you are right on that cusp so don't give up, you are so close to making it stick better. Make small changes each week and those small changes will lead to big changes. Take a piece of paper and write down 1 or 2 small goals that you want to work on just this week, keep that list posted for yourself to see and check them off as you go. If you don't hit your goals for the week, reevaluate the goals and see what you can change to meet them the next week or change them to a different goal that you want to focus on for that week. You can do it

**hugs** Hang on sweetie and keep going.

mrsstevenson99

Hi, Amber,

I'm Misty. I'm a stay at home, homeschooling mom to four kiddos. I am working on losing about 100ish pounds...and it's coming off slowly. Feel free to friend me!

Misty

twinkiemon

I'll send you a friend request - I started at 273 and I've lost 32 lbs so far - MFP is a pretty great place and it keeps me motivated knowing my friends on here want to hear about my progress and will help keep me on track. I totally understand where you are and you've done a great job in 3 weeks! I think your goal of 250 is do-able. As for your family and friends - make that your motivation - SHOW THEM you are serious about losing weight. Once the weight starts coming off they'll sit up and take notice and likely start cheering you on. When I lost 45lbs and got down to a size 12 about 6 or 7 years ago the thing that started it was a comment from my friend after I said "I'm gonna start my diet tomorrow" and she basically reamed me a new one saying "You always say tomorrow and you never do it and you're never going to do it." And I got so mad that I did it and when she came to visit two months after that comment it was "Wow! You've lost weight!" and I continued to lose until I looked pretty hot IMO. (I obviously didn't keep it off - I fully intend to this time!)

I'll tell you something honest - I'm 31 years old and I spent the majority of my 20's being overweight - lose it now; it will be a LOT easier to do it now than to try again in a decade. I feel like I could have done so many things in my 20's and think about all the cute clothes I could have worn... maybe I would have even been married by now if I'd been in shape and looked better. Do it now! I promise I will help keep you motivated and on track!

Dynamis600

Hi Crumbliss you are not alone. I suggest that you join oneof the groups that have alot to lose and get some support from those in the same boat as you. It is hard when you don't have support at home but not impossible. I have lost 43lbs over the last 11 months with breaks because my life can be stressful at times with my son who has autism, and it takes energy and planning to lose weight. What I have found is that you have to work out what is preventing yourself from losing. For me it has been eating my emotions, instead of pushing them down with food I embrace them good or bad they are mine and I try to work through them now and don't make it things worse than they are. Sometimes writing them down on paper can make me see things from a different perspective and work things out other times exercise can make me feel a lot better. The other thing is I realised that my ability to lose weight was cyclical. I can lose for the first 3 weeks of my cycle and then the self-consciousness hits the sugar cravings hit and I gaveinto them, I had to find ways to help with this, like chewing sugar free gum, and looking at supplements like chromium to help with this,I can also at this time put on 7lbs within a few days I find magnesium and calcium helps with this but instead of beating myself up about it like I used to I now realise it's fluid because hey I would have to eat 24000 cals over my maintnance cals to put that much wieght on. Anyway enough about me look at what is happening with you as regard to weight loss and look for ways to overcome them and above all be kind to yourself you didn't put the weight on overnight so it's going to take a while to come off. Slow and steady is the way and if you have one "bad" day well it isn't going to hurt that much unless it turns into two, forgive yourself and begin again the next day. All the best and I would be happy to support you if you wish to add me as a friend.