Starting a family... how long did it take?

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  • vickierivero1
    vickierivero1 Posts: 46 Member
    My fiance and I have been trying for a year with no such luck. The Doc told me to wait a year after trying and then she could possibly prescribe Clomid to help. I have no idea what the deal is. I have one daughter who is now almost 6. I bought some Fertil Aid off a website. There is also some meds for men to help to that is supposed to be all natural. I didn't finish the Fertil Aid. I will be speaking with my OB soon to see about getting some help with this. I suggest that the 2 of you talk to her OB. :) Baby Dust...
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    6 months after getting married my husband and I decided to start trying, and I went off the pill. 6 weeks later I was knocked up with our first. Three years later we tried for our second, and 8 weeks into trying I'm pregnant again. Woo, 2 for 2, b!tches! :p I'm pretty happy about it, since endocrinologists my entire childhood were telling me I'd probably be sterile, or at the very least need IVF or an egg doner.
  • jennifermcornett
    jennifermcornett Posts: 159 Member
    edited March 2015
    I went off the pill for two months and used condoms, and then the first month we actually tried, it happened. We had sex 1-3 times every single day that month, so we didn't have to worry about any magic window of opportunity. I'm 31, he's 32, and this is our first child. We were lucky, I know. I hope you are able to relax and start your family soon! :)
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    22 months with my firstborn, about 6 weeks with my second.
  • NerdieMcChub
    NerdieMcChub Posts: 153 Member
    Our first took a while... maybe 2 years. 2nd came around first time doing the nasty after my first was born. Third took about 2 years as well. I'm pregnant now with our 4th and our son is 18 months old.
  • jbrownnolan
    jbrownnolan Posts: 72 Member
    First Pregnancy - Took the wrong medication, threw off my BC pills and got pregnant without trying

    Second Pregnancy - Took 6 months off of BC pills

    Third Pregnancy - Took 2 weeks off BC pills (ended up being an invalid pregnancy, hormones present, sac and fluids present, no baby, discovered at my first ultrasound)

    Forth (and last) Pregnancy - Took almost 10 months, very frustrating since I had done this 3 times before.

    Bodies will do what they are ready to do when they are ready to do them. Just keep patient and positive :smile: Good Luck to you



  • wheezeybouncer
    wheezeybouncer Posts: 122 Member
    5yrs for #1
    2mos I think it was for #2 (22mos between them)
    3yrs for #3
    #4 isn't off the cards but hasn't happened and we're not actively trying- #3 is 6 now. I don't get pregnant easily.
  • veganbaum
    veganbaum Posts: 1,865 Member
    TJ_Rugger wrote: »
    Thank you all for your posts and experiences. She does monitor her cycle and it has been about 8-9 months since we have been trying. I would say that she had been on the pill since college (we’re 31 & 30 right now) and about 9-10 months ago she stopped the pill and we were using condoms for about 2 months to let the pill get out of her system.

    But she has also been wondering if her stress is also making it more difficult… Each month she keeps apologizing and I keep telling her that she has no reason to apologize and “Hell sweetie… maybe it’s me. It's ok, now just 'more sex yeah!'” I do think though the stress might be part of it.

    But thanks again for all of your honest answers!

    Monitoring her cycle alone may not mean much for her, if all she's doing is counting days to determine ovulation. She may want to start tracking her basal body temp, and perhaps also her cervical mucus, if she's not doing either - but also, lay off the stress.

    You could both check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, which goes into detail about tracking fertility, for the purpose of avoiding pregnancy or becoming pregnant.
  • whatatime2befit
    whatatime2befit Posts: 625 Member
    1st took a year. We had actually gone to our first doctors spot to see about getting some tests done when I finally conceived .
    Babies 2 & 3 a month
  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
    The best part of starting a family is the practicing. I think it took three times for us. Sad face.
  • purplemystra
    purplemystra Posts: 159 Member
    May I suggested a great book that helped me "Taking Charge of your Fertility" . My husband and I new the issues we had but couldn't afford fertility drugs or procedures. This book helped me a lot. I conceived 2 months after utilizing what I learned form this book. Good luck.
  • tincanonastring
    tincanonastring Posts: 3,944 Member
    First shot for our oldest kid; literally the first time in 8 years that we had sex for the purpose of procreation. I'm so glad we were careful before that. The second one took a total of about 6 months divided in half by a month off while we recovered from a miscarriage.
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
    My husband and I were like rabbits. Got pregnant right away after being married for 4 months...the pill did not agree with me and we were using "protection" - well that only works when you use it. For me, we could go 30 times using the "protection" and that ONE time that you didn't have the protection handy...yup. I got pregnant "by accident" three times...on purpose only once. Had 1 miscarriage... Fortunately we "caught on" by the time I was in my 4th pregnancy in about 5 year's time....I had my tubes tied. LOL
  • wizzybeth
    wizzybeth Posts: 3,578 Member
    SarahKhristan wrote: »
    It took my husband and I about 6 months to get pregnant. We're lucky, as I know some people who have taken years (and I envy my friends who can get pregnant simply looking at one another).

    It's hard to hear "relax and enjoy the process" when you want to start a family. There's something incredibly sad about having a late cycle and hoping...only to be disappointed and depressed when you're not pregnant.

    Wishing you both luck and fun!

    Errr, no. That caused us much stress, turmoil, fear, annoyance at being careless once again...

    I remember talking to the lady at the hospital about having my tubes tied. I'm not Catholic but I was at a Catholic hospital. Naturally I was ignorant of their stand on birth control. The lady asked me "Why do you want to have your tubes tied?" And I said something along the lines of "If I get pregnant again, someone WILL get hurt and I will probably end up in jail."

    She referred me out to an outpatient center to have the procedure done. LOL
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    A month or 2. Way too easily, but I was pretty young.
  • Derpes
    Derpes Posts: 2,033 Member
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  • TJ_Rugger
    TJ_Rugger Posts: 166 Member
    Derpes wrote: »
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    So you're telling me we are not drunk and high enough.... or is it because I don't have the "chubby Jew-fro" look going on?
  • CObluegrass
    CObluegrass Posts: 61 Member
    after 3.5 years of trying, we gave up. A month later, we were pregnant.
  • gbel1975
    gbel1975 Posts: 86 Member
    It's different for every couple. I don't think you can compare one to the other.

    We have three kids. For us it took only one attempt to conceive each one of them. Some call us lucky. I feel like I got gypped.
  • raspberryk
    raspberryk Posts: 39 Member
    First was 3rd month off the pill, 1st menstrual cycle. Second was an accident from sex once in that month and ended in miscarriage, third was 6 weeks after the miscarriage.

    I say have a few drinks and stop scheduling your baby dancing and it'll probably happen.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Not going to be helpful to you.

    We were actually not trying to get pregnant and it happened anyway... about 2 months of daily sexual activity and 1 contraceptive failure at just the right time.
    There was always a bit of fear after that but no more pregnancies during the following 3 years. Dh had a vasectomy about 12 years ago so it isn't going to happen.

    Good luck to you though.
  • maillemaker
    maillemaker Posts: 1,253 Member
    We had sex 1-3 times every single day that month, so we didn't have to worry about any magic window of opportunity.

    I applaud your enthusiasm! :wink:

    But the man can actually deplete his sperm reserves. When I was in college my roomies and I tried to make money donating at a sperm bank. We were only allowed to donate once every 3 days. They told us some people made enough money to have to fill out W2s!!! We were like, "Wow, they are gonna PAY US for this?!?!" Sadly none of us had a high enough count to make the cut. I guess the stress of college was killing off our troopers.
  • CObluegrass
    CObluegrass Posts: 61 Member
    AbsoluteTara79 wrote: »
    You (she) might consider reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I'm not sure how closely she's monitoring cycles, but not every woman is on a perfect 28-day cycle. And given that the window of opportunity is so narrow, you could time it wrong pretty easily. This books explains the cycle is great detail and helps you understand what other cues to look for beyond the calendar. Good luck!
    I will echo this book suggestion. My cycles were anywhere from 23 days to 156 days apart and temperature monitoring and ovulation kits weren't telling when my body was ready. This book taught me a ton about other physical signs that really helped us.
  • jusbowers
    jusbowers Posts: 75 Member
    Miscarriage after 4 years then another 6 years before a very generous donor helped us have our darling - but I did have endometriosis and lots of abdominal surgery including losing and ovary in that time
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